SAY “NO” TO STRESS-INDUCING COMPARISON
Everything in life is relative. It depends on what you’re comparing it with. Read a book by this American guy some years back. I think it was “Peaceful Living in a Stressful World” by Ronald Hutchcraft. Somewhere in it, he told a story of one time when he visited Japan. He said for the three weeks he was over there, he was a tall man. His height: 5ft 9in. or an inch more. I’m sure you catch the joke.
Well, I had the opposite experience a while back. Some precious people came over for a visit and we decided to take some pix on my narrow porch. I had no problem with the daddy* on my right but the brother on my left was standing like a palm tree. Wasn’t gonna let that happen.
“Stoop, man, you gotta stoop,” I said.
He did and we had a fair shot, not one in which two of us will look like midgets beside him. Lol!* But seriously, you know how the mind works: whenever I look at the pix in the future (if he had stood straight), something might be telling me, “Nne, you no try at all for your height oh!”*
Many of us won’t do that and we leave the door open for stress-inducing comparison somewhere down the road. It might be subtle but it takes something away from us. For example, people go out of their way sometimes to check out, through various media, how the affluent live. They gawk at mansions, cars, wardrobes and delicacies that make them feel so awful, like they aren’t even living at all.
So what are you comparing yourself with? Is it someone or something that makes you feel worthless and unaccomplished? You must have heard the quip about the half-full and half-empty glass. It’s time to look for other points of comparison, change your perspective, so that you realise you’ve got something too.
I’m not asking you to stop striving to be better or to have more feathers in your cap, but you can do it from a place of rest where you acknowledge what you already have and thank God for it.
Have yourself a beautiful weekend and remain blessed!
*daddy – In my part of the world, we call older men daddy.
*Lol – doesn’t imply I’m making fun of midgets but I’m laughing at how I bridged the gap in our heights.
*”Nne, you no try at all for your height oh!” is Pidgin English for “Miss, you didn’t come up at all in your height oh” which translates to “You are very short.” Although we shouldn’t, many of us, including yours truly, worry unduly about our height, weight, etc.
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