Edith Ohaja Grow your wings before you fly


[Guest Post]

When my fondness for my niece, Amanda, was budding, some of the many persons who took interest and followed suggested I start a Facebook page for her. I’ll never forget one already had a name for it: ‘Every Day Amanda.’ Cute, eh? LOL!

I’ve had a few other cool ideas thrown at me in moments I KNEW I was NOT ready to handle them WELL.

“Glo, you need to write a book.”

“You need to hold a training for poets, mahn. You’re good!”

“Why aren’t you considering a career in scriptwriting?”

And the one I almost always immediately dismiss: “I want you to be my mentor.” The two both of us need a mentor, my dear.???

We all MUST learn to make choices we can be responsible for, and NOT because we are riding on the confidence of others. For one who has some interest in fiction, a book I write has to be after learning life first-hand. You don’t bake certain lessons and truths overnight. You experience them.

I know people who have been motivated into doing things they barely have thorough skill or passion for, just because they had a flash of brilliance. Popular case studies would be the many teenagers and young adults who dived into the university to study courses their parents thought were ideal for them. Let’s not talk about that author who friends encouraged to write a book but they never bought a copy after it was published. LOL!

Edith Ohaja Grow your wings before you fly

It is possible to learn on the go, but much better still is committing to training for something YOU KNOW you aren’t great at YET. It is wise to not fool yourself. It is very wise to not drag people into your averageness with the promise of excellence. Be kind to yourself: GROW!

Think of yourself as a bird who wants to constantly soar in the sky. Such flights are beautiful, exhilarating, but unless the bird grows its wings first (with the corresponding muscles and feathers), it will naturally plummet soon after take-off. GROW.

Or envision yourself as a tree. It takes a process of growth above and beneath the soil to attain and maintain a lofty stature. That is when you breathe confidence and mastery. Your expression of your skill, art and devotion becomes authority.

So no matter how anyone praises you, never launch before you’ve equipped yourself. GROW.

Henry Glofame Okoli

About the author:
Henry Okoli, a.k.a ‘Glofame,’ is a trained journalist with a degree in Mass Communication from the University of Nigeria, Nsukka. As a spoken word poet and writer, he has traveled around Nigeria performing poetry that inspires purposeful living among Christians. Henry is also a photographer, cinematographer and content producer. For his day job, he works remotely with a copywriting and advertising agency, Spartan Konsult, that is based in Awka.

Henry will be taking questions in the main comment thread (not the Facebook comment thread) on how to acquire skills and function in some of the areas he is involved in. This is to ensure that the conversation is in one place and no one asks what someone else has already asked.

You can find him on Facebook as Henry Glofame Okoli and as @iamglofame on Instagram & Twitter.

Here’s a clip of Glofame’s spoken word poetry.


And an interview of him on Anambra Broadcasting Service (ABS)

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  • Egbo Paul Uchenna

    I concur to this.. I used to know a friend that delved into music because his friend said he’s good. Well not much can be written about his songs.
    Thank you for this lovely awakening. We seek grace to GROW!

  • Ezeh chimezie Amos

    That idea of parents or anybody choosing course to study in the university for someone is what I can never buy…… As the saying goes, “it is he who is wearing the shoe that knows where it is paining him.” We all as human beings know what we are capable of, so parents should allow their children decide on what they think they can do and watch them excel in that area rather than wanting the title of “mama lawyer or mama doctor” and so on.

  • Chukwuemeka Ifunanya Abigail

    The beauty of everything that one does is the satisfaction from a work well done. Thanks, ma, for your admonition. I am even among those that think u should be a mentor. Thank God for his great wisdom that is manifest in your life. I love you.

    • Uhmmm, it seems you missed that this is a guest post. It’s on the graphic, at the top of the post and literally all over the last one third of the post. ?
      You are blessed!

  • Opara Oluchi Dorathy

    Nice piece ma’am. Its a good one!
    I do not know if this rule of thumb applies to everyone or every situation? or should I say everyone has what works for them.
    So my contribution is, most times, people do not really know what they are capable of doing, their strengths and weaknesses and all of that, until they are being told by people around them…. “Oh! you’re really good at this, why don’t you venture into it and stuffs like that”. Even when they are not ready for the task, they at least give it a trial and in most cases it turns out so well for them.
    Sometimes, pursuing that thing we consider big, makes us grow too (speaking from personal experiences), because if I should wait till when I probably feel I have sufficient skills to undergo that task, I might lose interest in it.

    • Nice contribution but you’re missing the point. Let me illustrate. If someone tells you you have a good voice and you join the choir, is that the same thing as releasing a single or an album? The former is okay because it gives you the opportunity to practise and be trained even while showcasing your talent on a limited level. The latter should not be jumped into because much more training and professionalism are required to make it work. I hope you can see the difference. Bless you!

  • Daniel Orjikalu

    Very true. It is important to “grow your wings” first before flying or else you might just come crashing into the sea.

  • Glory Oluchi

    How I wish that every youth out there could read this. You hear everyone say, “proper preparation proceeds proper manifestation.” Ironically, the same people neglect the basis which is preparation and jump into manifestation. Where are people rushing to bikonu?? The most painful part is that we see this problem even in the body of Christ as it is not limited to the secular world. Many believers, once they start praying in tounges and seeing revelations, they will tell you that God has called them into ministry and they are going to start their own, forgetting that it took Jesus Christ thirty years to prepare for a three-year ministry. This is why we have many fake “men of God” today because their foundations are not strong enough to withstand the storm. May God help this generation in Jesus name

  • Michael Abije

    Exactly. The wings are the prerequisites for soaring high. It is indispensable.

  • Adumike Winifred Munachi

    Thank you for this Glofame, it’s very common now, everyone is doing one thing or the other, it’s good to work hard, but have you thought about it thoroughly, I know someone that is a farmer today, seamstress tomorrow, Baker the day after and a runway model on weekends, working so hard yet has very little to show for it, simply because she ventures into anything she sees without knowing if she can do it well, she believes she can learn on the job, but it hasn’t been working so far, why not retreat and rethink.

  • Ezeh John Onyekachi

    I concur with Glofame 100% on this matter.
    Can someone know you more than you know yourself?
    If the answer to that question is no, then it’s wrong as Glofame rightly and lucidly pointed out in his piece to delve into anything perhaps because someone else tells you that you’re good at such things.
    The reality you know about your ability and capability should be the driving force here.
    We must cultivate the culture of telling ourselves the truth. It will help a great deal in our learning process and attitude.

    Parents should allow their children go for courses of their interest where they have greater propensity to perform well.
    Interest is key to success in any human undertaking. No one gives their best in anything they don’t have passion for.

  • Anabude Oluchi m.

    It’s really vital that we don’t allow people’s praises to push us into doing anything because there is every need to make preparations and the experiences you will get along the line will be a plus to whatever you intend coming up with…because it’s not how far but how well that tells the story more.

  • Oshana Oyaku Endurance

    I feel this post is just for me, recently people have been disturbing me, saying, “Endy, get a shop na, see how good you are in sewing.” In my mind am like, am not ready, i feel i have not yet attained tbe perfection i wanna reach in tailoring. Thank you very much, Ma. You have always been a blessing to us.

  • Ejiofor Emmanuel

    “So no matter how anyone praises you, never launch before you’ve equipped yourself. GROW.”

    This quote did hit me. Trying to venture full time into something you are not yet good at can be very stressful on its own. Don’t because people tell you that “you are good in this or that” rush into it. See that flash of skill people praise you for as something you should develop before going full time into it.

  • Nwannah Juliana ngozi

    I totally agree with this writer but not everyone has the ability to say no to parents when they insist on a course to study in the university. I have friends who studied law but have no passion for it whatsoever just cause their parents wanted lawyers.
    Most of us are scared of leaving what the family is known for.
    Everyone needs to read this, I have realized that when you do what you love and prosper, parents will eventually come around.
    Thank you for this post ma. God bless

  • Leonard Patience

    Thank you Mr Glofame for this precise post.

    How did you manage to work as an advertiser, copywriter, cinematoographer, photographer and even a poet?
    Does it mean that it’s easy to combine these professions in the outside world?

    What can an undergraduate do to boost his/her advertising skills to be used in real-life situations, Sir?

  • Chidebe uchechukwu cyprian

    I really agree with you on the idea of making choices that you will be responsible for rather than riding on other people’s confidence. But in African society, you will agree with me that most times, it is very difficult to make your own choices due to pressure from the parents. For example, a child that wants to study a particular course of his or her dreams in the university, most times end up going for another course he or she doesn’t like due to parental infulence on the child’s decision. Most times the reasons behind that action is usually due to lack of job opportunities in that career chosen by the child or other reasons best known to them, but that particular course the child wants to study ends up as a mere dream which will never come to pass, so in that case the child finds him or herself riding on the parents confidence rather than self-made choices. They may even threaten not to sponsor the child in his or her academic pursuit if the child refuses to consider their choice. In this case, growing one’s wings to fly becomes very difficult and most times people hardly do well in doing what they don’t like.. no matter how they try….. I really enjoyed it keep it up. This is just my own opinion.. I stand to be corrected, if i misunderstood the concept…

  • Obong Phebe

    Yeah; the best gift to give oneself is to be kind and realistic with yourself Cause no one will. And the practical ways are: growing physically, mentally, academically, spiritually and other aspect of life.

  • Nnachetam favour chinecherem

    I remember reading a book ‘Talent is not enough’ by ‘John C. Maxwell’ he really handled this subject extensively. No matter how good you are, give yourself to training, growth and development. Even people as good as Dan Lok and Robert Kiyosaki still attend seminars and meetings to stay up to date. Just like Jesus, he didn’t launch out until he was 30. We should ask ourself what he was doing all those while. Thanks a lot, Ma, for this piece.

  • Obiemeka Favour Chukwugozie

    I actually agree with you on this , sometimes we go into things because people say we are good and end up crashing because we didn’t grow that passion or talent.

  • Ossai Chidimma Linda

    I totally agree with you, in a spur of brilliance I created a Facebook page while in secondary school for writing and sharing health contents , I couldn’t keep up. I didn’t plan, didn’t think, I just did and it was short-lived.

  • Cynthia ihekwoaba

    Is it possible to study mass communication and not want to venture into it in the future?

    • It’s not only possible to not want to practice what you learnt in school, it is possible to pursue a totally different line of work from what one learnt in school. There are many Mass Comm. graduates in banks and some retrained to be nurses, teachers, etc, especially those who went to live abroad after graduating in Nigeria.
      But Mass Comm. is so vast and encompasses many disciplines, so there are so many areas to choose from beyond journalism.
      Besides, communication is so central to human life and with the enormous use of virtual means to do business, worship, etc., communication skills are becoming terribly important in almost every field of endeavour.

      • Aṅulika Iwoba

        This is profound and rich.
        It is easy to become carried away by the cheers of peers and fans and dabble into a trade or career you lack the competence and knowledge to deliver excellence in.
        The tragedy is double: you introduce your audience or clients into mediocrity or even worse, and you brand yourself as ignorant, incompetent or even a charlatan.
        We all need reminders like this to propel us to excellence.
        The confidence of others in us isn’t enough to push us to work hard enough to become masters of our art.
        Also, it takes a lot of honesty to admit that we are not knowledgeable or skilled enough to produce or start up something even when everyone else thinks we have all it takes.
        The post is deeply appreciated.
        Many thanks to the author.

  • Michael Abije

    Very punchy and catchy presentation

  • Glory Uzo-chinonye

    I really admire your capabilities, Mr Henry Okoli, your ability to fit in to different fields in Mass communication effectively. I want to know what necessary quality and skill i need to be a very outstanding spoken word poet.

  • Favour Brown

    Thanks, Sir. I love this!

    This reminded me of when I finished my SSCE, my cousin that I stayed with wanted me to go into hairdressing because of the way I used to pack her hair so beautifully to the admiration of others. But within me, I knew I never wanted to do another thing then than go to computer school. That was my passion while waiting for the money for my University education, because I love everything pertaining to education.

    So I had to tell my uncle; “Sir, i will love to go to computer school” the man said wouldn’t you like to further your education? I told him I will, but I must go to computer school first. Because I wanted to know how all these beautiful flyers, posters and many Beautiful things computer produces can be done. So even when my father asked me, I still gave him the same response and they were shocked.

    I thank God at the end of the day I was given the opportunity to do what i had so much passion for.

    Praise be to God even now I’m so much happy because I have benefited a lot of friends eith my computer training. I even have cyber now which has helped me so much financially and otherwise.

    It’s always good to do that which you have passion for.

  • Haruna precious ikilama

    Passion is the basis for every idea or whatever we plan to do. And while passion is a major driving force,we cannot neglect the importance of growth and/or personal development in one’s pursuit be it a career or whatsoever. As an individual it’s not ideal to continue being a greenhorn or ride on the praise of others or even comfort yourself with the thought of growing on some later date. You need to grow NOW so as to broaden your horizon and that of the people around you.

  • Awaka Vivian oluchi

    Reading this piece, I feel directly spoken to. I have this mentality of being the best at what you do, but so many of my friends see it as being lazy. They say stuff like “you’re good at what you do, why not render services”on my own side I feel like I can’t settle for mediocre.” No matter how anyone praises you, never launch Before you’ve equipped yourself.grow!!

  • Awforkansi Kamsi

    Diving into a career or business path just because of words from friends might leave you stranded at some point. Excellence, passion and will power should be the determining factor for anything. A little push here and there from friends but only as motivation and not a main factor.
    Unfortunately, this is an everyday situation for young Nigerians looking to study in universities. Parents picking career paths for their wards for its popularity or because they want to see a reflection of them in their children.
    A question for the writer, what advice can you give to someone looking to start a career in advertising?

  • Wow…this was what happened to my immediate elder brother, he was so good with animals and was encouraged to start a poultry business which he did without learning from an expert. When the birds were just a month old, he had to sell them off because he couldn’t take care of them nor afford their feeds… it’s good to grow capacity for things first before going into them….
    Henry Sir, you are highly talented. I enjoyed the rap poem!!!

  • Michael Abije

    Thanks for the motivation. Reading indeed leads to not only leadership but also Prolific writer. I have to grow my wings before any attempt to fly; soaring higher above the average level of the flyers.

  • Amaugo, Stephanie Chidinma

    Thank you so much Glofame! ? Please when did you venture into cinematography and photography? Was it a skill you learnt as a student or did you learn after school? How did you start? I’m asking because I have interest in this media field. Thank you so much.

  • Kooyon Abigail Aershimana

    Here is what I always tell people “learning is endless and so is self development”. You can never get better until you’re better.
    Just like the example of a tree’s growth so is our career/skills process of acquisition. It takes time and it is a gradual process. Before you become a wizard in whatever you do, you must go through the due processes without skipping any.
    We don’t become graduates without starting from the scratch.
    Na small small o
    And in all, ensure you have flair, love and enjoy what you do.
    Cheers Mr Glofame.


    Lesson for everyone :

    “We all MUST learn to make choices we can be responsible for, and NOT because we are riding on the confidence of others.”

  • Ochekwu Caroline Ene

    In this 21st century I feel parents, most especially strict parents who decide for their children what to study in school, should take a step back and allow their children to have a say in their future. They should stop trying to impose things on them just in order to continue their own legacy.

  • Ewenike Kaosisochukwu Bethel Pedro

    This post makes me imagine myself studying Law??.. Thank God for my life though. Parents choosing course of study for their children should be a thing of the past in this 21st century. We should always go for our own choices/dreams no matter who is involved.

  • oforgu ifeanyi Augustine

    Getting to the top is not easy, but maintaining a balance at the top is a work to practically energize. One has to be at his best in what ever endeavour they subscribe to… Consistency smoothens the path of mastery and confidence frame work.

  • I so much learnt a lot from this post
    I must grow my wings before flying in order to keep on and not crash, above all to be able to reach my point of destination.
    Making choices that one can be responsible for is an important point here. One shouldn’t venture into something he or she knows nothing about just because of praises by people.

  • I totally agree with this.
    One has to grow his or her wings before flying. Nowadays most people rush into things without a second thought. We must learn to make the right choices and not to involve in things because others are or be forced to. We have to make choices that we would be happy at the end with.

  • Thanks ma, ready to fly without thinking to have wings is mostly the reason of not improving in writing.

  • Meeting you is not just a privilege but also a blessing.

  • Oruma Nneoma Goodnews

    “We all MUST learn to make choices we can be responsible for, and NOT because we are riding on the confidence of others”
    This line spoke millions to me while i was reading the writeup.I am a victim of the mistake of making choices based on the confidence of others.Yes,I am.I have read this and i want to ask: When do i know i am ready to do something not because someone praised my abilities? This writeup is motivational and at the same time informative.I wish the answer to my question can be immediate so that i do not make further mistakes.I really want to know what time is the right time to launch out as a poet or a writer.Thank you so much Ma

    • The article is not saying you should hide your gifts but when you get the required training and see great improvement in your craft is when to launch. Prayer is important too because God as our guide can get us all the help we need to grow and open doors before us when we are mature enough to launch.

  • Adebanjo Adenike Rebecca

    Doing things without proper knowledge of your willingness and ability to it might lead one to unexpected end of begging the question’How did I get here? Don’t get started when you haven’t grown your wings for proper soaring.

  • Nwatu Vera Chisom

    I LOVE THIS!!!!
    This is a typical example of learning how to walk before running so as not to make avoidable mistakes and loses. For example because your friends appreciates your voice does not necessarily mean you should release an album without proper grooming of your voice (which may take months or even years), these are small steps that actually matter!

  • Abiayi Ifeonuchukwu

    We must learn to make choices for us and not based on the words of others because every decision made concerning us, seemingly affects us. That idea of parents or anybody choosing a course to study in the university for someone is what I can never buy….
    I always wanted to study foreign language not necessarily because it was what I wanted but because my mum loves it so much but couldn’t get to study it,and so I decided to do it just to make her happy. Yes I love french a lot but I don’t think my love for it would have seen me through the years of study.
    This post is really inspiring and I hope someone out there who sees this will not make mistakes in choices simply to please others.

  • Chikwesiri Uka

    “We all MUST learn to make choices we can be responsible for, and NOT because we are riding on the confidence of others”. Very true, we shouldn’t let people’s expectations decide what we want to do for ourselves.

  • Doing things with passion, things you value are more important than what people say.

  • Ugwu comfort

    It is always a good thing to grow yourself both inner mind and outter side of it before endeavouring into any thing to avoid crashing and burning down like an airplane that is loosing control, don’t do things cause someone or your very good friend is into it,do that which you think is the best achieving to you not because others are into or praising you to do it,if not you will find yourself cracking on the ground like a wall that is not cemented very well,I have a friend who went into studying Mass communication because she want to fullfil his parents ideas of becoming a journalist while her aim going into theatre and film studies.

  • John Adoyi

    Having passion is good but grooming your passion and skills will help you be a better person at what you do.

  • Ajah Ugochi Agnes

    “We all MUST learn to make choices we can be responsible for, and NOT because we are riding on the confidence of others”. I agree with this. People should not be forced into doing things that they don’t want most especially our parents. We need to give room for people to grow their wings before they fly.

  • Sochi

    I love this write-up. First of all I have to say that passion is the main thing in whatever anyone is doing in life because someone might do well in a course his/her parents chose for her or in anything at all because he/she is naturally brilliant. But without passion,the urge to do better or soar higher will not be there. Even the joy won’t be there,I really wish most Nigerian parents would see this.

    • Okeke Obinna Clinton

      I think everything points down to passion, alot of people can’t be able to acheive great things if there’s no passion to it

  • We should try not to do things because of what people say, make decisions that u are responsible for.

  • Ezeh Loveth chinemerem

    It is necessary for one to have passion for something before going into that.without following what others say

  • Obiogwu Onyinye

    “It is wise to not fool yourself”, I really think that is the whole story cut short. You know yourself better and you know what you are good at or what best u can do so allowing the “praises” of people get into you is an error.

  • Udegbulam Favour Oluchi

    Very true! Before you venture into anything in life, make sure that you’ve equipped yourself with the necessary materials. It’s more going to a battle field without proper orientation.


    It’s not advisable to ride without learning how to ride
    Nice and motivational.


    (“It is possible to learn on the go, but much better still is committing to training for something YOU KNOW you aren’t great at YET.”) this line actually hit me like a tornado!

  • Chinenye Enwerem

    There’s is the need to grow one’s wings before flying, not just growing it but growing it to maturity else one risk crashing to the ground.

  • Ugwu Somtochukwu

    Indeed, there is great need to train ourselves before venturing into anything in life. Thank you very much Ma for always inspiring us.

  • Obiora Miracle onyinyechi

    I actually agree with you on this , sometimes we go into things because people say we are good and end up crashing.there is need for ones wings to grow before flying.

  • Chibuife Isaac Chukwuebuka

    Wonderful!! We need to have passion for something before we indulge in it.

  • Ugwu Somtochukwu

    Indeed, there is great need to train ourselves before venturing into anything in life. Thank you Ma for always inspiring us.

  • Chilaka Vivian

    This is really deep.”grow your wings before you fly” that I am inspired does not mean that I am qualified enough to start. Preparation is most necessary.

  • Wakwe Stephanie Ada

    This us really inspiring I used to know a friend who loved writing but along the line she backslided and stopped writing but after few chats and inspirational quotes she has started to write again.

  • Eze Nelson Emeka

    “So no matter how anyone praises you, never launch before you’ve equipped yourself. GROW.”Learn to be and trust yourself in any situation and also have God as your backbone and the sky will be your starting point.

  • Wow, nice piece. Grow your wings before you fly. We learn everyday

  • Following your passion will take you to where you are suppose to be in life. We should not allow others make decisions for us.

  • Ibeh Lorretta Chiamaka

    The idea of making choices that we can’t give account for us wrong. This might be as a result of pressure from our family and also base on what people say about us. This result to us crashing before we reach our destination

  • Ossai Judith mmesoma

    We should learn to be matured and act that way without listening to praises. Learn to grow because you have to not because of What others say

  • You have said it all ma, it’s very very very important l mean essential to grow…. your wings first! before you fly in order not to risk crashing.

  • Emmanuel Eze

    Hmn “grow your wings before you fly” it can be so true as I have seen people motivated by the crowd’s praises end up in destruction…


    Most times it is good to dream big but should be ready to work towards achieving them with great zeal.

  • Emmanuel Eze

    Hmn “grow your wings before you fly” this can’t be more true as I have seen people motivated by the crowd’s praises end up in destruction

  • Growth is actually a process that makes one better in what they do. To become a better leader or teacher one needs to grow. Experience is the best teacher. Someone who has gone through training and has experience in a particular area has a better impact on his student than someone who hasn’t.

  • Udop Reyner Ivor

    I get to realize other people’s confidence in us should not be enough to give us the go ahead(greenlight) to dive into fields we ought to take time to think about before venturing into.

  • Nwoke uchenna

    With the right motivation and God on our side we can overcome anything.

  • Alaedu Chioma Gloria

    The passion has to be there first
    Secondly,improving on it is essential before launching it

  • Eze Goodness mmesoma

    Yes sometimes you might have a hidden talent you are not aware of it . It’s people that will bring it out in you and before you go further you have to get the necessary training required in that filled for an effective result

  • Nebo cynthia chinaza

    This is a good advice mostly for us the youths, its very very true, and it important that we grow our wing before soring high into the air because one does not expect a crop of any kind without him or her growing or planting them.

  • Chukwukanne chinecherem winner

    Decision taking is one thing every human is afraid of. We should learn how to take decisions on our own and not let people to decide for us because we are the one to live with our decision and not them.
    It is possible to learn on the go, but much better still is committing to training for something YOU KNOW you aren’t great at YET. This line really says a lot to me.

  • Ibrahim Mariam

    Firstly after reading this post my stand on doing something you have passion grew because doing what you don’t like or have passion for is the very first mistake because every small wind can throw you off Bal but with passion and self çhioce you keep pushing for greater heights.thank u so much ma.

  • Phillips faith

    Very true and important. I agree to this…..Am not of the idea or support of parents choosing courses for their children to study in university. Cause there Is this great joy one gets in doing what he or she wants to do and is satisfied and successful. Indeed we should grow our wings before we fly to avoid crashing.

  • Olusola Esther

    The reason most people don’t succeed in what they set out to achieve is that they fly even before their wings are fully developed.

  • Precious Udeh

    Ma. this Post is inspirational, because we live in the World of copy copy and follow follow, people want to do what others do or try to immitate Mr/Mrs A because he/she thought if he goes that way he will succeed not knowing that everyone has his or her own destiny that lies in his or her hands.

  • Okafor Agatha Ifeoma

    We should not be in a hurry to do something because others are doing it or you are persuaded to do so

  • Chukwu Joy Chioma

    I’ve heard people say “just start” and now this post talks about growing one’s wings.
    I now understand that the “wings” are indispensable to success.

  • Onoh Chinenye

    This piece oozes of wisdom, Sir. You’ve certainly addressed a truth that most people have refused to tell to themselves. You’ve called them out and exposed them but most all, you’ve also taught them a great lesson. Growth is key and it comes first before all else.

  • Chisom Efobi

    One needs to find pleasure doing something before venturing into it as well as check the advantages, disadvantages, implications and setbacks not just rushing into it.
    Most people, businesses, face challenges today because of rush because your friend is doing it doesn’t mean you have to
    All we need to do is ask God to show us our talents and destinies

  • Elijah Akuma

    I love this piece. It is necessary that people concentrate in strengthening their wings before giving flight a trial. Aside just writing or doing what one is passionate about, doing it well is an underlying desire. There is therefore every need for trainings and mentors to strengthen and guide our way all through the process.

  • Chukwuma Ifeanyi Williams

    We all should all be sure of our skill in a particular thing and not just dive into it, based on sheer confidence or hype from others.

  • Iwuchukwu Vivian Chinagolum

    It’s important we acquire necessary skills and passion before we venture into a business.

  • Mecha Favour

    We need to sit and learn, this is a growing process . We should not dive into things others think we are good at , we need to know what we want and learn it from the scratch.

  • Njepuome Nmesoma .O.

    Excellent post.
    We live in a world where everybody is eager to succeed at something without putting in their efforts or perfacting their skills in it
    Lets not be in a hurrry,
    never launch before you’ve equipped yourself. GROW !!

  • Amalu precious

    “do not be quick to go into something just because someone else says you’re good but you have have to know you’re good and have the required experiences needed for venturing into that particular field”

  • Ugwu Doris chinenye

    Try to see that you spend time growing your wings to make it strong. Adding more strength and work to develop yourselves. Not going after what you know nothing about or starting what you can not finish.

  • Dennis Lovelyn Chisom

    The author has said it all.
    One has to do something because he/she loves doing it. We don’t have to live on others validation.

  • Okwa Ihuoma Jessica

    Take time to undergo proper training and knowledge acquisition before venturing into a business idea or course etc. GROW

  • Don’t do things because others are doing it,don’t displease your self in tying to please anyone especially when it comes to choosing a carier. Always do that which you can be proud of,and don’t forget to ask God for his Sufficient Grace because its only his grace that can take you far in life

  • Nwikwu chidera judith

    This is nice. I have never liked the fact that parents choose a course for their child and when they are done with the course they won’t have any passion towards working in that profession. Also you need hardwork and perseverance instead of jumping into things.

  • Ugwu Bridget

    Don’t fly until you have trained properly. Thank you Glofame.

  • Akpan Sarah Precious

    Indeed it is very necessary to grow our wings before we think of flying.
    We shouldn’t just do something because we feel we are good it or someone persuaded us into doing it.We need to be passionate about the things we want to do, take a proper check and keep learning before taking risks.

  • Williams Blessing Ngozi

    It is not really necessary and relevant for parents or guardians choosing a course of study for their children or wards . They should try and allow their children make some decisions on their own . With this they will be able to know their weaknesses, strength and possible ways for them to improve and do better if not best.

  • Charles Flourish Iheoma

    I really love the part where he said you can’t just wake up and start writing some truths or lessons overnight, you have to experience them first, that’s what gives your story it’s essence.

  • Boton Chiamaka Maryann

    Many are in quest for recognition and game forgetting that an achievement comes in due process.

  • Zita Ezechi

    It is important to plan and not only to plan, but to plan well
    Before doing something,make sure you are fully ready regardless of what others may say or think

  • Zita Ezechi

    So many lessons to be learnt here
    Alot of youths these days jump to various activities including businesses without proper planning or passion
    Thanks for sharing

  • Ubabunike David

    To Soar higher, we need to have passion for something, we need to be patient and consistent, what is yours will be yours.

  • Nwawulu Arinze

    Getting to the top is not easy, but maintaining a balance is a work to practically energize. One has to be at his best in what ever endeavour they subscribe to… Consistency smoothens the path of mastery and confidence frame work.

  • Adimorah perpetual

    I must say this is interesting ma, one should be ready to learn so he/she will be good with it. People face challenges because they just want to jump into something without getting to know how the thing works e.g business.

  • Eze Goodness Mmesoma

    Passion and zeal is one thing somebody have to possess before doing something so to avoid doing things just because they told you to do it.

  • Victoria Chigere

    Never allow anyone choose what isn’t best for you, always decide on what matters to you, choose what’s always best for you not because you’ve been told to.

  • Onwudiwe rita oluebube

    You truly don’t bake certain lessons and truth overnight. You experience them first. Building one’s confidence in a particular skill makes one soar higher in such skill…..thank you Glofame for this beautiful piece

  • Aroh Anthonia Ifeoma

    One truly needs to train oneself well before venturing into anything in life so as not to crash on the way. I’m not your definition of an ideal writer, I write short stories on life experiences but I get prodding from friends to do something large which I’m not ready for. Thank you for this piece

  • Nweze Somto Maryann

    We should follow our passion and do what we want and not allow others make decisions for us. Be responsible for your decisions.

  • Sunday Chenka Esther

    Thanks Glofame for this inspiring piece!. Indeed “Unless the bird grows it’s wing first, it will naturally plummet soon after take-off”. There should be a level of mastery before you show yourself out to the world. Value received.

  • Okochi Chinonso

    It’s a clear reminder that less is more when realizing the abundance of conveniences, shortcuts. You should go through each phase well then fly

  • Often times we just want to implement an idea without nurturing it and growing,ensuring we are skilled in it before showing the world. Growing means that you become experienced and equipped and fully baked before going into that field.

  • People will always suggest different views and decisions about you, the only way to achieve your goals is to do what you know its the best for you and not what others think

  • Aguguesi God'sfavour Idimmachukwu

    We should endeavor to groom our self properly before we start venturing into our ideas, so that when the storm comes we can be able to withstand it

  • Ikechukwu Favour Mmesoma

    I believe our destination is not as important as the process that helps us get there because it is the character and skills we have spent time to learn during the process that will sustain us when we get to our destination.
    Why hurry and be put to shame at last when we can take it one step at a time and emerge victorious at last. Stay in the process!!

  • Maureen

    I love this. A times, being gifted with a talent is not enough. It is necessary to undergo mentorship and training as it leads to perfection


    Preparation is very necessary, when one discover his or her potentials he/ she needs to prepare to be perfect in it and not to jump into it and start doing it. For instance, if I have passion for singing I will like to learn from people who can sing very well and not to start singing in pulpit.

  • Dick-Unegbu Jennifer

    Never be in a haste, Grow physically and spiritually before flying high because can not do certain things overnight.

  • Chukwumalume Ozioma

    The idea of “growing one’s wings” involves taking/making responsible actions/choices based on one’s passion and developing at one’s pace.

  • Iyorakpo Dorathy

    Hardwork, persistence and commitment need to be put in inorder for one to soar high in whatever field. Beautiful piece ma

  • This taught me, to learn how to make choice we can be responsible for, and this takes a process, one needs to undergo training before making a decision that he/she can be responsible for

  • Nnochiri Chinecherem Nnabuike

    I agree on this, before we can achieve our dreams we must first improve our skills.

  • Chinweuba Blessing Oluchi

    I agree that u need to have a depth of knowledge before venturing into anything. Definitely u need wings to fly

  • Uyanna chibuike

    I absolutely agree with this post.most people are fond of this. The tend to dive into things that they didn’t take their time to acquire knowledge or undergo proper training just because their friend or someone praised them for doing something close or similar to it.

  • Odey-Oko Victor

    People will tell you things to motivate you but will never support you, in your bid of starting something you should make sure you’re not influenced by anyone’s view and you should be able to think for yourself

  • I love the headline; “Grow Before You Fly” ….. One should know more about his or her abilities first before going about and claiming that they know more .

  • Anarah Chisom Chigoziem

    I really believe this particular post is meant for me ❣️

  • Ugwuanyi Charity

    YES, We should always choose the career we are good at and also enjoy doing. You shouldn’t do thing because others do it

  • Igboka chidimma

    All fingers are pointing on the”so no matter how anyone praises you,never launch before you’ve equipped yourself.grow” which is the fact that rushing into what you can’t do just because you were told that you can.

  • Chinweuba Blessing Oluchi

    It is important to have a detailed knowledge before venturing into anything so the need to get wings before you fly.

  • Soje praise

    In life, don’t take decisions based on other people’s opinions and believe. Experience life for yourself.

  • Agbo Chidiebere

    It isn’t nice to delve into things just because people think you can do well in them. You need to be sure of yourself. An excellent read.

  • Udoji Oscar Obinna

    I’m so happy to be alive today to read through this article…
    Very influential
    Thank you so much ma!

  • Ama Mitchelle Chisom

    This post feels somewhat personal because I went through the stage of wanting to launch something I wasn’t really sure about but I had a pretty good idea about it and I had to slow down and actually reflect and think about what I really wanted to do.

  • Agbedo Ebubechukwu

    Try planning out whatever you want to do and make sure you’re good with it before diving in. Also, do this because it’s your passion and what you want, not because you’re being forced to do so.

  • Ede Ndidiamaka Patience

    It’s good to undergo training in any skill one wants to be perfect in. There is time for everything, time to learn and time to create.

  • All I see here is self-determinism, making the right choices, good planning and setting the right goals.
    You have to start from below, that’s why it’s called a starting point before moving up gradually, there is no easy or short way to success.

  • Jennifer chisom

    Nice post ma. In life one should never allow anyone to make choice for him or her to avoid future mistakes in life.

  • We are expected to be who we are all not what people expects us to be .
    Self confidence

  • Onuzulike Chukwuebuka Prosper

    We shouldn’t be in a hurry to acquire fame. We should first know the things we have passion for and strive to achieve them, therefore don’t be engrossed by praises

  • Ekeh ifunanya Cynthia

    The post is inspiring,it takes a gradual process(growth)and lots of work for us to be able to achieve better.

  • Iheme Akunna

    Thanks for the piece of information because it’s a “trending beats” if I should out it this way in the sense that we live in an age where friends and folks decides what we do through persuasion. I’ll flow through with this and share on my group chats.


    We live in an age where friends and folks decides what we do through persuasion. I’ll flow through with this and share on my group chats.

  • Wow..the tittle of this post is so attracting. It takes patience and handiwork to success. We shouldn’t be too quick in this world

  • Godwin chiemerie janemary

    Determination and passion for something is very important, if one need to soar higher.

  • Bassey Katherine akpan

    Good planning and well preparation are keys to destiny throned.

  • Onyenekwe Ihechi Prince

    This is really eye-opening. Thank you so much for every line of this piece. Really, one does not need to delve into something because of the confidence of others. You know you are not at the peak yet so still put yourself under better training and when you flap your wings, you’ll be assured of your first flight to greater heights. I’m inspired, Ma!

  • Agelege Edward

    Thank you for this amazing piece. A lot of people need this enlightenment.

  • Chukwumezie Udochukwu Emmanuel

    Choices are the keys to our destinies.

  • Chidiebele Ojuanu O.

    It is essential to train your wings in whatever you’re doing so you don’t crash the moment you take flight.

    Thank you for this, ma.

  • Gbatalibe uchenna Mildred

    Never make decisions on what people think you can do rather make decisions of your life on your capabilities and learn about those areas you are not perfect in.

  • Chinaza Ugwuoke

    People will see you do one thing and already assume that you’re a genius on that. But for your own good learn to master a craft before diving in on it.

  • Obasi Precious Perpetual

    Yeah we should not actually dive into doing what others think it’s good for us without being sure about it.

  • Ozioko favour Ada

    Your message resonates with the importance of self-development and readiness before taking on new challenges. It’s a wise reminder to prioritize personal growth and mastery.

  • Goodness Obi

    I totally agree with this, it’s good to just go for it, but at the same time, it’s good to equip yourself before doing so

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