- Posted by Edith Ohaja
- On December 16, 2018
- 32 Comments
Christmas is usually a time of joy with lots of shopping, giving and receiving of gifts, decorations, carols, get togethers, etc. But what if you’re not feeling the joy of the season? What if it’s not been such a good year for you and all the noise and seeing so many smiling faces is making you mad rather than glad? What if you are alone and it doesn’t seem to make sense to celebrate without company?
Well, first of all, I’d like you to know that you’re not the only one feeling this way. In an article on Explore God website, Dr David Farmer observes that “sadly, what is touted as the most wonderful time of the year is, for many of us, the most dreaded time of the year. Instead of joy, love, and peace, the Christmas experience is filled with loneliness, depression, and anxiety.”
(Related: Beyond The Decorations And The Lights)
The traditions surrounding Christmas can be overwhelming for some and rather than bring joy can bring sadness at not measuring up. I suggest you draw up your schedule according to your means and physical ability, not anybody else’s. It’s okay to not to have decorations, to have less or recycle the same old stuff. It’s okay to do less than your neighbour; it’s okay to be the guest, rather than the host at Christmas parties this year. It’s even okay to sleep through most of the season if you’ve been burning the candle at both ends all year.Don't get caught in the comparison trap this Christmas season. Click To Tweet
Just don’t get caught in the comparison trap. Steer clear of the social media if you are vulnerable to the blues from seeing the beautiful things others are wearing and eating, the exciting things they are doing, the fabulous places they are visiting. Derive fulfilment in your circumstances and remember that joy is a state of mind, not an activity or possession. Therefore one can be as happy with a soda and sandwich as with a three-course meal and expensive wine. One can be as happy at home as at the most exotic holiday resort.Joy is a state of mind, not an activity or possession. Click To Tweet
Don’t also feel compelled to prove to others how joyful you are. Just be true to yourself. If something has happened to make you sad, like a bereavement, you can’t ignore it simply because it’s Christmas. Grieving is part of the healing process. Don’t embrace what happiness expert and psychologist, Dr Melissa Weinberg, calls forced positivity. This, she explains, stems from the wrong notion that we must be happy all the time and that sadness is a burden, a notion that is reinforced at festive periods like Christmas.Don't feel compelled to prove to others how joyful you are. Click To Tweet
But if your sadness is just a result of being alone, I have some suggestions of stuff you can do to handle that in the following post:
Feeling Alone This Christmas: Here Are Tips On What To Do
Whatever the case, remember the name of Jesus, the Messiah, is Emmanuel – God with us (Matthew 1:23). He is with you everyday, in the Christmas season and beyond it. As you fellowship with Him in praise and through His word, joy will bubble up from within you regardless of your circumstances. You may not be loud and boisterous about it but you won’t be feeling woebegone either.
(Related: Emmanuel – Poem and Bible Verses)
It will be a merry Christmas for you finally. It might not be everyone’s definition of merry but yours in partnership with your Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. Amen.🙂❤️🙂
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