FROM BAIT TO CATCH #6 (SHORT STORY)

In the earlier episodes of this story, Sharon toyed with Raphael’s emotions. When she saw how much it hurt him, she helped to get him a job in her office, only to realise that he was outshining her on the job. She, therefore, labelled him an enemy. But the events in Episode 5 seem to be causing her hostility towards him to evaporate. Is this for real or is she just seeking a reprieve because Nnanna (her new-found love) doesn’t seem to be playing by her script? This episode shows the direction their relationship is headed.

RAPHAEL ON THE SCALES

You would think I’d be up bright and early the next morning but I wasn’t. I was giddy with excitement the previous night because I was expecting Raphael in a matter of hours.

“The same Raphael you wanted to kill the previous day?” you ask.

“Yup! The very one! And I’d appreciate if you didn’t interrupt me with questions again. You think you know how the human mind works, I don’t.”

Lol! ??? Well, moving on!

A question I’d like to answer, though, is, “What was I doing all night?” First of all, I ate as instructed by you know who. Then I settled down to watch old musicals. I went through “My Fair Lady”, (you know the one where Audrey Hepburn played an illiterate, low-class girl that was taught to speak well and enter high society) and the “King and I” (it’s always a thrill for me to watch Yul Brynner who played the King). By the time, I was through, #yawn, #yawn, and I woke up late.

I scrambled to use the bathroom. I didn’t want Raphael to see me looking dishevelled two days in a row. By the time I was done, Raphael had not arrived and it was past 9 a.m. I knew I’d be losing it soon, so I decided to calm myself down by playing a game. I brought a pen and a jotter and sat in my favourite arm chair.

But before I commenced my game, I sent a text to “Mr Nigeria” telling him I wanted us to take a break, that he just wasn’t caring enough. He replied that he was even tired of my immaturity and hypersensitivity. He also claimed that I was the selfish one. He complained that with what I earned, I still expected him to pay when we went out and that I wasn’t supportive enough of him ….

How does one argue with a guy who reasons like that and how did he know how much I earned? He’d probably done some snooping and felt dissatisfied with the amounts I was doling out. I became doubly sure that I didn’t need Nnanna in my life and let him have the last word. What did it matter, after all?

I decided to begin my game before I would be tempted to psychoanalyse Nnanna. (I mean what kind of creep digs into how much a girlfriend earns from the get-go? We’d only been going out a few weeks for crying out loud!) I didn’t even want to waste my time disputing his unjust assertions about me. I thanked God Raphael was nothing like him. And with the thought of Raphael, my face broke into a smile.

“So, what is it that I like about Raphael?” I asked myself. Soon I had a long list and if you’ve been with me from the beginning of this story you would know what was on that list. Well, I’ll give you a peep. Just a peep. He is kind, considerate, smart, handsome ….

“Well, does that mean he’s an angel?”

“Certainly not, angels don’t walk this mortal plane.”

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“So what are his flaws?” After thinking hard, I came up with this.

“He has a broken tooth.”

It’s an incisor, from an accident he had while we were students. He had wanted to change it but I told him to leave it ’cause it added extra sexiness to his smile. So, I crossed it out.

“He doesn’t know how to say, ‘No.'”

That was a valid point, I thought, so I wrote it down (all caps). Raphael is often oversubscribed. He is always willing to help everyone with the result that he hardly has time for his own stuff. That was how I became best student in his place. This is how I looked at it: It’s good to be nice but you just need to know when to pull back, especially when most of the people you’re bending over backwards to help don’t usually show appreciation.

“He’s not the tidy sort.”

I couldn’t count the number of times I put Raphael’s room in order back in school. Yet, whenever I came back, everything was disorganised again. I scolded him about it but it didn’t help, so I just arranged the place without involving him. I asked him how he could find anything in that room and he said he knew where the tiniest item was. I can’t function in a chaotic environment. Would I be able to pick up after him my life through?

As I was thinking about Point No. 3, it began to rain. Not a drizzle, it was leopards and hyenas out there in less than no time. There was no way Raphael was going to make it in that storm. So I curled up in bed, feeling sorry for myself.

What had I even been so excited about? What did I think Raphael was coming to do? Why was I jumping to conclusions like a teenager? Questions, questions! Before I caused the onset of another headache, like the previous day, I decided to do some browsing but the web pages were freezing, probably because of poor network.

What else could I do? Cook? I wasn’t so sure about that. But I was going to give it a try anyway. As I was opening the fridge, I heard some knocks on the door and I practically flew there. I just managed to stop myself and catch my breath before I yanked it open.

Sure enough, it was Raphael, all drenched. I pulled him in and led him to the bathroom.

“What in the world were you doing in that rain?” I asked, while secretly exulting that he had arrived. Then I brought him a tee-shirt and sweatsuit because he was shivering. (We are about the same height -1.78m or 5ft. 10in.- but he’s brawnier, thanks to some prpperly utilised gym time.)

“Here, take a warm bath before you catch something.”

As soon as I left him, I blew a kiss heavenwards, whispering, “I owe you one!”

If I knew how soon He’d come to collect, maybe I would have said something else. But at the time, I was on cloud nine and just spoke from my heart. Isn’t life a roller coaster? Things can go from smooth to rough in just a moment. Our lives were about to take an unwelcome twist, Raphael and I. And I hadn’t the tiniest clue.
-To be continued-
Ⓒ Edith Ugochi Ohaja 2016

What do you make of Nnanna’s text and his previous behaviour? Do you think he was in the relationship just for what he could get, with no thought of what he could do for Sharon, or do you feel his accusations were justified?
Sharon seems to have come round emotionally for Raphael, but aren’t you worried for his sake, even if just a little bit? I mean, this girl has hurt him before. If you were in his shoes, how would you pace the relationship from this point – slow or fast?
And this “game” of itemising Raphael’s strengths and flaws, kind of putting him on the scales, would you do that on a suitor or do you think it’s a calculating way of going about love?
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230 thoughts on “FROM BAIT TO CATCH #6 (SHORT STORY)

  1. A nice twist! Regarding the questions raised, I don’t see anything wrong in Raphael maintaining the fast pace of the relationship. Sharon has obviously tasted “two soups” as my people would say and as such, would better appreciate Raphael’s undying and sacrificial love for her this time. But wait o! Read Sharon’s lines: Sure enough, it was Raphael, all drenched. I pulled him in and led him to the bathroom. “What in the world were you doing in that rain?” I asked. Those lines clearly give credence to the fact that Raphael possesses a heart of gold. I mean, guys like that are more scarce than fuel in our present day Nigeria! As as for Sharon weighing her lover on a scale, I don’t see anything wrong in that provided the one doing the weighing is fair enough to acknowledge his/her own weaknesses. Of course, as can be deduced from the story so far, Sharon’s weaknesses are more than Raphael’s. I’m eagerly waiting for the next turn this highly suspenseful story would take. And while doing that, I must reaffirm that Aunty Edith is a gift to our world. Bless you, ma’am!

    • Awwww! Thank you very much, my dear Emwinromwankhoe, for your detailed response and encouraging words. I’m adding one more question that I left out earlier. You are favoured and lifted in Jesus’ name.

  2. So interesting! The suspense is killing, Aunty. Concerning Sharon and Nnanna, both of them got what they deserved because of their selfish interests. Raphael should go on a slow pace and finally for Sharon itemising Raphael’s strengths and weaknesses, if she is not careful, she might just end up losing someone that cares for her.

    • So good to hear from you, Eka-Bassey! There is this Igbo proverb that translates “when a cunning man dies, a cunning man buries him.” Sharon got someone that is even more crafty than herself in Nnanna. lols! As to the other points, let’s see how the story develops. My regards to your family, my dear, and abundant blessings on you all in Jesus’ name.

    • Thank you, Iheanyi! The end is still some ways ahead. Patience and, by God’s grace, you’ll enjoy every step of the journey. You are blessed!

  3. Hhmm. I’m just highly sentimental now. I just feel like I was present, witnessing just when Raphael came in drenched… and guess what, I’m feeling like loving someone like that over and over. Aunty, it is reaffirmed that you’re one of a kind. Shai…! Which kind touching story be this? Let me try and comport myself till when I see you in school ma. Many thanks has been won by you already. And now, to answer the questions raised,
    1. What do you make of Nnanna’s text and his previous behaviour? Do you think he was in the relationship just for what he could get, with no thought of what he could do for Sharon, or do you feel his accusations were justified? Answer: Nnanna’s reply and his behaviour to Sharon can never be justifiable because Nnanna is a mesphistophelian. He’s deadly. Why come for my wealth instead of me?
    2. Sharon seems to have come round emotionally for Raphael, but aren’t you worried for his sake, even if just a little bit? I mean, this girl has hurt him before. If you were in his shoes, how would you pace the relationship from this point – slow or fast? Answer: I think that so far, Sharon has learnt that Raphael’s love for her is unutterably unvarying and unwavering. This is why she’s just ready to give him her all. With this, if I be Raphael (no pidgin, just plain English), I’ll go even more faster, without looking back.

    • Wow! This is quite a comment, Lawrence! Glad you’re enjoying the story. And thank you very much for detailing your impressions through the questions I raised. You are awesomely blessed!

  4. 3. And this “game” of itemising Raphael’s strengths and flaws, kind of putting him on the scales, would you do that on a suitor or do you think it’s a calculating way of going
    about love? Answer: I’ll even do more of this, not because I’m trying to decide whether to go on with her or not, but to know how to *treat her f#ck ups* when the time is due. Naturally, with this kinda perception, the love grows more fusing or conglomerating, leaving Sharon to congenially build an empty warehouse to be packed/filled with Raphael’s presence in her heart.
    I drop my pen. Have a blessed week.

    • So grateful for your consistency in reading my stories anf offering full engagemen on them. I share your sentiments on assessing one’s suitors clinically, even though I wouldn’t quite put the reason for that in the fashion you did. You are richly blessed in Jesus’ name.

  5. Nnanna is just too selfish and stingy, I think Rapheal should take it easy with Sharon, you know “once bitten, twice shy”, and finally, no one is perfect, Rapheal’s flaws could be Sharon’s strength.

  6. actually Nnanna was in that relationship because of what he could get. finding and knowing how much they pay sharon and not footing the bills because he knows how much she is beeing paid is bad. he never liked her at all. if i am Raphael i wii take it fast. i think it is a calculative way of going about love. if she had not come in contact with Nnanna she would not have realize the Qualities in both of them.

    • The Igbo proverb that when a woman marries two husbands, she’ll know the better one comes to mind. So the relationship with Nnanna actually helped Sharon, you’re saying. Thank you!

  7. 1. Nnanna has some weird definition of what a career woman should be doing. I think it’s ok to split the bills, but then, if you call someone out on a date, common sense tells you that you gats pay – unless the person offers. Whoever invites the other for dinner or lunch, should be the one paying, unless the other wants to help. I don’t even know why that bothers the guy, a practicing lawyer is ‘marking’ his three-week-old girlfriend like that. Concentrate on getting to know her, forget how much she earns. Shame! Although, I think Sharon is a bit immature, in the way that she doesn’t seem to know for sure, what she wants.
    2. Sharon is the one that hurt Raphael sef, I don’t know how she somehow feels that Raphael should be apologizing. I fear for Raphael oo.
    3. Plenty people itemize their lover’s attributes. If the good outweighs the bad – and the bad are of course, something you can live with, then go ahead. I’d do that same thing when I get there, I think.

    • I don’t even want to talk about Nnanna’s case. He left the investigation for his cases to dig into someone else’s earnings. #smh

  8. Nnanna is selfish, greedy, rude and what have you, no mater how much Sharon was Earning, it wasn’t enough reason to depend on her like a parasite, even when you take her out you still expect her to pay the bills, isn’t it silly? trust me he needs deliverance. well Raphael shouldn’t be scared of anything, i believe the speck has fallen off from her eyes, as it stands, i dont think she will ever thought of loosing him for anything so to some extend he is safe. well its very good to list people’s positive and negative nature to enable you make a choice, if the person’s positive part is much it can dominate the negative. and thats the best way to make friends, if their negative influence are much you run for your life

  9. Nnanna’s message can never be justified, and contents of the message is ironic, as he is indirectly talking about himself. i might sentimental and judgmental, but that’s the way i see it.
    well… i feel sorry for Raphael – i cannot stop love from taking it’s course- but i would advice him to tread carefully.
    most girls – even me (winks) – like itemizing the strenghts and flaws of a guy that we are interested in, but i cant say that it is a calculating way of going about love

  10. Let me use the word ”shenanigan” for Nnanna, because that is exactly what he is up to, his text was just an ironic reflection of his own self, what was he in the relationship for, what does it have to do with her income besides it so ungentlemanly for you to go on a date with a girl and expect her to foot the bill, he was just there for his own benefits,his message can never be justified. As for Raphael am not concerned about him, she is falling for him, isn’t that what he has been waiting for, i mean this love of a thing has trust, has hurt, has patience, has a lot of trials and how you handle these things is what really makes it love

  11. Nnanna’s assertions against Sharon were untrue, he was just describing himself with all those claims,good thing they broke up, now she has the time to listen to her heart. well if i were in Rapheal’s shoe, I don’t think I will risk having a broken heart again but thank God Rapheal is not me.And for the last question,hmmm itemizing strengths and flaws….will I do that to a suitor? my answer is YES i will.I need to know the person i’m going to spend the rest of my with, and if the good outweighs the bad, i will consider him but if not, I’M BREAKING UP.

  12. with that text, it’s obvious that there is no love lost between them, Nnnanna was in the relationship because he thought he could extort so much from Sharon. if i were Raphael i would take it slow. I think she has her reasons for itemizing his flaws and strength which is something i might also do because with that you know how to cope with both his good and bad characters

  13. Nnanna z simply into Sharon’s life cuz of Wat he think he will get from her Nd no love attached,, his behavior web she was sick Nd his last text is a portrayal of dis… Den I will advice Raphael to forget all d bad moments Sharon caused him Nd hasten up d relationship hence his heart yearns for her dearly

  14. Nnanna is a parasite and unfortunately for him, he met the wrong girl who he thinks he could feed on. i think Raph should take things slow because i do not think he wants to get hurt again. Putting someone you love on a scale for me is not wrong. I know that love is blind but you might really want to see what you are going into, the goos traits to appreciate and the bad ones correct.

  15. Nnanna is a proud and selfish fellow infact he is annoying. Why would a man who is trying to woe a woman to himself be this impossible. He dosen’t have the attributes of a good husband therefore, i don’t blame Sharon for cutting everything off infact, i support her.
    The fact that Sharon has hurt Raphael before does not mean that she can’t make it up to him tomorrow. Love and understanding is the principle thing.
    Sharon has tasted Nnanna and found out that his attitude and actions are nothing compared to what she enjoys from Raphael even as an ordinary friend. Mapping out Raphael’s flaws or credits shows that she is really interested in him. She only needs to be sure of the next step to take. Like you said ‘allow love to be blind only when you have properly assessed its object”. Sharon really needs to assess Raphael because it is clear she is in love.

  16. Nnanna is just a self- centered,callous,egocentric,selfish human being.if i happen to be in Raphael’s shoes i will take it slow bcos there is an adage that says ‘once bitten ,twice shy.in itemizing Raphs view ,for some people it may be their calculating way of going about love but as for me ,i can’t think of doing that.

  17. Nnanna plays with someones intelligence and often times manipulative according to Sharon’s point of view so I would rather I drop the yam bekos two cunny persons can be boss at d same time, either of them might be dominant or recessive, if not working that way them quit, as for Sharon to Raphael, writing down your guys flaws and strengths is gud but not at an early stage, u might think u know it right but at the longrun evil voices. So sharii take it slow step by step.

  18. That Nnanna guy is terribly stingy…i mean what kind of guy calls a girl on a date and demands that she foot the bill without her offering to do so.good thing they broke.now she would have all the time in the world to listen to her heart.He was simply in the relationship for what he could get from Sharon he doesnt love her one bit.his accusations cant be justified whatsoever.if i were Raphael i would choose to go on a slow pace.For Sharon itemising Raphaels strenghts and weaknesses,if she is not careful enough she might end up loosing Raphael as well.

  19. Nnanna is just inconsiderate,from what is happening now is obvious that they are not compatible.Raphael is a good guy because is not every guy that will behave the way he did.

  20. like i said early, men and boys thinks differently, “REFLECTION” in relationship, we leave what is relevant and be chasing irrelevant things. Knowing the value of what we have is very important but we prefer loosing it forgetting that what work for MR A might not work for MR B and for Nnanna he is just a player looking for who to seduce, empty her pocket then move on with his game. KUDOS TO U MS EDITH OHAJA, U ARE” GOD SENTTING” (NKOLIKA NWA NSUKKA 2015)TO OUR GENERATION because all this is happening in our day to day relationship and its affecting us because we fancy shinning things than the content.

  21. The guy was an opportunist. As for Sharon, i believe she is learning to love the right way and i think there is nothing wrong with listing out the pros and cons of someone or something. It gives you a sense of objectivity.

  22. I think Nnanna was just there for what he could get out of the relationship.Sharon is a confused fellow, who doesn’t know what she wants. Raphael should just be very careful.

  23. Nnanna is just out to get ‘things’ from sharon. Sharon should try and be sure of herself.Raphael should also be careful with Sharon

  24. I knew from the beginning that he was just interested in the salary but to the extent of checking how much are salary is it is very crazy looks like he is more of the gold digger and immature one if he is truly a man no matter how little your pay is sometimes jez own up to the bill payment and when you can’t afford it let her know but at least contribute something …but his accussations are not justified just mere excuse to make Sharon feel like she has fault too.. I think rapheal knew she was dejecting him because she felt he was not financially buoyant but the pace of their relationship is moderate , the situation is making them to know what actually interest them abt eachother …… Yh comparing and contrasting a suitor is critical analysing what you like and what you don’t …I think its an estimated tool to solve issues of indecisiveness

  25. Nnanna’s message to Sharon is not justified because love or relationship ought to be reciprocal. Raphael should take the relationship with Sharon slow this time because she can be a green snake in the green grass. that means, intentions cannot be easily detected or identified. also, salt can resemble sugar.itemizing someone’s strengths and flaws is a way of fostering relationship or even to put an end of any relationship. so, I think its a normal thing to do not under another person’s counselling.

  26. mtchew nanna is nt even reasonable at all cos wat he sed about sharon is not true well, sharon is in love but she is yet to find out herself the pace of their relationship is fast though and raph should keep his fingers crossed no one is to be trusted there is nothing wrong listing out the good or bad of a person it helps u make decisions.

  27. Nnanna is just they to eat from Sharon’s wealth nd doesn’t cater for her in any way not even emotionally.

    Raphael is a truly a good friend because he was the only one who noticed that all wasn’t well with Sharon,he is always there when needed and all that although I think Sharon has fallen for him. But I advise that he takes the relationship at a low pace.

    The aspect where Sharon checks out what she loves abt Raphael and wat she doesn’t like, there is nothing wrong with it.i just feel it’s okay because at least it made her check herself out and how to improve on loving him.

  28. it was obvious that nnanna was in relationship just for what he will get .knowing that sharon was financial buoyant, what he want was for sharon to be supplying everything for him not that he love her.if i was in Rahpael shoe, i will pace the relationship slow, pretending that am no more interested . To Rahpael, either sharon or nobody.it is not a calculation way of going about love and i will not do that to a suitor, take a guy the way he is if u really love him both his strenghts and flaws. love is blind

  29. seriously, Nnanna is a jerk, how could he do dat?? well, sharon has learnt her lessons mayb she and Ralph are meant to be together afterall and i dont think that she will use and dump him again. Ralph is an epitome of true love, lucky sharon

  30. Shame on Nnanna for the things he said to Sharon…it clearly shows how less of a man he is…and proved to be a gold digger

  31. Nnanna needs to be orientated about relationship, I think he is in the relationship for what he could get ,he is just looking for a well paid woman so that he wont spend too much, he is just being stingy.

  32. Nnanna referring to Sharon as been selfish isn’t entirely a lie, even though i didn’t see her trying to outsmart him in their relationship but was she not the one who tried to use someone earlier on?

  33. I think there is an element of truth in what Nnanna said, love should be built on mutualism rather than on a parasitic basis, but frankly, Nnanna is not fit or ready for an enduring or lasting relationship.
    There is no point controlling or reducing the pace, just like I said before: love counts neither wrongs nor bears any grudges, go on, Raph!

  34. Nnanna’s accusations of Sharon are unjustifiable seeing that he was after what she could offer him both financially and materially without any true affection on his part towards her. Raphael on his part, should take it easy with Sharon; i mean though he may not realise it but once bitten, twice shy and as for Sharon putting Raphael on the scales, i think it is her own way of determining if he is the ideal man for her. I just wish them both luck! God bless you ma.

  35. One need no soothsayer to tell him or her that Nnanna was in the relationship for some hidden gains, now on the issue of pitying Raphael based on his past predicament with Sharon,he is a grown man and should always learn his lessons from the past, the once bitten twice shy axiom should not be far for a use . There may be no harm in trying the game on a suitor, the extent is what should be a caution.

  36. Nnanna wanted to use sharon, getting free things from Her and eyeing her salary. Sharon is finally realising that Raphael is way Better than Nnanna. The game she was playing was not necessary, if someone loves someone all the flaws won’t matter

  37. Nnanna is this kind of guy that cannot last in a relationship because he feels the woman should do everything when it comes to the financial aspect of it and that was why he treated Sharon that way probably ’cause he feels she is earning a good pay and she needs to spend it on him only without considering her own needs. Also, i am not worried about Raphael ’cause of the way he was being treated by Sharon but if i were to be in his shoes i will not rush this relationship, i would rather take it slow in order to see where this relationship is heading to. And as a young lady there are many things to consider before going into marriage/relationship, so i think i would also list the good and bad side of the man i am going to stay with as a partner.

  38. Nnanna is just one of a kind. He was actually dating Sharon because of her money, so irritating how on earth can a guy expect a girl to pay for their outings even if she earns more than him it’s still good and natural that the guy do the paying… as for the relationship I must say its fast but this is due to their undying love for each other…this is how fast love can grow when your friend turnout to be your lover.

  39. Nnanna wanted to use sharon, getting free things from Her and eyeing her salary. Sharon is finally realising that Raphael is way Better than Nnanna. The game she was playing was not necessary, if someone loves someone all the flaws won’t matter

  40. Nnanna was in the relationship just to eat from the purse of Sharon, Sharon should see that he is not the one for him, she better open her eyes or it will be too late. We should be careful with the people we call our friends not all are friend-worthy

  41. Nnanna, is jst a man that has no value wat so ever as regards to wat Sharon feels,he is jst after what he wants to get from her.
    and as for Ralph, kudoos!!!! bro kip the pace up but dnt get entangled.like i said before follow your hrt dearie.
    talking of itemizing, OH YES!… i will do that over gain….I LOVE MY SCALE OF PREFERENCE.

  42. i think nnanna was in the relationship just because of what he could get from sharon because men looking at it he didn”t love her rather her wealth. if i were in rapheal shoes i will continue with the relationship since i know that my love for her is real.because not withstanding the hurt that sharon have hurt him he keeps on loving her knowing too well that it is good to forget what hurt you but never forget the lesson it taught you.

  43. Nnanna did not really love Sharon all he wanted was her money besides as a guy he is supposed to be the one to foot most of her bills and not the other way round. Raphael should just take it slowly, he shouldn’t rush so that he wont get heartbroken again.
    As for me, marriage is a one time something so i will look at the guys flaws and good characters before i decide on anything.

  44. Nnanna is a callous human being. He is selfish, self-centered. That shows he doesn’t love Sharon. He is just in the relationship because of Sharon’s salary. The relationship will be fast because love conquers all. Despite what Sharon did, Raphael will always love her because love bears no grudges.

  45. Nnanna is a gold digger who didn’t get enough of what he expected and yes he was in the relationship for what he would get from it he never felt a thing for Sharon if he did, he would have found a way to fix Sharon’s immaturity if that were true.
    Yes am very scared for Raphael because Sharon is unstable and does not know what she feels also I believe that if a better guy comes she will hurt Raphael again. I also think that Raphael should take things slow and wait for Sharon’s feeling to grow.
    Putting someone on the scale is not good but it not a bad idea to know that unique thing that you love about someone. Ma you sure know how to keep readers attention… am not going anywhere!

  46. Obviously, Nnana wanted to use Sharon and leave her dry, and the guy is nothing to write home about really. as for Sharon’s list it’s not a bad idea though but she really needs to value what she has before she loses it…

  47. Nnanna is simply a gold digger.
    i’m not worried about the state of things with sharon and Rapael, infact i’m loving it.
    yes!!! i would do that on a suitor, makes me know him well and how to cope with him.

  48. Nnanna’s text made it all obvious that he was not after love but Sharon’s money, that was so childish of him, and as for Rapheal, am a bit worried for him, but what if he was actually using Sharon as a bait?, Rapheal should take it slow to prevent stories that touch if he is really sincere to Sharon, and i see no crime in scaling Rapheal’s strength and flaws cos it helps to know when to tolerate things….i must confess, am loving this!!!!

  49. Nnanna is simply an ingrate who wants to suck the resources out of Sharon. Sharon got what she deserves. Nnanna’s text to her is not bad considering her odd attitude. Her analysis of Raphael’s strength and flaws are not indeed a way of calculating love. If I were Raphael, I would take a slow pace in the relationship because people like Sharon could be mischievous and unpredictable.

  50. Like I said earlier, nnanna and Sharon are both users.. I think Ralph needs to take it slow this time around

  51. Nnanna is very immature and I think Sharon calling off the relationship is a good idea.I don’t believe Sharon hurt Raphael because she was just trying to be sure he is the right person for her. Since she hadn’t said yes to his proposal she is free to date whoever she wants.

  52. Nice. Aunt Edith you’re doing a nice job here. Nnanna simply wanted to be eating at the others pocket. he is actually a selfish man and i doubt if he had any ounce 0f love for Sharon. Moreover, i see no need worrying about Raphael cos i see Sharon falling helplessly for his love and good personality traits

  53. Nnanna, was never into Sharon because he loved her, from his respond to her text. It was clearly shown he was in the relationship for the “gain”. Raphael truely cherish Sharon from d start and for Sharon to iteamise his good deed nd flaws means she love him too. It’s takes feeling to do! She wants to measure his love to be sure, he truly loves her…

  54. Nnanna is an arrogant He-goat, his actions can’t be justice. His meant take care of Sharon and not the other round. The fact that Sharon earns more doesn’t mean the guy cant care. For Raphael i don’t he should worry because they known each other for a longtime and all those complain I think is because she has not fully accepted for the fact that she loves him. I think Sharon is right by doing those things because if one loves you and is really for you, that person will to an extent just to have you which Raphael has proved that already.

  55. Men like Nnanna would have their skull pounded in if they came anywhere near me. What nonsense! Sharon is right in listing Raphael’s flaws and strengths. It helps one know what they are getting into. Raphael should probably take it slow.

  56. Nnanna is egoistic and selfish, he entered cause of what he thought he could get, he doesn’t care about her. Who actuallhy checks how much his date earn??. To me i think she has always had feelings for Raphael but it was buried deep down after denyiny it she realised she couldn’t run away anymore. It kind of reminds me of that saying when you love something you let it go,if it’s yours it will come back to you.

  57. smiles….. i knew Nnanna will act that way. Nnanna actually had plans to steal from Sharon. i mean he is into the relationship just for what he hope to get.. so, there is no justification for Nnanna’s accusations because he is insincere. Also, truth be told, Sharon has hurt Raphael, but i think she is realizing it. Since Raphael loves her, let him continue but he needs to be careful.. thank u ma.. so interesting

  58. Lol! it serves Sharon, right. this Nnanna must be a gold digger. what was he thinking that Sharon should be the breadwinner after marriage. Sharon can support but not taking full responsibility of the home. i also think Sharon has learn her lesson, she now knows that she loves Raphael. So, there is no contemplating her hurting Raphel

  59. Nnanna checking his girlfriend’s income, i guess he just came for the money, A schemer meets another schemer and it backfires. I just hope Ralph doesnt trust Sharon completely because from the story she likes to be comfortable and uses anyone around her to achieve her aim
    It is good to know what your suitor likes to know whether it is what you can endure or adapt, ignoring them could end up catastrophic.

  60. Nnanna is just a gold digger, he just wants Sharon for her money and nothing else although some of his accusations are true
    People do change and I pray for Ralph’s sake she is changing for good.
    I support Sharon for checking the flaws in Ralph,it is important to be done before marriage so that to know whether it is what you can endure.

  61. Nnanna just showed that he came to eat up Sharon’s money. He is so materialistic.For me he should take it slow ooo because girls can change their mind anytime.And it is good to calculate ones suitor,s strength and flaws.

  62. Nnanna is just a gold digger, he is just into the relationship because of what he can get from Sharon and no responsible man would say what he said to Sharon. yeah Sharon is right in itemizing what she wants in a man. because every woman knows the kind of qualities she wants in a man, you cant just settle for anything that looks like a man. i would do likewise.

  63. Nnanna was in the relationship jst for what he was getting from sharon and it even serves sharon right becaue she just rushed into the relationship which is wrong of us to do and for raphael he should just take the relationship issue slowly so he won”t be heartbroken

  64. There is no two ways about this. It is clear and lucid that Nnanna was in the relationship just for what he could get. His attitudes and text have all to say. Relationship does not only bring love, it also brings tears. Second, Sharon attitude has shown the power of materialism but that should not stop Raphael from being the nice man he should be. In terms of itemizing Raphael’s strength and flaw, she is indirectly telling us how far they have gone in their love affairs.

  65. Nnanna text or behaviour towards Sharon indicates that he wasn’t sure of his feelings towards Sharon. Maybe Nnanna could be in the relationship because of what he could get, or do for Sharon, he is not sure of what he wants from her. from my own observation, the relationship should be slow because anything can happen and nobody knows tomorrow. I think is a calculating way of going about love.

  66. Nnanna’s test was childish and uncalled for and i think he was in the relationship just for what he could get from Sharon. I am not worried for Rapheal at all and i think the relationship from this point is moving slow(which is the way its meant to be). in terms of itemising, i think its a calculating way of going about love.

  67. Nnanna is self centered, irrational, rude, and i can go on and on.
    is he really a man? i don’t think so.
    i think Raphael should slow down, allow her feel both his presence and absence.

  68. nnanna was just in the relationship for what he could get for Sharon materially. As for Raphael he should really take things on a slow pace on other to manage future complications that can come up in relationships.

  69. it obvious that Nnanna never liked Sharon. he was just there because of Sharon’s earning, thinking he would get a good percentage in Sharon’s pay. but when he saw that wasn’t coming he decided to opt-out of the relationship. no wonder shorn is the one that takes care of the bill when ever they go out on a date, no wonder Nnanna makes use of her cell phone to make calls, #huh!!! which kind of guy looks into how much her woman receives as salary. if not those that are there for what they stand to gain from the relationship.
    as for Raphael, he is there for love, for him love is priceless, no matter what Sharon might has done to him in the past doesn’t count, what matters to him is that he loves Sharon and wants Sharon to see him as same.he not there for material things, he is not there for what he will gain from Sharon but where the two of them would be together as man and wife

  70. I think Nnanna is the immature one. he is selfish. why would a man want to live off a woman’s pockets simply because she earns more than he does? That’s stingy.
    Raphael doesn’t have anything to worry about. Like I said in the previous episode, she is a nice girl who just doesn’t know it yet. I think she has a heart of gold. she just needs love and attention to bring out that aspect of her.
    The game of listing a man’s flaws and strengths is a nice one. sounds like something I would too. That way if the good outweighs the bad, you would he is the one for you. But if the bad outweighs the good, hmm, run as far as you can.

  71. Ma, you are the best writer I have ever known…OMG! It feels like I am watching a movie….well I can’t waste time here commenting…..but I think Nnanna was wrong and doesn’t have love for Sharon at all… Also Sharon has fallen deeply for Raphael…but I still think he should take it slow…..

    • And what r Nnanas breed called again??…uummm…Parasites!! ryt, breaking-up was an idle thing to do,an gosh!! such lame reasons he gave.
      Ralph should speed up things o,cos as it stands now Sharon’s love is waxing stronger by d day..if only he knew thou

  72. Am not surprised at Nnanna’s text and his previous behavior it was obvious that he never was interested in her but her money, for the thing going on between Raphael and Sharon should go slow, they should not rush into things but go easy and also for Sharon to scaliñg Raphael is a nice and welcoming idea that every young lady should practice, it helps one knows what he or she is to expect especially character wise

  73. It is obvious that Nnanna is just after Sharon’s money because he saw Sharon as someone who is financially buoyant to be spending on him and this was dependent on the way she built the relationship at first , she was too desperate over spending money on him and Nnanna noticed that, to the extent of giving him phone to make prolonged calls ND making payments for their outing

  74. Base on what i have see so far in this epicsode,it all call to be that life is a stage and we humans are characters,though Nnanna is a guy he never thought of his role as a man and even in his relationship,he is self centre because he never thought of his contribution in the relationship rather than to think of how to make her his bank.

    what a heart he has ,he thought that she was that stupid to yield to every nonsense he vomit out of his mouth with out knowing that ”gone are those days when women use to work hard and behave like a fool” .she was reasonable enough to know what she wants and what Nnanna was up to and gave it a breath,even though we human have one problem or the other,but the fact still remains that we all have suitable persons that can accomodate our problems.”LIFE IS AN EQUATION THAT NEED TO BE BALANCE FOR IT SMILE TO OVER SHADOW THE BAD”,IF HE COULD HAVE LOVE HER WITH OUT THE INTENTION OF EXTORTING MONEY FROM HER I THINK THEY COULD NOT HAVE BEING A PROBLEM .A man and a woman should always love and care for one another ,contribute to one another lives without depending on one another to survive. this story is touching/ i love the flow of it just like the rivers do.keep it up mum…….

  75. Nnanna is a proper gold digger and don’t behave like a lawyer at all. Sharon os so much deep in love with Raphael. If I was Raphael I will take things slow and I will not be angry with her. I will simply accept her into my arms.

  76. Nnanna has proven over time that his major interest is money and whatever he can gain from her.
    Her recent feelings for Raphael shows she has loved him all along and is owning up

  77. Like i said earlier nnanna is extremely calculative he thinks more of what to gain from you than what to add to you.
    Being in Raphaels shoe the relationship would go really slow for a while till i have confirmed my assertions then i kick it up.
    She is probably weighing the benefits of Raphael as a boyfriend so am guess love since at the age they are presently they are no longer into kids stuff

  78. Like i said before that i never wanted to talk about this selfish guy Nnanna,but i think i need to say something now.Nnanna is just a hungry man for depending on Sharon,my dear i do not blame you because it is not your fault but sharon fault because had it been u didnt start this attitude of lavishing him with money he wouldnt have been misbehaving like this.but wait ooo, why are you now sounding as if you are right here,someone u called your girlfrnd but you cannot treat her like one and you have the gut to talk about being caring,my dear you need medicine in your life.But sharon my love,i told you that you have already fallen in love with this guy thats why you were thinking about his flaws,and was also waiting for him to come and visit you.Baby just admit it dear but if i am Raphael i will not do anything or regret loving someone who is hurting me because if love catches someone it always disorganise and at the same time organise the person,chaii it is not easy to love ooo even to the extent of coming to see someone under water,hmmm i love your love ooooo but if it is me,my dear i no fit enter water because say i want see you,my love never reach that level oooo,just kidding.

  79. Nnanna should understand that this is Nigerian, that the guy is the one to spend and not the girl. Nnanna is a guy who cares about him self alone and what he will gain in the relationship. As for Raphael he he should never be dull when taking decision concerning the love he have for sharon

  80. Nnanna is looking for where to feed on and he thinks sharon is one big catch….he failed,his text cannot be justified because he even said it himself indirectly that he doesn’t love sharon but her wealth.
    Raphel would win this fight at the end of it ..he is persistent.
    every lover tries to sometimes evaluate their spouse

  81. I think Nnanna is selfish. He was trying to extort Sharon and if one should marry such person he would like to split everything between himself and his spouse

  82. Nnanna z just stupid, entering into a relationship because of wat he will gain from sharon beside a relationship z nt meant to be one sided, both of them should help eachother.
    Am nt worried at all because sharon hs realized dat wat she did ws wrong n v changed
    If i were in raphael’s shoes i will speed up d relationship because i kno dat sharon v changed.
    Itemizing raphael’s strength n flaws shows dat she hs really fallen for him. Girls usually do dat wen dey r in love.

  83. Nnanna never loved Sharon. He must have a girl he is spending on, so he want to rub Peter to pay Paul. Raphael was not wrong I think that is called love. It’s good to consider both the good and bad side of one’s suitor.
    Nice one ma

  84. Nnanna was in the relationship because of Sharon’s money. Fast, because love bears no grudges. some people do it on both purposes, but i don’t think i will try doing that.

  85. Nnanna is definitely a gold digger, he actually went digging on how much Sharon earned? that’s a no no. Raphael loves Sharon and she obviously loves him too, she made a mistake and a person should not be defined by one mistake. Raphael should go ahead but i think he should take it slow.

  86. It is very obvious that Nnanna is no longer interested in the relationship.And also, If I were to decide for Raphael, I will advice him to go slow in loving Sharon. By him taking things slowly, he will make the right choice in his relationship with Sharon.

  87. Nnanna’s motive for jumping into Sharon’s life is not just because he loves her but because of his pocket and stomach but unknowing to him was dealing with the wrong person.
    The relationship is slow but actually training and teaching them salient issues they need to know..
    Physical looks and flaws is not a yardstick for measuring true love .

  88. it is so obvious that Nnanna was in the relationship because of what he could get from her. how funny, well Ralph should just see her change from a positive angle and go for it with his head and not his heart.

  89. To me,right from time..Nnanna is someone that has no future or hope.spending his resources on Sharon is just like wasting her time as well as energy…

  90. My mum will always say”when you see your enemy smiling sheepishly towards you,my dear pick race,,no doubt he or she is up to something”Rapheal should be careful with her cause she might not be what she was before.
    And also, Rapheal should take things slowly with her to avoid” if I had known”

  91. Nnanna’s accusation is not justified because he is the guy. no matter how much a lady earns those not matterin a relationship what matters is that them both are supportive of each other and in fact Nnanna is the selfish one imagine! what kind of a reasonable guy will continue to receive gifts from a lady without reciprocating ? just because she earns more than him . I think that Nnanna of a guy is not yet a matured man , he needs good moral and behavioural traning. LOL! Yap !he only asked her out in other to eat from her palm and not to letting her eat from his. If I were in Raphael’s shoe, I will not force her into it because it is a decision that requires time. And I cannot try scaling a guy that am considering to get married to . it is very wrong to do that.

  92. I think he was wasting Sharon’s time as well as resources because mere looking at his behaviour, dosent love or care for her any if he does, he wouldn’t mind spending His money n time on her

  93. Am really worried because Sharon wants a guy from a high class which I know pretty well that Rapheal didn’t qualify. I think Raphael should be careful to avoid being hurt again and Sharon should stop playing with his feelings
    If I were Raphael, I will pace it slow to avoid being accused of taking her situation as an opportunity to get to her seeing that she is emotional downcast,I will be with her without blaming her and show her that I love her believing that she will come to her senses and see my feelings to her.
    About Sharon’s game, girls normally do that but mostly on their minds.when a suitor comes and you are not sure of your feelings for him,you calculate or check his positive and negative attitudes before concluding.though I put God first,I will do such if am confused.lolz

  94. Extortion fused with discretion or if i may imply, discrete extortion, is what Nnanna implements. His major aim is conspicous because he never really showed firm commitment towards their relationship. he is largely bothered about her financial status. Raphael and Sharon’s relationship seems promising but Raphael should take it at a slow pace towards the point of assertion before booming ahead

  95. Nnnana could no longer hide his real character, his text displayed his selfishness, his greed and backyard activities. Yes, he engaged the relationship because of what he would get from Sharon. He has no plan to do anything good for her.
    2. I am not worried for Raphael’s sake. It takes a man of patience to love someone, and that is who HE is. The pace of the relationship base on sincerity and agreement between them is slow.
    3. Yes, I would do that on my suitor. If I would love and live with him, then I must know his strengths and weaknesses, for the future purpose.

  96. Obviously nnanna was taking advantage of Sharon and if I was in Raphael shoes I would calm down with any relationship before it gets to the point of Marriage. Sharon should not be scaling Raphael because nobody is perfect .

  97. NNANNA is just too selfish and uncaring towards SHARON . HE NEVER LOVED or showed any intimacy towards her. He is a coward that has no shame for his personality..I mean , how can a guy be depending on his girlfriends wealth.. I think he should take it slow cos what is meant to be will surely be. IF the both of them are meant to be together, they will certainly be Is just a matter of time and patience.

  98. OMG!!!, this is mind blowing.. I LOVE THIS EPISODE.SHE JUST BLUSTERED OUT HER MIND AND THOUGHT. . It shows her selfish part of her being when she made that statement. I think RALPH should be calm and wait for some time before he can proceed to the marriage arrangement.. THIS IS MY FAVORITE EPISODE IN THIS STORY. . i love ur work MA.

  99. with no prejudice i would hav loved if nnanna used sharon and later dumped her becos that was what she actually did to rapheal. He was in for the money right from the word go and sharon was in for pleasantries.

  100. Nnanna’s behaviour is a very bad one. It is evident enough that he came to enjoy Sharon’s money and not to love her. He is such a heartless, mischievous fellow. As for the text he did send to Sharon, Sharon deserves it. If I were Raphael, I would take every thing easy to know how true Sharon has changed. From my judgements, I would say that itemizing Raphael’s strength and flaws is not a calculative measure for love.

  101. it is obvious nnanna is in the relationship because of what he would gain.
    change in beat, but i love this tune..
    seriously i pity Raphael and at the same time proud and happy for him even with all the acts Sharon put up he was still the one she cling ed to mostly, but seriously no matter how long they have known each other they should take it slow, easy and steady..after all slow and steady wins the race.
    and i really don’t blame Sharon for falling in love with Raphael, someone like him is bound to be loved

  102. Nnanna has always been a selfish fellow. He had no love for Sharon.His friendship with Sharon had been a charade; an evil decoy to milk her resources. His accusations were not justified because he hadn’t done anything for Sharon that required reciprocation. Sharon could have made herself so cheap if she had continued to fund the relationship. Secondly, the issue of Sharon coming emotionally for Raphael is normal. In life, we make some mistakes that we always like to correct when we have the chance to do so. Sharon’s move is one of those attempts to correct past mistakes. If i was in Raphael’s shoes, i would adopt fast pace considering the reality of her feelings, but anyone who does the opposite should not be blamed because it is not always easy to forgive such bad treatments. On itemizing of strengths and weaknesses, i may not do that, but I think it was just a way of busying herself with love thoughts.The way she theorized Raphael’s broken tooth as a “selling point” underpins this belief.

    • Lol, hope the broken tooth thing didn’t scare brothers like you. Thank you for your wonderful comment and remain blessed!

  103. Nnanna is a self centered person, stingy and not caring. Raphael should however be careful in other not to get hurt.

  104. I think Nnanna behave irrational during their period of friendship. we know that friendship must be a mutual something and he should have opened up to Sharon if he thinks he can foot their bills when they go out, I believe their is a way to do this and not try to exploit the other party because she earns more than you and I think his action wasn’t justifiable though. Sharon has learnt her lesson as she has come to realize that not all that glitters are gold. I think Raphael should grab the opportunity and hasten up things between them.

  105. Argh!! funny nnanna. I don’t think Nnanna is interested in making sharon feel loved. i think he is just trying to get close to sharon because of what he will get. infact Nnanna exhibits lust not love. however on the side of raphael, the sudden care of sharon should be investigated slowly. he should not jxt fall for it

  106. it is obvious enogh that Nnanna is a gold digger, and if i was in Raphaelz shoes i will take the relationship on a slow lane.

  107. also itemizing Raphaelz strength and flaws is not a bad thing, actually i see it as something i would do when i have a suitor or when going about love

  108. Nnanna’s test depicts lust and not love,well he was after what he can get from sharon.his accusations were proper because they are the birds of the same feather . guy man cannot guy a guyoyo. two wise men in the same apartment.
    RIDE ON AUNTY EDITH

  109. Nnanna couldn’t get what he expected from her due to his selfish interest and so the break up…Sharon also seems to be falling for Raphael deeply but could it be for real or is she trying to go back to him just because he’s not like nnanna?
    Raphael needs to be sure…good work ma

  110. Nnanna is not a gentleman at all for saying such to a lady,so therefore his accusations were not justified.Raphael should take it slow and steady because as they say it wins the race.Actually love is something that comes naturally so i dont think its a calculating way of going about love.

  111. Nnanna’s mask merely fell off and the ” Real ” him surfaced; he is a cheat, a liar, and a selfish fellow. He knew what he wanted, headed for it without remembering that everyday is for the thief and one day is for the owner; he thought he had seen a big fish, (Sharon) and decided to drain it and dry it. he never had any plans for her, he merely came for her pocket knowing full well how much she earns monthly….. Sharon having to had come round emotionally for Raphael, I would say is a good sign for them both after past years filled with hiccups. wow! that’s true love. …No!, I’m not scared for him, there is a saying that ”Love is patience ”. the pace of relationship based on trust and agreement between them is well contained.
    itemizing Raphael’s ” strength and flaws ” ; Yes!, i would do that on my suitor because marriage is a permanent contract; that is, when it is entered it is sealed. because any mistake made will hardly be corrected.

  112. There’s nothing wrong with Raphael’s speed towards the relationship. Besides, Sharon seems to like it that way, she’s falling deeply for him obviously, so slowing things down might hurt them both. As for Nnanna, the dude’s an a#shole…for Christ’s sake, he’s not even a man at all, they are just dating and he know her account details already, nawa…if it works that way, then my plan would be to marry Dangote oh, if your account balance doesn’t read same as his, off you go then ?

  113. Nnanna`s accusation shows how selfish he is..it is pretty unjustified…He never liked Sharon,he was there for what he could get…i think that rapheal should grab this opportunity and show Sharon what it is like to date a real man.The case of itemizing Rapheal`s strength and flaws..i would do that to my suitor so i can know if i can cope with them…because marriage is a lifetime commitment.

  114. Nnanna is simply a greedy guy, and I believe by now Sharon might have realised that I think well………I can’t wait to finish d story God bless u maa

  115. If i am to say, Nnanna was never in a relationship he was only utilizing the opportunity given to him. and catching his fun.
    It was Sharon who was drawn in her fantasies. i think Nnanna took Sharon to be cheep, probably pulled an asking out trick on her and she fall for it,or he might not have liked her.
    I think Sharon now knows that the devil she knows is better than the angel she doesn’t know. So she has to readjust her pattern of behavior.

  116. As for nnana’s I think the guy is selfish type and he expects much from the girl mainwhile he is supposed to be the one providing. As for their relationship I think sluggishness is kind of just-right.

  117. Nnanna is just immature. He isn’t ready to handle a true relationship plus he doesn’t know what a true relationship entails. Sharon’s list making doesn’t seem like a bad idea to me though.

  118. What kind of guy expects his lady to offset all the bills? Nnanna is very conceited and immature. As for Raphael and Sharon, their relationship seems very average…not too fast and not too slow.

  119. Nnanna,with his attitude towards sharon,he is not worthy to be a man.why will he be using a woman to do what he has to do as a man toward a woman?to me,he is unwise like sharon who is just like him.

  120. Nnanna is just interested in sharon because of her wealth.He is just playing around with sharon’s intelligence.And also for sharon to write out Raphael’s flaws shows that she is interested in him.she just needs time.

  121. Sharon should take Nnanna as a reflection. Like Sharon, Nnanna is greedy but then unlike Sharon, he’s straight forward. He might have been justified in his accusations…. In Raphael’s shoes, i’d take it slow, you know, watching out for a next time…. I might do the check and balancing just for the fun of it, it helps sometimes too.

  122. i believe from day one Nnanna came into the relationship only because of what he believed Sharon could do for him never really love.
    well i’ve never really being the type to itemize ones weakness or strength but i don’t think it is a bad idea because it can be used to know what u can cope with

  123. Nnanna’s behavior is bad and he dose not think he is in a relationship with Sharon, he is only interested in what Sharon would offer.
    I would place the relationship in a slow point because it is hard to trust someone who has played with your feelings.
    It is not good to itemize the strength and Flaw’s of someone who loves you, rather you should encourage them.

  124. i am a bit worried about Raphael because the way things are going, Sharon can break his heart again. So if i were him, i will take things slow. On the other hand, itemizing Raphael’s flaws and strengths shows that she is still confused about her feelings towards Raphael which is not supposed for someone you claim you love.

  125. Nnanna was just controlled by sheer pride. I think he was in the relationship for what he could get. If I were in Rapheal’s shoes I’ll take things with more caution. I’ll put every suitor on scale, it only gets bad when you become a perfectionist.

  126. Nnanna is an immature man who can’t secure his woman at least financially. If I was Raphael,I ll still love her but take my brains along.
    I also think the love scale thing is a sign of affection in her part.

  127. Nnanna is just still a toddler from my own perspective of what I deduced from the text&it’s so clear that he is in the relationship for his own selfish gain because it’s a clear fact to us surrounded by his complaints…please for Raphael he should take things slow rushing doesn’t sound right or pay off; you see the problem start from there when we begin to quantify&calculate our love life I probably think it’s something that should flow from the heart that makes it better&it feels right!!!…for me would probably not try that.

  128. Nnanna is nothing but a goal digger trying to reap where he did not sow, on the other hand Raphael and Sharon can still work things out; whether fast or slow, I believe their relationship is turning out to be what it’s meant to long time ago, so I’ll say nature is taking its course.

  129. I think Nnanna was in the relationship just for what he could gain from it and he wasn’t right about his judgement about Sharon.
    If i were in Raphael’s shoes i would Sharon for her change in behaviour.

  130. Nnanna was obviously in the relationship for purely selfish reasons and deep down, Sharon knew it even though she refused to admit it. to me, Sharon is confused, deceiving herself and the both of them are going in circles. Being calculative in a relationship is not totally wrong because one needs to know where he or she stands with his or her and listing these attributes in one way or the other acts like a compass but in all, Love conquers all.

  131. Clearly Nnanna was in that relationship because of the benefits and not for love. As for Raphael,he should take things slowly lest Sharon will ”fall hands” again especially when she sees someone she thinks is perfect.

  132. From the content of his message, it showed that Nnanna never loved Sharon but what he could get and for itemizing Raphael’s strengths and flaws means that she loves Raphael and wants to be sure of what she is going into.

  133. both nnanna and sharon entered the relationship for wrong reasons. he thought he could get stuffs from her but guessed wrong, he is in it based on benefits not love. As for raph, he should be careful with sharon cause she might wander of with another guy whom she thinks is her Mr RIGHT

  134. Nnanna is simply a parasite looking for a host to feed and fatten on, he is not worthy of mention.In the first place, I do not think that relationships should be fast-paced, it’s always better to go slow so as not to get ahead of one’s self. Raphael should go on shining the torch of pure love.

  135. I think Nnanna had never think of Sharon’s existence, let alone her welfare. His attitude has said it all

  136. No, I feel Sharon is not as smart as she thinks she is!! Guys actually like going after girls that are single and searching and not girls already taken.
    If this is her major plan she’s in for a major disappointment!!

  137. We have not had a story on his meetings with Sharon so we cannot decipher. All we’ve had are from Sharon’s point of view. She portrays him as being a self centred individual.
    Nnanna’s accusations are not justifiable especially in a society like Nigeria were the story is set. Where men are thought to cater for the women in their lives.
    There is nothing about the message that makes one to worry about him. He does not seem to miss the relationship at all.
    Well, about itemizing Raphael’s strenths and flaws I think she has a right to. This is someone she’s going to spend the rest of her life with. Raphael should actually be doing the same. She’s definitely right.

  138. Of course, Nnanna was just in the relationship because of what he can get. He should be ashamed of such accusation, He don’t even treat her like a lady, he is only after what Sharon will do for him.that is why he he was not concerned about sending such text, he was not emotional like someone who claim to be in love.
    Raphael is really in love, there is nothing to worry about. He shoul just relax and forget all that Sharon has put him through and stick to the one his heart beats for
    true love comes only once in a life time. Love can also cover every wrong thing in a partner.

  139. Nnanna is clearly still a boy and not ready for any commitment whatsoever. About what Raphael and Sharon have, Mary J. Blidge said “Things go up and things fall down, I think they call that Love”. It’s normal for them to have doubts later

  140. I think she met her match but nnanna’s message was rude though..
    Well anybody can change so maybe just maybe she just started liking him for real now and lets just them roll on

  141. Nnanna’s accusation wasn’t true at all because Sharon was straight forward with him, his intent is to eat upThe girls income.

  142. without any doubt,Nnanna has a reason for being in that relationship,its so obvious,and Raphael should be careful because Sharon is hurting now and that might be the the reason why she needs him now

  143. Nnanna to me never loved her.why would a guy be checking how much his girl friend earns.not just that expecting her to foot their bills when they go out.he is selfish and stingy but Sharon kind of deserved that..and i think Raphael should take things easy with her because its possible she will wake up one morning and get another man for herself after all she has done it before. about itemizing Raphael’s strength and flaws she has the right to do so in other for her to know what she is getting herself into.

  144. There’s nothing wrong in calculating a suitor’s good and bad sides, although she’s too based on the appearance.

  145. You have said it all. Nnanna never had any interest in her. He is only interested in the material aspect. Base on itemizing her suitor’s strength and weakness, I think it is criterion used to express love, especially by women

  146. Nnanna is a big for nothing man. His text cannot be justified, he is a man and should be ashamed of himself expecting a lady to pay his bills always. In this century?! Please he should grow up and behave like a man he claim he is. I don’t see anything wrong in Raphael maintaining the fast pace of the relationship.

  147. I was never in support of this Nnanna guy.I sensed his attitude from the onset,Sharon should just kick his ass off.

  148. t’s so obvious that Nnanna is stll there jst for his selfish purpose…Sharon should just leave him!
    Raphael should just take t easy n other not to get heart broken again.
    weighng a suitor’s sternght nd weakness sn’t a wise decision at all.

  149. well i will take the relationship slowly if i were in his shoes and as for Nnanna he was up to no good he was just with her for what she has and m glad they ended.

  150. there’s no reason whatsoever that can justify Nnanna’s selfishness and non-commitment. I think it’s advisable for Raphael to take everything normal; no rush and no slowing down of things.Thing is, Raphael is a man of eloquence and a master in the phenomenon. His character here is laudable and a must learn from by both sexes of readers. it takes only the strong and patient to act like him.

  151. first of all, i would say he is a jerk! His text just proved that he didn’t genuinely love her and was only interested in what he could get from her and not what he could give.

  152. We never know what we have up until we lose it. I need not to be told whom the right man is. Sharon lists some odds in Raphael, what about her, she had been seeking unrealistic perfection…that’s it. Obviously, God wants to use Nnanna to show Sharon the other side of the coin.

  153. Nnanna never loved her one bit but after her wealth. Raphael is just opposite of that idiot, but he av to be careful so that he dont experience heart break and don’t make Hasty mistake again

  154. Nnanna is just a gold-digger who is interested in what he would benefit from the relationship and i think there is nothing wrong in someone analysing the flaws of her suitors

  155. Nnanna is a gold digger . He is also a selfish person. All accusations are not justified judging from his character.
    its true she hurt him but if he loves her he would rather take it slow this time around. Secondly itemising Raphaels flaws and strength is another way of saying what one wants in a guy. common, An average lady would do the same like me i like a guy with HOT SIX PACKS. Dhoooooooor!!!

      • I have always seen Nnanna to be selfish. I don’t even know why Sharon hasn’t cut her relationship with someone who is interested in only himself.
        As for Raphael, I can’t blame him. Love can at times make someone act stupidly.
        For Rachael, I am yet to understand her attitude. She is not being clear. She is just at the middle, not being specific and playing with Raphael’s emotions
        There is a lot of suspense at this point. I can only but wait for the next episode 😊

  156. Nnanna never loved sharon,so nw that things have gone bad with Nnanna,Raphael cn nw come into d picture in her life. Raphael should b cautious

  157. Nnanna was only after his gains… Nothing else.. I think Raphael should take it slow.. That will be best.. Making a list on your likes and dislikes about your suitor, is just a way of seeing or evaluating how much you like that person

  158. Nnanna just show that he came to eat sharon’s money, he is so materialistic. For me he should take it easy because girls can change their mind anytime. It is good to calculate one’s suitors strengths and flaws because to help a girl to know the level of her suitor.

  159. Nnanna and his games he is only after what his is going to gain, well i think Raphael should take it easy with Sharon.

  160. Nnanna’s behaviour is bad. He shows no remorse but the fact that he is in the relatio ship for what he can get.

    Rapheal believes in love, so I see no reason for him to take things slowly.

    Well, to increase my love for him and to know what I am getting my self into I’ll itemise all the “itemizable”.

  161. Nnanna’s text is a proof of the kind of inconsiderate person he actually is. His previous behaviour is nothing to write homw about. Come of think of it, what type of lawyer asks a lady to pay half of the launch bills or is he still in law school?( just asking). Nnanna is just a selfish man devoid of sacrifices.”lucky Raph” is keeping it fast in order to increase his chances at getting true love from the woman of his dreams, Sharon. These days, one cannot stick to sweet talks and good looks…the question also includes; can he pay the bills? Calculations or not, I think it is ideal for one to look beyond love.

  162. Nnanna is a big time gold digger. The guy is way too selfish and he couldn’t hide it. Such a gross parasite!

    To think he already knew the weight of Sharon’s pocket baffles me. Thinking of settling down with his type would be like building castles in the air.
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    If I was in Raphael’s shoes, I’ll take things easy. But I doubt if it’ll be applicable in Raphael’s case because this is what he has been longing for. lol. (Wetin he dey find for Sokoto, he has seen it in Shokoto) ?

    _
    Finally, I can weigh my suitors characters. If the bad sides outweigh the good sides then I’ll take to my heels. No time

  163. It’s obvious Nnanna never loved Sharon. To think he was so demanding and expected her to pay the bills just because she earns well. I don’t fancy a man that is so interested in my money, it tells bad on him.

    Initially, I was scared about Sharon and Raphael working closely and being together but as events are gradually unfolding, my fears have decreased. Sharon is starting to like Raphael and even if she is yet to fully admit it, she truly feels something for him.

    The itemizing of a thing she was doing with Raphael, checking out the good and bad sides or turnoffs is what most ladies do especially when they are confused about two men who like them. They tend to check the good and bad of the both of them and go for the one with less wahala.

  164. Sharon has learnt her lesson through her experience with Nnanna, and i think that is what is giving Raphael so much confidence that she wont hurt him a second time, which is really cool because that is the real definition of TRUST, he believes so much in the power of his love and have a understanding of who Sharon is and what she can and cannot do at this point, therefore, they can go at any pace. Weighing a persons strength and weaknesses is actually not a bad idea, at least, it will help you understand why you really like that person, how you can help make the person better (like the instance of tidying) and where you are suppose to complement each other when you finally become a couple.

  165. Nnanna is just a trashy man with no moral code, checking Sharon’s earnings… Chaii. I think Sharon needs to sit and talk to Raphael, maybe apologise for her past behavior, cause I feel bad about Raphael and how he has to deal with the fact that she baited him all alone.

  166. Nnanna is a gold digger. He never loved Sharon and to think that he knows how much she earns is outrageous. It show that he was snooping around and that kind gof a person is not right for a suitor because he is out for the money and to think that is the reason Sharon is running away from Raphael. I think Raphael should take it easy he should not rush the relationship considering the kind of treatment he received from Sharon before. Concerning the itemising of the Raphael good side and flaws I think many women do it this days and it is adviced that if you see at 6 out of 10 item that it is a go I don’t think there is anything wrong with that.

  167. Nnanna doesn’t love Sharon, he asked her out because he felt she has enough to spend. No matter how much a lady is earning, a man should be willing to spend on her and the lady too will reciprocate not just leaving thing to the man.
    Raphael should just take this their relationship one step at a time, probably there will be a happily ever after. I am so loving this story

  168. Nnanna doesn’t love Sharon, he asked her out because he felt she has enough to spend. No matter how much a lady is earning, a man should be willing to spend on her and the lady too will reciprocate not just leaving thing to the man.
    Raphael should just take this their relationship one step at a time, probably there will be a happily ever after. I am so loving this story seriously

  169. Nnanna is totally out of the question, exactly what kind of man would go to get info on how a woman who is not your wife earns. Gosh!! To think of it, he is a gold digger. A romantic moment I anticipate between Sharon and Raphael. I still wish them a happy marriage life in advance.

  170. Analysing the weakness of a suitor counts so that you will know how to follow him.nnana from All indication shows that he got into a relationship with Sharon because of the money she has, it wasn’t based on love at all. The type of Raphael is rare, loving someone that has already hurt you is not easily seen nowadays, instead you see them wanting to pay you back with hurt

  171. Am glad Sharon is coming back to her senses. Am also happy she is reconsidering the fact that Raphael can still make a good husband unlike Nnanna.

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