5 THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU ARE GIVING BUT SEEM NOT TO BE RECEIVING
I went to visit a friend some years ago. She felt the need to unburden herself and I was glad to listen. She told me that she felt like a ladder. What an analogy! What was happening in her life to make her think like that? She explained that it looked like she existed to assist others climb up to higher heights but she didn’t see herself ascending as well. My heart went out to her because I understood what she was talking about.
She had helped her relatives who were of her generation to be established, then she lived with some of their children and did the same. At the time we were speaking, she was living with some children of that last group. That would be the third generation of relatives. She wasn’t a very rich lady, just very caring and always giving.
As a result, she was sometimes in need but the people close to her generally saw her as someone to get from, not someone to give to. They hardly sent her cash or stuff of their own accord and when she did ask, they didn’t take it seriously or they gave excuses. They sometimes asked her what she did with her money simply because she didn’t have biological children but I can testify that she didn’t treat the young people living with her any less. At some point, the lady adopted children whom she could call her own to prevent being left empty-handed after investing so much in other people’s children.
Have you ever felt like this lady, like you’re giving and giving and not getting much in return? I know I have, on many occasions. And I know from my interactions that it’s the same with quite a number of other Christians. This can be quite discouraging.
Here are some things you should remember if you fall into that category.
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5 THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU ARE GIVING BUT SEEM NOT TO BE RECEIVING
1. If people usually come to you for help, it means you are special, loving and dependable. I think it’s a privilege to give and if people often see you as their source of aid, they are saying they believe God will answer their prayers for material support through you. What an honour!
I would add that it is usually God who directs many of the people you assist to come to you. You may not be tremendously rich like my friend but you are committed to sharing what you have with others. I want you to know that God values your ministry in this area and trusts you enough to make you His extended hand to others.
But you must avoid oversubscribing yourself. Some people who aren’t truly in need sometimes take advantage of other people’s good nature. They often rush in and if you’re not careful, they collect the resources you could use to take care of your family or those who are truly needy. An example is when someone lies that he or she has no food but uses your money to drink or gamble. Falling prey to such people would overstretch you and may push you to feel bothered by the level of needs you are “expected” to meet.
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Therefore, pray that you discern who you should assist and in what way. You won’t be useful to anyone if you burn yourself out physically, financially and materially. And don’t feel guilty that you don’t help everyone. Only God can. Your duty is to do what He wants you to. He can raise others to take care of the rest.
Your giving should run on grace and divine direction, not on human pressure and a bloated sense of obligation.
2. When you give, you have obeyed God’s commands to be kind and that puts you in right standing with God. That, I believe, is a wonderful return. It is true that the Bible promises receiving for giving in Luke 6:38, for instance, but if you obsess about receiving, you will lose sight of the scriptures that say to give without expecting anything back.
“33. And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same. 34. And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again. 35. But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.” – (Luke 6:33-35)
When you have the attitude commanded in these scriptures, you will be able to overcome when your mind is barraged by thoughts of your giving not being reciprocated adequately or at all. You will know that you have done what is most important – obeying God – not minding whether the outcome is pleasing to you or not.
3. God is rewarding and will continue to reward your giving. The Bible assures us that those who give are lending to the Lord and He will repay them (Proverbs 19:17).
Similar promises can be found in other scriptures like the two below:
“Whoever brings blessing will be enriched, and one who waters will himself be watered.” – (Proverbs 11:25 ESV)
“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” – (Luke 6:38)
I do not think the Lord makes promises lightly. You better believe He will keep His word. The payback may not come as speedily as you hoped for but know that God will surely remember you.
“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” – (Galatians 6:9)
Note that when God chooses to bless you materially, it may not be through those you blessed. That does not make His blessings less of a reward simply because they may come through those whom you never assisted before. The earth and all those in it belong to the Lord and He can move anybody He wishes to do His bidding.
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4. The reward for your giving may not always come in material terms.
“1. Blessed is he that considereth the poor: the Lord will deliver him in time of trouble. 2. The Lord will preserve him, and keep him alive; and he shall be blessed upon the earth: and thou wilt not deliver him unto the will of his enemies. 3. The Lord will strengthen him upon the bed of languishing: thou wilt make all his bed in his sickness.” – (Psalm 41:1-3)
“He hath dispersed, he hath given to the poor; his righteousness endureth for ever; his horn shall be exalted with honour.” – (Psalm 112:9)
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In the scriptures above, the Bible is speaking of healing and upliftment. The latter does not always translate to more money. It may be influence and being highly regarded.
In addition, there is great joy that arises from giving, from making a needy person’s heart to sing as Job calls it. (Job 29:13) Only those who are steadfast in giving know that joy.
Above all, an eternal reward awaits you when the Lord Jesus returns as He taught us in the Parable of the Sheep and the Goats.
“31. When the Son of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy angels with him, then shall he sit upon the throne of his glory: 32. And before him shall be gathered all nations: and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats: 33. And he shall set the sheep on his right hand, but the goats on the left. 34. Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: 35. For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: 36. Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me.” – Matthew 25:31-36
5. You can influence the outcome of your giving to a certain extent by training those under you to appreciate you. If you spend years catering to others without mentioning your problems, they may assume you have all you need. By the time you start broaching the idea of them helping you, it would be hard for it to register in their minds.
I’m not preaching putting oneself before others but helping people around you to realise you are also human and have needs such that as you expend yourself for them, they spare some thoughts for you too when occasion demands. For example, if you’re a parent, tell your children your birthday, open up to them about your challenges, etc. Let them sing “Happy birthday” to you and draw you something even if it’s all they can do. Let them pray for you as well. If you do this, when they become busy adults, they will be more likely to remember and send you something for special occasions or when you need help.
You can also pray that the enemy does not abort the fruit of your giving or steal your reward. In places where witchcraft is practised, spells are sometimes cast to prevent people that others may be assisting from amounting to anything or to make those who should support other folks to neglect their responsibilities. Some young people are “remote controlled” to go from problem to problem, wasting the funds spent by their sponsors on their education.
Similarly, aged parents have been known to be abandoned by their children whom they sacrificed much to train and establish in life. Children may be hexed to pick unnecessary quarrels with their parents and adopt other extended family members or total strangers to enjoy their largesse.
You need to pray against such manipulations in the name of Jesus.
Giving is one of the wonderful ways we can serve as co-workers with God as we are called in 1 Corinthians 3:9. No matter what the outcome looks like, do not relent.
And always remember that, as the Lord Jesus said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35). Hold on to that and the Lord will never cease to show His faithfulness in your life.
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May God cheer you up and increase your grace for giving. May He multiply your earnings and meet your needs so that you will never lack what to give. May He continually show You that He sees and values your labour of love in Jesus’ name.
The scriptures in this post are from the King James Version of the Holy Bible except where otherwise stated.
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