BEST APPROACH TO DISCIPLINE III: PREREQUISITES FOR DISCIPLINE #2

Intro:
In our last segment we presented three prerequisites for discipline, namely:
1. Teaching of what’s right and what’s wrong
2. Providing an atmosphere that encourages and fosters good attitudes and behaviour
3. Delineating rewards for exceptionally good behaviour and sanctions for bad behaviour.
We now complete our list of these prerequisites.

PREREQUISITES FOR DISCIPLINE #2

4. Setting a good example: If you do not practice what you preach, you will have the hardest time ever getting people, especially the youth, to follow your precepts. Jesus had some hard words for the religious leaders who were meticulous about laying down rules but hardly kept any themselves in Luke 11:46.

“But He said, “Woe to you lawyers as well! For you weigh men down with burdens hard to bear, while you yourselves will not even touch the burdens with one of your fingers.” (New American Standard Bible)

Paul the apostle admonished Timothy to “be an example for other believers in your speech, behavior, love, faithfulness, and purity” (International Standard Version).

He was also bold to tell the Corinthian church to follow his example as he followed the example of Christ (1 Corinthians 11:1 – NIV). We should strive for the confidence to say the same to those under us.

If, on the other hand, we smoke, drink and gamble, for instance, we should not be surprised if our children or wards do the same and resist our attempts to stop them. The same goes for situations in our offices. We cannot be habitually late and expect punctuality to be our subordinates’ watchword. Nor can we pilfer our employer’s cash or property and successfully prevent others from doing so or sanction them when they do.

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5. Setting reasonable expectations: Assigning of responsibilities should take cognizance of your ward’s age, intelligence, stamina and experience. If you ask young children to handle expensive crockery, for instance, don’t blame them if they break something.

Also, do not load people down with work without respite. He who works and rests today lives to work another day. You don’t endear yourself to your merciful Father in heaven by working people around you like slaves. So even on the busiest days, make arrangements for refreshments and rest at proper intervals.

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Even in Old Testament times when slavery was practised, God insisted on the fair treatment of servants exemplified in the granting of a weekly day of rest.

“Six days thou shalt labour, and do all thy work: But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, nor thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thine ox, nor thine ass, nor any of thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates; that thy manservant and thy maidservant may rest as well as thou.” (Deuteronomy 5:13-14 King James Version)

How much more should we endeavour to make the burdens those under us have to carry bearable!

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6. Above all, let those under you know you love them and would never hurt them unnecessarily. I remember when David erred by conducting an unauthorized census of his soldiers and God sent Gad the prophet to tell him to choose from three punishment options to be executed by God or his enemies. This is what he responded in 2 Samuel 24:14:

‘”I’m in a desperate situation!’ David replied to Gad. ‘But let us fall into the hands of the LORD, for his mercy is great. Do not let me fall into human hands.'” (New Living Translation)

He trusted God’s lovingkindness so much that he preferred God directly punishing him, rather than using human beings whose cruelty can sometimes be unbelievable. We need those under us to see us like that and know that even when we are hard on them, we are only doing it because we must and for their own good. It will be great if our wards can say of us what the prophet Jeremiah said of God in Lamentations 3:33, shown here in two translations:

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“For he does not enjoy hurting people or causing them sorrow.” (New Living Translation)

“For he does not willingly bring affliction or grief to anyone.” (New International Version)

If punishment becomes inevitable, let them know that it hurts you just as much as it hurts them.

Also, treat your subordinates with dignity and respect. It doesn’t matter how young or poor they are, respect remains reciprocal. Demonstrate your concern for their welfare in the ways that God prompts you. You will thus earn their trust and obedience, perhaps, obviating the awkwardness and pain that comes from exerting punishment.

This series will continue soon with a look at the proper application of discipline. Do share your thoughts on the ideas presented so far.

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15 thoughts on “BEST APPROACH TO DISCIPLINE III: PREREQUISITES FOR DISCIPLINE #2

  1. Wow! This was amazing! I am so impressed and it’s all true! I started organizing my room this week and my little daughter helped me so much that she helped me find some important papers. As she saw my room get cleaner and cleaner, she decided to go and organize all of her toys, and she made her room spotless!
    Also, I love the story about David choosing God’s punishment over any other; it reminds me that God is a merciful and loving God, and He wants what is best for us!
    You are a gifted writer, Aunty Edith! ?

    • Hello Angela! Really glad you came by and thanks a whole lot for your affirmation of the contents of this post. I am so proud of you. You are an examplary mum, raising your kids on godly standards. I pray greater grace upon you for each day and that your family continues to give you joy and fulfilment in Jesus’ name. ??

  2. These are thoughtful words. It seems to tilt to parenting and workplace relationship. However, as a youth who intends to make a change, these prerequisites should be observed. Thank you.

  3. Really, setting an example for our wards or subordinates to follow is a wise step. We can’t say one thing and do another. How then, can we discipline them when they err?. My dad’s always going on and on about being careful and if he weren’t so careful himself it would be hard to take him seriously. Good job ma’am.

  4. Your views and points are clearly indispensable in taking effective disciplinary actions. Interesting write-up

  5. The part of sharing the house chores in the house is always adhered to by mother. Everyone is given a work based on strength and ability to do it well.

  6. This series have been highly educating so far. Especially, the last point summarized it all for me. Knowing that your leader, parent, or guardian does not delight in punishing you if you do wrong cements any doubt about whether they want your good at heart. I would rather accept correction and punishment from one who does it for my good than one who does it to ridicule me, gain approval or even because of his/her anger. Thank you Ma.

  7. This is very educational, we should not despite the poor. We should accord people with the respect that is due for them, respect is reciprocal. We should set good example for people to follow and set a good expectations for them. Share the chores or work according to their age and we should learn not to maltreat people into working all day with out food or rest. We should depict Christ’s behavior that people can emulate.

  8. We should not expect from others what we can’t give. It doesn’t speak much for our characterand it is indiscipline. We should be reasonable in our expectations from others and God would help us

  9. Living an exemplary life is easier than dishing out rules and regulations you don’t abide by.
    We can only do what we can, do not over burden yourself or anyone.

  10. “lead by example”. Don’t expect anyone to do what you couldn’t. Thank you ma for this exposition.

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