THURSDAY EVENING RAGE (SHORT STORY)
This is a fictional story but it’s very convincing. I hope you enjoy it and learn one or two things from it. I welcome your civil reactions to the story and would love that you share it on social media. (Professor mentioned in one of the graphics is used in the American sense of a university academic staff, not just the Ogas at the top.)
Thursday Evening Rage
Juanita was in a murderous mood that Thursday evening. It had become a pattern at the same time every week. Thursday evenings were becoming her least favourite time of the week. She was so mad her chest was tight and her breathing hard. Someone clearly needed to be punished for what she had been put through.
She wasn’t about to wait for friends, so she trotted to her hostel, Herbert Macaulay Hall. She slammed the door so hard after she entered her room that her roommate jumped. The girl, Julie, who was about to leave for a date, exclaimed,”Whoa, easy! You want to break the door?”
Juanita’s reply was a scowl which Julie missed because she was taking a last look in the mirror. She turned and twirled asking Juanita, “How do I look?”
“You can’t be serious!” was the caustic reply.
“Someone is in a happy mood tonight!” she teased.
Juanita lunged at her but she grabbed her purse and dashed out, laughing all the way to the car park where her date was waiting.
Still fuming and unable to relax, Juanita decided to work out her bloody emotions on her clothes. Ironing was a good way to exert herself and deal with something that won’t cry out. She hoped she would be tired and calm enough to sleep when she was done. Supper was off tonight. Who eats when they are this angry, she wondered.
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She brought out a pile of clothes she had washed earlier in the week and commenced the process of exhausting herself on them. There was a knock on the door to which she did not respond. The knocker let herself in anyway. It was Brenda, her classmate and neighbour from two doors away. Since Juanita’s bed was covered with clothes, she settled herself on Julie’s bed.
Bad timing, Juanita thought, and continued her ironing. She was in no mood for small talk, so she ignored Brenda and her chattering. The girl was so nice she couldn’t take a hint, Juanita was thinking, till Brenda shook her shoulder.
“Thank you for listening to all I’ve been saying.” Juanita who only caught Brenda’s last few words missed the sarcasm.
“I said there’s no need to iron all these clothes at once. It’s almost 8 p.m., let’s go and get something to eat.”
“I’m not hungry.”
“Then just escort me. When we return, I’ll help you do the ironing.”
“My friend, go and eat if you’re hungry. I’m not going with you, period! You think I don’t know the only reason you’re here harassing me is because Timothy is not in town.”
“Ouch!” Brenda exclaimed.
That was awful! Juanita knew it but she wasn’t about to acknowledge it. She just wanted to be left alone and if that was what got through to Brenda, then so be it.
“You’re nothing but an idiot!” Brenda spat at her as she left the room.
Juanita suddenly felt drained. It was true Brenda spent an awful lot of time with her boyfriend, Timothy, but she was a good friend. She was good company – smart, funny and beautiful. And she did hang out with her most of the time when Timothy travelled. She had just hurt a dear friend because she succumbed to her Thursday rage yet again.
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And it’s all the fault of that Philosophy of Education lecturer! Every Thursday, they strode over one kilometre under the hot sun to attend his class scheduled from 4 to 6 p.m. He usually arrived thirty or more minutes late and kept them there till almost 7 o’clock talking all manner of stuff, including personal trivia like experiences from his time as a student plus domestic squabbles with his wife and teenage children.
The most annoying thing was that he never missed a class! He would be there religiously every Thursday, spend his alloted time and more religiously but he avoided touching the course, religiously too! Any other matter would receive his detailed examination and pronouncement (including political, religious and economic sticking points nationally and internationally) except the main subject for which they were there!
The majority of her classmates hailed him as broadening their general and current affairs knowledge and their enthusiasm egged him on. But Juanita felt that what was going on could pass for beer parlour discussion where lesser minds lap up what a fellow who buys the drinks pontificates. Some of the positions the esteemed doctor held on these issues, she felt, would fall apart under closer scrutiny in a rigorous intellectual discourse.
But more importantly, she didn’t think she enrolled for her degree programme to be taught general knowledge and current affairs. She saw teaching as her vocation and wanted to be adequately prepared for it. Besides, she was older than most of her classmates, being on the wrong side of thirty. She was better informed than most of them having worked in the university library for years where she picked up the habit of reading quality newspapers, magazines and well-written books on diverse subjects.
The death of her dad just as she was finishing secondary school had stalled her education and that of her younger siblings: two girls and a boy. She had been so thankful to get the job and with the little pay, she had helped her mum see her younger ones through primary and secondary school. She had also saved for furthering her own education. When her immediate younger sister got married three years back, she decided to seek admission into a university to pursue her dream. And there she was, having someone foul up her mood by spewing highly debatable opinions as gospel on all kinds of issues.
(Related: “Not My Portion!!!” – Short Story)
She had wanted to skip the classes and buy some books to prepare for the exams (which were fast approaching) but, wait for it, the guy took attendance and had a knack for giving unscheduled tests! But none of these things could excuse her nastiness to Brenda, she told herself. An apology was in order even though the Brenda she knew would probably stop by on her way from Mama Gertrude’s (the nearby haunt for hungry students) to see how she was doing.
She further reasoned that she needed to quickly devise a plan for going through Thursday evenings without feeling homicidal or having a splitting headache. She would buy cellular data for her phone so she could sit at the back row and surf the Internet, even if it meant visiting comedy pages on social media. She would wear an earpiece to channel the sound but would feel free to laugh. Since laughter was common in the classes, the lecturer would be none the wiser, she figured. If I’m going to spend the hours laughing, I’ll be better off sourcing my own entertainment because what is going on in those classes is not funny at all.
She could also use the time to copy the notes for the Social Studies lectures she missed on Wednesdays due to a clash in the timetable. And for variety, she would have some colourful magazines handy, say fashion mags, to look at styles for her customers because she did some tailoring in her spare time to get spending money, a skill she had picked up while staying with her aunt as a teenager.
There! It was all settled. Nobody was going to waste her time anymore, not even on Thursday evenings! And believing that she’d got a solid handle for preventing her weekly fury, she felt she deserved a hearty meal. So off to Mama Gertrude’s she went to treat herself and make up with Brenda.
Ⓒ Edith Ugochi Ohaja 2019
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But, what if the lecturer sets questions from his “current affairs”?, She will lose.
I think she should just sit and listen to his stories after all and it will help to broaden her storytelling skills. Lol
The course content probably doesn’t extend to current affairs. I’m guessing the philosophy of education should be addressing the theoretical foundations of the discipline. And the story didn’t say he was a good story teller. But it’s different strokes for different folks because other students enjoyed the classes. Have a great new week.
Some lecturers are like that. some of them can be unprofessional in their teaching method but that not withstanding does not call for her decision. Moral lesson from the piece: Transfer of aggression is bad., when u are wrong, accept ur wrong and make amend.
Anger, they say is a destroyer. We have the power to overcome anger at any point in time, which is self control. It is true that some lecturers are fun of frustrating students but we just have to accept. Music is a wonderful remedy to ease of stressful day and anger.
This is a really nice story. Being angry is a very normal human trait. But no matter what, we should not allow our anger override our rational mind, causing us to hurt the people close to us who only mean well.
Very correct. You are lifted, Joy, in Jesus’ name.
Anger is really dangerous, it’s a trait no one should have. I love the way Juanita resolved to curb her anger and do other meaningful things with her time. Time management is also one of the keys to success
Anger is not bad in itself. There are things we should be angry about and fight against. But we shouldn’t let anger control us. That is why the Bible says, “In your anger, do not sin.” We’re also told not to let the sun go down on our anger. I think that applies more to interpersonal relationships. God bless you!
I’m so impressed by the way Juanita resolved to spend her time on Thursdays to help with her anger issues!. At least no one will bore her to death. Lol. It’s great that she’s found a way to cope in that philosophy class cause going around hurting your friends is a no no for me. I get stressed sometimes especially when my lectures are very tedious so i think i’ll borrow a leaf from Juanita and sort myself out. Great story aunty!
She’s studying Education, Kat! Many years ago, I taught Philosophy of Communication to our diploma students. And about her proposed coping mechanisms, they could get her in trouble if the lecturer catches her. Lol! You are super blessed in Jesus’ name.
A good story, ma! Knowing what she wants to achieve is success or her drive is success, let her focus be on her performance academically and not on mundane things that won’t help her like the boyfriend issues.
What boyfriend issues? Perhaps you didn’t read the story. Na waa for you oh!
Anger trait is one thing everyone has, but we shouldn’t allow it to have total control over us just like what happened to Juanita. But I love what she did by planning to do other things to be calm, and no one should be unapologetic.
Right. Happy weekend to you!
Sadly enough have noticed that the average Nigerian man has a rage day on a daily basis especially young people. Someone would be walking on the street and murmuring inaudible words, can you imagine that. All these are caused by frustration which woul later lead to depression if not handled early, then finally death. My words to everyone that’s going to read this is that. There’s more to life than what you’re passing through now. And don’t forget that YOLO (you only live once)
I envy the friendship of both girls, Juanita and Brenda. Brenda the ever chattery and bearable friend who doesn’t notice her friend’s fury, angry comments and gestures to her. Then Juanita who realises her wrong to her dearest friend and decides to make up… Great friendship!
Yeah, they have something worth cherishing. Have a great week!
Very interesting piece indeed…the focal point being anger and anger management. Different people have different ways of processing or dealing with difficult situations. But quite frankly, transfer of aggresion will do more harm than good. Not everybody is blessed to have all-weather friends and it’s best to keep the ones we have knowing full well that we all have challenges confronting us. Thanks for the piece ma’am.
Thank you too, Lawrence. You’re awesomely blessed in Jesus’ name.
one should always strive to be in control of his or her temper at all times
True. We will only have ourselves to blame if we do anything that hurts others because we’re angry. Some people are in jail today because they killed or injured someone in anger. I pray God’s exceeding goodness be your portion always in Jesus’ name.
Anger is an inevitable thing,one way or another people or situations makes you angry. Whenever I’m angry,I cry it out than to put the anger on someone who doesn’t deserve it or at most sleep,I just have to learn to control anger the best way I can and it works for me. Its good as Juanita was able to change her mood and also apologize to her friend.
Crying it out? Wow! And it works for you. I never heard of that. I thought anger will make one aggressive, rather than do something passive like crying. You are super blessed in Jesus’ name.
Anger is really deadly and can lead to lots of damage.have been in such situations but it doesn’t end up well.an angry man is a mad person at that moment. My advice we can control it through the help of the holyspirit,cause it not easy to control it on our own.
Anger can destroy many things for us, so how we control it matters a lot. Another important key is understanding. In whatever we do, we should try to understand one another and always have the mind to say sorry to other people as Juanita did to her freind Brenda.
You’re right. Be richly blessed in Jesus’ name.
Lol….the unending struggles of university life. She is even lucky to have her rage day on Thursdays only. Some students experience rage day everyday!! However,we must look on the bright side and not let stuffs like that get between our friendships. The future is bright.
I can’t imagine going through that everyday! And you’re right, thebright is brightfor those who believe and don’t despair. You are lifted in Jesus’ name.
Thank you Ma for this post. There is a solution to every challenge. I used to face this kind of challenge before but I had to work on myself. Once I’m angry I can say anything to anyone and the bad thing about this is that the person you insulted wont understand, later on you will regret what you have said and if you are feeling too big to apologise, you will lose that friend. So I had to work on myself just like Juanita did, there is a solution to every challenge.
One should never feel too big to apologise. You are the apple of God’s eye, forever cherished.
most times we get caught up in anger that we forget that this anger could go a long way to destroy important things in our lifes. Juanita, though not wrong in getting angry, because every human being that have blood flowing through their viens might at one point or the other get angry, but we must also learn to control our anger so as not to destroy important things in the process of getting angry.
Great story, ma!
It’s not far from the truth.
Her solution is good but not totally encouraging because in every nonsense, there is some sense. Who knows, she might pick a point or two from the lecturer’s stories!
Her transfer of aggression was bad.
You’re right, it’s possible to gain something even when the speaker is rambling but that is if you’re in the mood, which she clearly is not. You are favoured in Jesus’ name.
For me, doing something else when a lecturer is in class is disrespectful, I’m sure the students have something to learn from the lecturer even though he is saying something different from the the course outline. Juanita already knows the kind of person the lecturer is, so she should always brace for it every Thursday and find a way to enjoy what he says.
By the way, different strokes for different folks- I can’t imagine ironing when I’m angry; the clothes will just turn to burnt offering.
Burnt offering, lol! And you make a very good point- no knowledge is wasted. May God decorate your life with wisdom more and more in Jesus’ name.
Transferring aggression is never enough reason for being angry.
I’ll advise she do exactly what she feels she can do in order not to be always wearing a long face every Thursday.
It is always adviseable to do that which keeps you going, provided it won’t or doesn’t cause you any harm.
Actually it’s being angry that results in misplaced aggression as in Juanita’s case. You are sooo blessed!
It’s cliche but no knowledge is a waste, what if she ends up becoming a teacher and a child of 9yrs ask her a simple question on current affairs ? Will she shamefully tell him or her that she doesn’t know it because she doesn’t pay attention when it’s been taught in class, I suggest she take some measures to curtail her anger because even the Bible says anything we do too much is a sin
I love this story, ma! It’s just so relatable, especially in these times when stress levels are high and hitting the roof. Juanita seems a doer, who’s not interested in having anyone ‘waste’ her time on what she considers irrelevances. I appreciate that she’s critically analysing the situation which means she will fare better than before.
I also learnt recently that we should carry our own climate with us, a positive one though. We can actually decide what our reactions will be when faced with certain unpleasant situations…
I love the part of carrying our own climate around and not letting negative situations to overwhelm us. God bless you abundantly in Jesus’ name.
Honestly, I think a lecturer not handling his course well is not enough reason to be that angry. And to transfer the anger to someone else? That’s low. I think she has an issue with control. She wants things all going the way she wants without any interruptions. That must be her frustration with the lecturer, hence, every Thursday rage. Her alternative plans are good o, but she better pray the lecturer does not discover her tricks one day. It won’t be funny at all. Lolz.
In as much as we are humans, we are bount to get annoyed most atimes which is normal but we should learn how to deal with this anger when it surfaces so as not to do things we would regret and to deal with this problem the grace of God is required.
I think its best for her not to attend the class if she feels that offended. Getting a material or the speculated textbook would be better and probably read on her own. Allocating other things with that time is not a bad thing too. Although anger should be dealt with no matter the cause.
The lecturer gives unscheduled tests, remember? Bless you!
I understand Brenda’s plight perfectly. I’ve been in her shoes so I know how it feels.
This story reminds me of Mrs Udeoba our broadcasting lecturer in a certain polytechnic. We nicknamed her ‘Nkechi’ because she always tell us stories about Nkechi who happened to be their Nanny. She’s very good at telling boring stories that don’t correlate with the course she’s handling. Most times, students laugh at her ‘iberiberism’ not as if her stories were funny. And when exam comes, you won’t even see ‘Nke’ talk more of ‘Chi’ in her questions.
Despite how annoying Mrs Udeoba was, I try not to be frustrated because frustration often leads to agresion.
It all boils down to how we manage our anger, we should endeavor to control our anger and not the other way round.
In addendum, I admire Brenda’s resolution and wish we all find solution to our problems.
Thanks for sharing this piece Ma.
I meant Juanita not Brenda
Anger is normal for every human being. But I think the way with which its being handled makes every human unequal. She got angry yes! But I like the fact that she talked to herself to find a way out of always being angry every Thursday evening. If she sticks to her plan, she won’t miss out on any impromptu test, she won’t miss out from writing her name down on the attendance sheet and most importantly, she gets to do other things of high priority to her.
So, I think it is a lesson for us to learn to manage our anger. There are always solutions to every problem.
Not only does anger make you feel bad, it makes you do stupid things without noticing the risks and it can be self-destructive. One thing I will like to tell Juanita is that she shouldn’t let anger control her emotions to the extent that she insulted her friend and also left her with no other option than to make her hate the lecturer and what he is teaching.
Aha she’s even lucky it’s just only Thursday some of us have to pass this scenario more than a day in school. She should Just chill very soon the whole school story would be over
Funny enough that she could get a solution for her Thursdays and she hurt her friend’s feelings. Well anger can be one big disaster.
The issues of lecturers that do not know their onions in Nigerian universities is no longer a new development. What more with the unqualified lecturers being employee Daily. There just seems to be no end to this misnomer.
Anger is synonymous to madness. For me, when am angry, i like to be silent and control the role. Why? Anger does not follow reason and does not see reason too. This was why Juanita was so u reason able with Brenda.
I really learnt alot from Juanita. This is a nice piece ma’am.
Thing is ,we as humans are bound to get angry,but how we handle it is important..
Plus..there’s this saying that how’s thus”if you don’t heal from your pain,you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you”. Jaunita attitude to her friend was wrong,more so I don’t agree with her solution to her problem with how the lecturer deviates,no knowledge is a waste..so basically she should pay attention and grab what she can,because if I were a lecturer myself I won’t tolerate it if a I discover any student doing something else while lecturers are going on,its quite disrespectful
Plato said: there are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot help. Juanita should stop getting angry at the way the lecturer teaches because she can’t help it. Each lecturer has his/her own way of teaching and we just have to adapt to it. It’s good that Juanita has found a way of going through her Thursday without getting angry. This is a nice story and I learnt a lot from it. I learnt that holding on to anger will only make us burn but we should plow our anger and energy into something positive, just like Juanita did
I think getting an ear piece because you feel the lecture or lecturer is board, is not a good idea. So getting an ear piece might lead her to trouble. Instead, she can do that after the lecture.
Lecturers always say “pls don’t hate me so that you don’t fail the course”.
Also her anger an, she should learn how to control it so that it doesn’t push those she Love’s far from her.
Yes! We as humans get angry but the bible say “ye can be angry but sin not” this means that, one can be angry and that anger can lead the person to sin.
So we should all be careful of what we do when we are angry. Like a pastor will always say ” the worst time to make a decision is when you are angry”.
Thank you ma’am for the wonderful story.
I love it.
I think no matter how angry we are, we should never transfer our aggression to others. Because they could actually be of help to us and we shouldn’t always think our situation’s the worst meanwhile they are other people with worse days than ours but they take it mature than we do. We should always deal with our anger before we do something rash, and lose our friends.
I must confess this story touched me , this is a typical example of what we are passing through now… working from Mass communication department to Abuja building…for two hours lecture, sometimes before we get there the whole place has been filled up because there are five department offering the course…most times the lectures will not hold..and if it holds we won’t be able to hear the lecturer…but getting angry will not solve the problem… sometimes I will tell myself that am not the first to experience such a thing and I am obligated to do whatever the person in charge of the course ask me to do… anger in this situation doesn’t help at all, rather it would add to the problem.
I had that kind of friend during my first year.. she will always like to get you angry whenever she is angry… trust me, I always have a way of making her calm????? she has something that always make her angry, and ones she is angry everyone around her get the share of her anger? thank God she is married now??
Anger is something that can be controlled no matter what makes you to be angry. People should try and look for something that will make them happy in every situation and thank God Juanita found what will make her happy and avoid being angry every Thursday evening.
This majorly talks about anger management, it’s normal for one to get mad over something but the bad thing about it is the transfer of aggression, with some tips from Jaunita’s anger management I feel its a really good idea to adopt.
Thank you Ma for this.. I also get mad n transfer it sometimes, but with this guidelines it will really me a whole lot…
Words spoken in anger are often regretted. Weigh your words carefully before you speak. #quote .
This quote got to me. Thank you for the amazing write up ma.
Believe me, this is just like walking from faculty of arts to Abuja building every Monday under the hot sun, lool. But this are just one of the things we face in life, everthing mustn’t work out the way we want, and when this happens instead of grumbling over it, we should learn to work it out. Mind over matter.
Anger distorts our daily activities and scrambles our thinking about everything. Some lecturers are not favourable but we have to device a means to get by everyday or else, it won’t be funny. Nice piece!
Wow nice story! Anger is an indispensable trait in human beings, but controlling it is what make us rational beings. I’m impressed by the way Juanita controlled her anger, it shows maturity. But transferring aggression to the other is unwise, she needs to work on that if she don’t want to lose her friends. Sometimes lectures say some certain things outside their course out, because they think it’s vital for us to know. No lecture is a waste and we shouldn’t hate our lecturers because it may affect our performance in that course.
Apt.This is a case of transfered aggression, I think. Anger management is a skill one need to learn so as to avoid awkward situations as this. I love the idea of how she(Juanita)devised a means to manage her Thursday evening rage and make up with her friend.
‘Verisimilitude’- a high sounding word every writer that wants to be taken seriously should not joke with. Going through the story, it’s hard to imagine this is fiction. I can only empathize with Brenda the more because I had to go through lecturers like that as an undergraduate.
I hope this is not the end? I want to know if her ‘thursday strategy’ worked out and if she apologized to Juanita.
Thanks Aunt Edith for sharing.
True, Jerry. The closer to reality our story looks, the better it will be received. This is the end, my dear. I’m glad you found the story engaging. Keep making us proud out there and be richly blessed in Jesus’ name.
To be frank, some lectures are not funny at all. To make it worse, if it’s a very large class, one may end up not learning anything which is so annoying and in this case transfer of aggression can only be avoided by God’s grace. One thing I learnt is to keep calm whenever I’m angry because anger can make one spit what helshe will ever regret throughout his or her life. It’s better it does not happen cos to forgive may be easy but to forget, that’s one of the hardest things to humans.
Anger is hard to control but in Juanita’s case, it’s really funny. If i were the one, i would even enjoy the class where the lecturer would be talking about other things that would make people laugh. But if it gets excessive, it’s bad because the lecturer won’t finish his scheme which would greatly affect the students on the examination day
I like the way you were able to capture how different people react to extra-curricular talks. Some people are so uptight and parochial that they don’t even want to see life other than they know it. And at the end of the day, they would go out to the Labour market and still have issues coping with ad-hoc assignments and individual quirks.
Glad to hear from you, Chinny! It’s good to be versed in many things but it can get out of hand and students worry when the content of lectures vastly differ from what will be expected from them in exams. Abundant blessings on you and your family in Jesus’ name.
Great post, ma!
Lolz! Brenda’s transfer of agression was terrible.
Students complain because you can’t miss a lecture, still the lecture is not giving what you are expecting.
Her solution to the problem at hand was good but Brenda should also know that in every nonsense there must be some sense. At least, she should listen sometimes.
God bless you, ma!
As always, good piece. Excellent diction. A clear view of how anger can cloud ones thoughts temporarily, to the extent of taking it out on a dear one, and then feeling preyed on afterwards, there’s also an element of pride in this piece. Sure, she was angry and all, she ended up lashing out on Brenda, but sadly, there’s a whole of pride revolving around Juanita. A simple ‘I’m sorry, I was just a little bit edgy’ would have sufficed, but there she was, thinking about how to apologize over and over again. Well, there’s always a spark to one’s rage, and clearly, the Phil of education lecturer was Juanita’s spark, at least we all know what lead her in her ‘Berserk Mode’ in the first place. Nevertheless, good story.
What a smart way to get through unfavourable situations. when we are not able to control what happens around us and what gets into us, all we need do is devise other survival tactics to deal with them. Juanita’s decision to avoid getting angry on thursdays is just like a bullet-proof or an antibody that will make her immune to the thursday sickness. at least it’s far better than taking drastic decisions and having issues with the lecturer and every other person around. and its a good thing she later apologised to her friend.
Being angry is never a crime nor a sin. It only becomes bad when it pushes us to do things we would regret. Even the Bible acknowledged that man can be angry but further advised that the sun shouldn’t set on our anger.
I love Juanita’s approach to her problem as well as her ability to admit when she crossed the line with her words. It is very important to know when we are wrong and take responsibility for our actions. Bless you ma
I know of a lecturer who does this, it’s not funny at all. Some lecturers should learn to be considerate in fixing lectures.
For the fact that sometimes man expresses his animalistic nature of being aggressive, and at same time passing it to others around him. He needs the grace of God to sustain him.
So, I think the action Juanita is about to carryout is a nice decision… Doing other things that will make her happy in the same thing that had irritated her.
Am going to agree ? with Juanita that getting angry is not good and applaud her for thinking up a means to not let anyone or anything put her in a bad mood. Beautiful piece ma’am though fictious but 60% of students can relate to this.
I found this story really relatable because I can be quick to anger and say hurtful things that I regret later. I have gradually learnt not to dwell in my anger and give it more fire. Letting go of that hurt and reason that made me angry has worked best for me. JUANITA also transferred her anger and frustration on poor Brenda, really not nice. I just love the way she resolved to tackle the issue causing the rage on Thursday evening. It’s better that way than ruining your happiness and hurting your loved ones.
I always believed that even in a fool’s talk there is an atom of wisdom and truth you can learn from. Juanita isn’t meant to take it up to that point of being sad over the issue and transferring aggressions on her friend. Come to think of it the cause of her annoyance isn’t even aware that his student isn’t copying with his style of teaching. This are just everyday things student face with some of their lecture.
As rational beings,we ought to learn how to control our emotions.Transfer of aggression is one bad habit which everybody is supposed to avoid.She ranged at her roommate and friend just because of what happened in her class.
I have just learn how to accommodate all situations at every point in time.
Thank you mar for the wonderful write up.
Lesson learnt…..making a decisions on some academic problems on how best to handle them also how am to control my speech even when am angry.
Lesson learnt. Making a decision on some academic problems on how best to handle them also how am to control my speech even when am angry.
Anger is a normal human emotion,. Everybody gets angry at some point in their life but I feel we should know how to control our anger and not let our anger control us!! Beautiful story
Its funny my name was used here,its a normal thing to get angry but its a virtue to know how to control it
This is soo me! I listen to songs when I am angry, it helps in calming me down.I love her plans of handling the lecturer’s classes, it’s definitely something to pickup.
We should try not to let things that are a usual occurrence annoy us. Instead, we should get used to it and learn to adjust to it in a way that would stop our anger. Just like Juanita, we can find something that takes the anger away. Wonderful story.
Too much of everything is not good it’s normal to be angry but not when it’s too much, I use to be like that but I prayed over it and am really trying to control it
Getting angry is a natural, but it is important to have control over your annoyance so as to avoid making rash decisions. I try my best not to get angry over matters beyond my power or control as it does not solve my problem but rather leaves me in a awkward state.
Thank you so very much ma. A lot of people need to learn that anger isn’t always the best and The worst thing you could do to a friend is transfer aggression when ever you are angry.
Juanita and Brenda are best friends and they are inseparable, but anger brought asunder, though there was a final resolution, the means deviced by Juanita is questionable.
Not being able to put our anger under control is very bad because it could cause problems with our relationships, like it almost did with juanita and brenda. Just imagine if she kept transferring her anger to everyone she was close to, they would all start avoiding her. It’s a good thing juanita realised that her anger was spiralling out of control and she found a means to curb it.
It is not bad to digress while teaching, but to digress to the point that you do not teach the topic of the day is provoketing, thank God she was able to find other things doing to avoid been provoked or been angry every Thursday
It is human to be angry. Anger is a natural human emotion and not a bad one. Nevertheless, scriptural it is written, “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry (Ephesians 4:26).” This means you can be angry but do not let your anger control you. Juanita gave in to anger and it obstructed the flow of her relationship with her friend. On this note, Say No Anger!
Some lecturers are like that. Some of them can be unprofessional in their teaching method but that not withstanding does not call for her decision.Moral lesson:We should do away with the attitude of transferring aggression as seen in the case of Juanda to Brenda. Transfer of aggression can cause and cost us a lot.
the thing with anger is that it hurts you so bad that you tend to transfer aggression or want to squeeze the life out of somebody. Anger and mood swings go hand in hand and it’s only by the grace of God that these emotions do not ruin us or damage our relationships beyond repair. Control over our emotions is of great importance.
I like that she figured out what to do while the lecturer wastes time but I don’t like that her friends couldn’t understand and try to console her, than succumb to her anger.
Been angry is normal because we are humans, but wat matters is how do we handle it? Transferring it to another person is not the best way.
God’s grace ??
When some certain things become inevitable in our lives, all we need to do is to learn how to accommodate it and suppress it with every reasonable measures. Anger is one of those things, but what makes someone a mature person is the ability to control his emotions no matter how bad he feels. Juanita might have chosen to pay no attention to what her lecturer is saying but that is not the perfect way to overcome such situation. Remember, in every nonsense, there must be atom of sense. It is just the “non” that disqualifies it from being sense. What am trying to say is that she should learn how to accept some things that doesn’t interests her. Even when you don’t like it, just pretend that you like and be part of it. By doing that, you’re not just easing your anger but at the same time, you’re also helping yourself by learning how to adapt with critical moment. The best way to solve a problem is to always stay with the problem. The more you stay with it, the more familiar it becomes to you and the more you learn how to solve it. Juanita’s curb measures over her problem is like a man that got himself intoxicated over a particular problem ; once the tides are over, the problem approaches with full speed. He didn’t solve the problem, he just ran away from the problem.
Another wonderful one ma, I believe u wrote the mind of some of us and how we feel about some of our lecturer’s. they come to tell us stories that doesn’t concern their course and get everyone bored but they make sure you don’t miss classes by taking attendance. This is how poor the system of education is in our society.
Wow i love this story this is exactly what some lectures do in class instead of them to teach they will be telling their history . I think i have learnt a good strategy to tolerate them and calm my self during their classes.
God bless u aunty
Haha!! Funny but I learned too. Let’s not let anger determine our actions or the words we speak. There’s also a saying which goes: “Don’t let temporary emotions make permanent decisions”.
There is need to be conscious when talking especially when your angry because the way she responded to her friend Brenda was quite rude. Secondly her view concerning listening to what the lecturer is saying should not be encouraged because no matter how irrelevant you think it may there is always something to go home with .
I get mad when people fail to do what they are meant to do per time, especially when they know it. Sometimes, since I know that he (/she) should be aware of their wrong, I don’t let him know my anger, so I just bottle it up and let it pass. Some times still, I do. It just depends on what I feel is more important at such time. Well, I feel same way as Juanita, when some “all knowing” lecturers come to the class only to waste the time on talking about themselves… I just feel like walking out of the class at such time but it’s seems to be impossible cos you can’t predict such people. Great piece Ma.
It’s really annoying to have your time wasted. I understand Juanita. However, I blame her for not thinking before acting; for allowing her emotions get the best of her. I’d advice Juanita to take a cold drink and a nap after her Thursday evening class. When I get really angry, I try not to say a word because I may end up annoying my listener. It’s well though.
I understand Juanita’s plight but I feel she should be positive about the issue rather than letting it spoil her mood. she should as well avoid transfer of aggression as there is no justification for her attitude towards Brenda. Anyway, I’m happy she realized her mistake and is ready to work on it.
Aha! I can relate. Sometimes I just decide to miss the class to help retain my sanity, but just as Juanita it’s best to device reasonable means to go by it. Thank you ma for this.
Glad to know you know how we feel.
Anger is something that everyone feels, but who do we control our anger to avoid making another persons day a night mare. For Juanita she have to prepare her mind for Thursday lecture.
We have to learn to acknowledge d awful things we say to people especially when we r angry to avoid ruining an important frienship and also ruining someone else’s entire day and also, learn to talk to people when we have issues…if Brenda can suggest to aid juanita to iron, she can understand, and help her in a lot of things too..
One thing we need to understand is that anger in every human being and even in the animal kingdom is inevitable, therefore needs to be handled carefully. For Juanita all she needed was to work on weakness that is the anger, and also ask God to help her to achieve it. For this will go a long way in building her relationship with life and friends around her.
we are what we say we are …anger isn’t something one would want to be feeling every time as it blinds from seeing things as they are and messes with one’s head…only we can say what will get us angry or make us happy, and i think juanita realized this at the end…i’m happy for her
Even Jesus Christ got angry when he saw people selling in the temple. Getting angry is inevitable but we should learn how to control or tame it when it comes so as not to make us sin against God through it. Nice work Ma!
It is normal for we as humans to get angry but we shouldn’t let it control us because we might end up hurting those around us by transferring aggression instead just like Juanita did we could devise a means to avoid getting angry at the same thing all the time..thanks ma for the story.
I think getting an ear piece because you feel the lecture or lecturer is board, is not a good idea. So getting an ear piece might lead her to trouble. Instead, she can do that after the lecture.
Lecturers always say “pls don’t hate me so that you don’t fail the course”.
Also her anger, she should learn how to control it so that it doesn’t push those she Love’s far from her.
Yes! We as humans get angry but the bible say “ye can be angry but sin not” this means that, one can be angry and that anger can lead the person to sin.
So we should all be careful of what we do when we are angry. Like a pastor will always say ” the worst time to make a decision is when you are angry”.
Thank you ma’am for the wonderful story.
I love it.
The problem that Juanita has, is inability to understand that, most of times, things don’t work out exactly the way we think or plan. The knowledge she may be craving for, my still be presented to her in the lecture, but because it did not come the way she expects it she keeps on missing out. A good learner is always attentive even when one is talking vague, so, she should not develop uninterested attitude towards the lecture because it will make her, even if the man is saying something reasonable she will still disapprove of it, all she need to do is keep calm and ask questions where necessary
And secondly, Anger is not external, is right inside someone, because somebody may say something to one person and he/she may pick it up and the same can be said to another in the same manner and the person will laugh over it, on this note, she has a duty of working on herself before it develop into another thing, because if you check out the rate at which she slammed the door, responded to her roommate and replied her friend, notwithstanding a walk of over one kilometer which supposed to had melted away the anger, you will understand that her anger is in potency heading towards perfect
THURSDAY EVENING RAGE
Personally , I feel Juanita actually overreacted . yes, her rage might be understandable but venting her anger on her friend is totally unacceptable.
As a student, you should be ready to receive virtually anything from your lecturers.. Most of them are even worse.
But the good thing was that she figured herself out and devised a means of handling the situation, and also realised that she needed to make up with Brenda.
Its normal to react in a certain way when annoyed. But we should always try to control ourselves so we don’t end up regretting our actions. May God help us
Human beings are prone to anger, it now depends on one’s ability to control it without another person falling a victim as portrayed by Juanita to Brenda. Seriously! some people can do weird things when they are carried away by anger, imagine Juanita ironing because she’s angry. …anyways she’s lucky that her friend came around, if not, she would have Changed her wardrobe.
She should have just paid attention in class because there is every possibility that she might grab one or two things beneficial to her.
I loved this story. It tells of what a few lecturers prefer to do, than focus on the topic at hand. After which they would still set exams on topics not even taught
Getting angry and wanting to be left alone is not bad but transferring the anger doesn’t show maturity
We should learn to always manage our anger when it arises so it doesn’t lead to an I-am-sorry situation. Who knows, sorry may not solve the problem caused by your anger.
In every nonsense there is sense in it, I believe that in one way or the other what the lecturer is saying will help her someday. In as much as being angry is inevitable we are not supposed to extend our anger to the next person around, we should have control over it.
Every human being has the right to get angry at anything her or she does not like, but to transfer aggression is very bad, and it is necessary to control that anger in everything we do, to avoid hurting people or spoiling things.
I personally hate it when lectures leave the topic of discussion to talk about other things. Yes there can be room to bring in other things to spice up the lecture but it should be related to what is being taught. It should also be something that will add to the knowledge of the students. I can totally relate to Juanita. Sometimes when I’m angry I take it out on people and the result is always bad. I think she should instead of doing other things during class, actually get to come to terms with the lecturers mode of teaching because he might say something that will be relevant and she will miss it. Nice one Ma.
I often get mad when my friends have skeletal communication with me. It kills me literally. I love to hear people talk and when I don’t, it just spoils my day. Annoying lectures can be frustrating too, unncessary stories and lengthy notes that sends sleep to an agile soul. But her latter approach made sense.
Every problem has a solution and if she had sat down to think instead of giving in to her anger, she would have avoided hurting her friend’s feelings and even all the stress she went through because of the anger.
Transfer of aggression is bad., when u are wrong, accept your wrong and make amend..We should learn to always manage our anger when it arises so it doesn’t lead to an I-am-sorry situation. Who knows, sorry may not solve the problem caused by your anger.
Being angry at all times drives people away from ones life and weighs one down just like Juanita’s case. One terrible thing some people do is allowing themselves to be controlled by their anger, there is hardly any action taken in angry mood that would not erroneous, and the effect is always frowned at. But one thing that pleased me was Juanita’s quest to proffer solution to her weakness, because most people would know their weakness but fail to take adequate measures to resolving them. One thing worthy of note is that an advice one gives himself has greater effect that the one from outside
Awesome and very inspiring …what i learnt from this particular story is that anger tends to scare people away from u and causes to do things we will end up regretting ..we should always cultivate the attribute of always being happy as it plays a very significant role in our lives…
Life has more to it,so always find a solution to every of your problem and be happy
Some lecturers often diverge because they feel the need for humour.although, some times this humour becomes very annoying
Some lecturers can be annoying, true!
But devising to copying notes when the lecturer is in class may get her into trouble, I think the best way is for her to tell the lecturer up front that he is departing from the scope of his course and its to their detriment as students…. I know some lectures will mad, yes! But he needs to know that the students are no longer comfortable with the nature of his classes
In as much as I cannot condemn Juanita’s action towards her close friend, it is important we respect each others feelings.
If we look at what prompted Juanita’s anger, you will understand her plight. she had planned herself for that day and for another to thwart that plan………. hell no! It is not funny at all to me. in fact, it shows unpreparedness on the part of the lecturer to purposefully deviate into topic that has nothing in connection to do with course he is teaching.
I wished the “privileged” lecturers can read this post and understand the students.
Anger is simply a waste of time. I’m glad Juanita realized this and devised a better way to spend her Thursday evenings.
To help the workflow a little humor helps. .
There should b a balance of everything though. He should teach more than gist
Anger can destroy a lot of things , being angry is part of life but letting it out on friends isn’t right , and thank God juanita noticed what she did wasn’t Good and another thing is the fact that she picked up her mistake and she is ready to apologize and also devise a plan for the classes and other things that makes her Thursday evening unpleasant for her.
I find it quite interesting when a lecturer goes the extra mile to bring in humour in the course of his or her teachings, it has a way of lightning up the environment but dedicating all of the time for a lecture to jokes and other trivial matters is way out of it. However, the solutions devised by Juanita in handling her Thursdays do not really go down well with me as she could get in trouble with the lecturer or even miss out on very important points the lecturer gives amidst the discussions which could help her out in exams.
The lecturer bringing in humour and current affairs when lecturing is not a bad one anyway, it helps the students ease stress. She should just be patient with the lecturer, try eating something before going for his class because hunger and tiredness equals anger.
I love the fact she accepted hurting her friend with her words and made attempts reconcile with her. Nice work man, keep it up.
The lecturer bringing in humour and current affairs when lecturing is not a bad one anyway, it helps the students ease stress. She should just be patient with the lecturer, try eating something before going for his class because hunger and tiredness equals anger. I love the fact she accepted hurting her friend with her words and made attempts to reconcile with her. Nice work ma, keep it up.
Red smoldering anger has never helped anyone, and will never, instead clouds our judgement. It makes us hurt inside and as a result of that hurt those closet to us, some lecturers are fond of deviating from their topics and this new unfounded method of finding various means that are not godly to check mate students. But come on she’s in schools, schooling is not easy at all, bless you ma
This is a common problem with almost all human. Handling our anger can be a tough thing to do until someone gets a transfer of it. The good thing however was that Juanita recognized that she wronged Brenda and was willing also to make it up to her.
Some lectures are like that, you can’t help but feel like you wasted your time, but all in all, you just have to do what must be done to succeed, especially in UNN.
Her way of controlling her anger is not proper and might land her into a serious problem.
While reading everything Juanita went through, I almost justified her anger because I can relate to her experience… But then, pouring out that anger on others is wrong… I definitely learnt alot from this story
Getting angry is part of human nature that everyone has that is not bad and at times been angry shows seriousness toward something and it only become dangerous when it has total control over our mood and making us to do thing that will later turns out to be something regretful of and the only way to get rid in dealing with such difficult situation is to guided by self control and that is what juanita lack when she use such a hurtful words to speak to her friend brenda in her angry mood that she later regretted doing and knowing fully well to herself that she cannot control her anger and to get rid of it is to become unserious toward a particular lecture that makes her angry not knowing that she is doing the right thing at the wrong time according to the statement which says “out of nothing comes something and so no knowledge is a waste instead to be self control.
For some of us, it’s a daily experience. We either adapt to survive this scenario or we either avoid it. But we should learn to vent our anger on something else and not on our fellow humans.
Anger is something that is definitely unavoidable. But we should also learn ways to control our anger, it will go a long way in addressing our relationship issues.
i like the story, and the style of writing. There are days like that when we feel like exploding but at times like that, we must exercise self control which is a virtue.If God were to give in to his anger man would be destroyed a thousand times over, but he doesn’t do this and so exercises patience because he has set the time when the wicked would be destroyed.
So there’s a lot to gain from that
?, some lecturers can be so time wasting according to Juanita. But the truth is, we are here to be lectured & not to be taught. So whatever you see just swallow it and read up because you definitely can’t change the situation, that’s his own method of lecturing.
Truely sometimes lecturers can be so annoying, they come into the the class and start telling you unnecessary stories, even if it is necessary there is time for everything. funny enough at the end of the class, you find out you have little or nothing to go home with.
Anger is what comes up when we are depressed but we shuld’nt allow it to overcome us, we can control it, it’s just a matter of self discipline.
This is a wonderful story that comes with another wonderful lesson. Don’t let your emotions over Shadow the better part of you. Learn to control your anger, so it does not come in between you and your loved ones. A wise man once said ” Anger is the punishment you give to yourself on behalf of another person ”. So I think we should learn to stay away from situations that threatens our peace of mind.
Afternoon lectures are always disastrous. It leaves you tired and drained. I love the fact that she admitted her faults and also found a solution to her problem.
This story is awesome, what i like about it is that, in as much as Juanita transferred aggression, she was able to admit her mistakes and apologize. She also found solution to things that will keep her in that mood. Relating it with us, we should always cultivate the habit of distracting ourselves or find a means of escape in order not to regret our actions later.
Wisdom constitute in knowing when to continue and when to stop. That lecturer is not wise.
Being a human being constitute in choosing how to react to any situation. Juanita should work on her response to stimuli.
Good Work. Thank you Dr. Edith Ohaja.
Am impressed with this story.
As humans, anger is part of everyone’s life but how we handle it matters. We should not allow it to take the better part of our lives.
Just like Juanita,we can always look for things that make us happy to engage ourselves with when the anger spirit comes up.
What she devised is a very good thing. Nobody is worth making you angry and then passing aggression to another innocent being. But no matter how boring a lecture or lecturer is, we shouldn’t hate the course to avoid failing it. Thanks for this ma.
Anger is like an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.the lesson to be learnt from this is to control our emotions when things aren’t going the way we planned so as not to pour out our frustrations on people or friends that mean well for us.
Who eats when they are this angry? Well I do. I really do not joke with my stomach no matter how angry I am. Say frowning and eating lol. I’m pleased with her for reviewing her decision in the end. I’m also happy she devised a way to get through her Thursdays if not she would have lost her friends gradually as a result of her anger. Anger is bad when we allow it to control our actions or mood. Nice one!
I honestly understand Juanita’s plight on Thursday evenings, it can be so annoying. But Juanita transferring the aggression on innocent Benita is not right. Thank goodness she realised she was wrong and she decided to make up with Benita and also device a means of tackling her Thursday wahala.
Thank you ma
“THURSDAY EVENING RAGE,” a fascinating caption, I must say.
Juanita’s rage which is principally agitated by the lecturer’s incessant digression from his main topic, had led her into almost severing her friendship with Brenda.
That’s one thing with anger … when not controlled, it leads to trouble. Nevertheless, the Bible admonishes that we should be slow to anger and do the necessary things to control our emotions to avoid any problem that may occur.
A bad mood shouldn’t be the reason to speak to people rudely, when I’m having a bad day I still manage to reply people politely because they’re not the cause of my anger but people should also be able to gauge people’s moods before engaging in conversations because not everyone can handle anger issues maturely
Its really bad to transfer aggression no matter the reasons for your anger.
Amazing piece ma. God bless you ma
Getting angry is not a problem, anybody can get angry, but how do we handle it? Controlling ourselves when angry will go a long way in avoiding damages.
We should all learn how to control our anger. If you react at the time you’re angry, the aftermaths/consequences won’t be funny at all.
Juanita seemed to have set standards for herself. But the issue is not enough reason to be have such rage. It appears that some people have anger issues, no matter how light the matter is. Why worry for something you cannot change? Secondly, Her resolve to copy notes and do others things in the class may actually put her into trouble as some lecturers do not like seeing students doing other things while a lecture is going on.
Self control even in anger is very important, being angry is an unavoidable wind but what you do when you are angry matters, Juanita should not have transferred aggression in such manner. Even though the causative factor to her anger is a tune most students unwillingly sing to.
Lecturers who do this leave students believing they have no idea on what to teach. It’s a different thing when the lecture tell stories in line with the lecture but when it’s out of course… Boredom and frustration is the summary of the lecture.
Honestly when I get so angry, I tend to be so harsh,so the only thing I do to calm myself is to sleep. Happy for Juanita because she devised a means to help her mood.
Lol why do i feel like this particular post is talking to me..little things do make me angry and frustrated and when i am i pour it out on anyone available,a habit i know fully well that is very bad..,,and also sorry to say some lecturers could be really annoying and frustrating and worst part is they are the ones that never miss classes and give impromptu tests and take unusual attendances …i really love the fact that Juanita thought about the whole thing and found her fault ..and also made attempt to apologise to brenda.
Anger is a basic human emotion which everyone experiences but it becomes an issue when it gains control of us. It’s normal for everyone to transfer agression to other people when they are angry but what matters most is how we control our anger and the steps we take to apologize to the people we offended when we were angry just like Juanita did to Brenda
Anger! Anger! Anger. it is like a steering on a moving vehicle, if you fail to control it, you crash. Good thing that Juanita realized her fault and opted for apology. people should really mind the way they handle their moods especially anger. many relationships has been turn apart by little or lack of emotional control including marriages.
Like I usually say, we should learn to control how we react to things that happen that we can’t control. Bursting out on her friend wasn’t a proper reaction from her, but her friend, Brenda should have known when her friend was not in the mood and does not want company so vocal. It also serves a a lesson that we should learn to channel our anger properly
It only takes God’s grace to overcome anger. We should pray for that grace because anger have spoilt many relationships in this world just like Brenda left the room in anger because of Juanita’s bad gestures towards her.
Wisdom they said, constitute in knowing where to stop. The lecturer should have known this, and carve out time for real studies, which of course is the reason for the Thursday gatherings. Juanita may be just one out of the 10s who are annoyed with the lecture’s style of teaching.
Juanita has realized ‘when to stop’ and she did. Now she’s permanently at peace with herself and was going to make peace with Brenda.
Nice write up, Dr. Edith Ohaja. More ink to your amazing pen. Cheers
??? just imagine the reason for her anger. Hmmmmm juanita is really the kind of student every parent wish he or she had ohh; the serious one. Me ehhhh if I had that kind of lecturer i won’t ever come late to the class sef. See free time oh ???
But am glad she found useful ways of using that time like copying her notes than to keep having anger issues over it. My philosophy is don’t get mad over what u can’t control cus the anger spills over to other innocent ones like it did to Brenda. Hopefully they make up.
No matter how chill or laid back you are, you will get angry, and sometimes that anger can get out of control.We have all experienced anger at some point in our lives, and it can be a real problem. Though it starts as a harmless feeling, it can quickly grow into something dangerous that’s hard to control.
But with God’s help, we can learn how to deal with our feelings and walk in His peace.
Is not good to say words in anger, because it might hurt the person you are addressing it to and most time we do regret it.
Is a good thing that brenda left the room without exchanging words with Juanita.
Sometimes when we are angry, we say things that we are not meant to say even to our best friends and people close to us. But in all, Juanita made up with her friend and things moved on.
Speaking whenever one is angry always amount to regret….. anger should be controlled,jJuanita shouldn’t have inflicted her friend Brenda with her anger……she could have rather told her that she wasn’t in a good mood or better still remain silent…. everyone around her shouldn’t die because she’s angry………
The most interesting part is she found solution to the boring class and also thoitho it wise to apologise to her friend.
Utilizing your time to meaningful things is key.. And also anger control is another lesson to learn.. It’s normal to get angry, but we should watch at which extent would being angry go. Juanita realized this and made up with her lovely friends.
Nice piece Ma.
Anger is a normal thing for every human being,but I think it’s the way at which you handle is the problem ,anger makes you do stupid things without noticing the risk and it can be self destructive and no matter how angry we are we should never transfer our aggression to other to other
There is so many things that can ruin our day. What happened to Juanita has happened to so many people.we have to try our best to control our anger in order not to hurt others when we are angry. I really enjoy the story.
\what an interesting story. But Juanita got back to people who didnt do anything bad to her especially breda. Having a rage and transferring the rage of something else to someone is very bad and Juanita’s case was bad , there are many ways to get out of every rage situations in which she sought at last.
Thanks very much ma for this wonderful short story, Juanita had a very wrong way of handling the matter , even though her past wasnt very good, i learnt that u matter what ever rage ur in dont transfer your aggression caused by someone else to someone that didnt cause it or know anything about it.
I love how she realised she had hurt her friends with words and decided to apologize. We should have friends who apologize when they hurt someone and we should also strive to be that friend.
It’s also beautiful how she sought peace within herself, even though her ways of dealing with her Thursday evenings might not be ideal.
we see this a lot from lecturers this days but that should never make us sober or angry.everything is proper comprehension and articulation.setting your priorities right without spoiling someone else’s mood. every lecturer have their different method of teaching it is now left for you go through your course outlines and follow up whatever was taught.you would be shocked to see it in his exam.
Juanita should not get angry over this since it had been the teacher’s modus operandi.she should have taken her time to device a plan for this lectures or moments.having a lecturer spoil your day can be saddening but what can you do,you cant fight the lecturer.only be punctual,pray for strength and zeal from God.that is what we need.
I love the way juanita tried to control her anger. She recognized the flaws but aspired to change it.
Some lecturers are actually like this and I don’t blame Juanita for being angry because situations like this are very annoying but it’s very wrong to transfer that aggression whether friend of stranger, I believe that if you find out something always gets you on edge best to avoid it I actually loved the way she decided to overcome it, Interesting story Aunty!
Nice Piece Dr. Juanita, like every other tired student vented her anger on her friend. Her anger was also from her lecturer who she felt is wasting her time. Instead of coming to the lecturer’s classes, she will stay back if not for attendance. Her anger spoilted her friend’s happy spirit who came to have fun with her. Though she realized she fault after a think back, she will have to apologize to her friend to set things right.
We all have some bad days in a week, but we have to manage our frustrations and control out anger not to destroy the good happy spirit of other.
This is one hilarious and interesting piece ma, I can Soo relate. Juanita is a victim of a typical Nigerian university lecturer ?. I’m glad she was able to get out of her rage but what I’m not soo comfortable with is her new resolution. What if she gets caught? Although I can relate to her predicament don’t think her new resolution is wise.
I love this piece!
This is one hilarious and interesting piece ma, I can Soo relate. Juanita is a victim of a typical Nigerian lecturer? . I’m glad she was able to get out of her rage but what I’m not Soo comfortable with is her new resolution. What if she gets caught? Although I can relate to her predicament I don’t think her new resolution is wise.
I love this ma!!
That’s the issue with some university lecturers these days . They keep you for long hours speaking of irrelevant things and still would not touch their basic scheme of work. Her method of preventing such time wastage is a nice one but how she reacted to her friend was not a good way to vent her anger
we are in school not just to learn and get certificate but also to get character certificate. not only to learn how to manage our work after graduation but also to how to control anger and make use of every opportunity of learning .
I admire Juanita because she seems like a very serious student, the ones that attend lectures to acquire knowledge not for lecturers jokes that does not concern the course. But why would she be angry because of jokes? Sometimes seating and listening to jokes in evening is really good to a stressed mind.
I believe anger is never the best solution to problem, Juanita should have known that some lectures are fond of stressing the students and you can not escape it as a student, am happy Juanita realised her mistakes and took steps not hurt her loved ones again.
I don’t agree with her decisions thought she thinks that’s the best way out but no. The lecturer himself is wasting their time because he must surely set exam from what the course is all about. I think she should meet the class rep and talk some sense into him and then the class rep should talk to the lecturer and make him understand that what he is doing will affect their result.
And as for getting angry, it is normal but we should try not to act when we are angry because the out come of our actions maybe more than what caused the anger.
In all, we shouldn’t forget to pray and ask for God’s grace.
Anger is a normal human emotion but just like others needs to be controlled. It’s was unfair for her to unleash her anger at her friend that came to keep her company. It’s really good she realized her mistake with her friend and is trying to find a way not to be annoyed during the lecture period but the means she found is it safe or good enough.
Words said out will never be taken back
Let us be extremely careful of what we say
Literally words can kill a person but thank God Juanita retraced her mistake and never to hurt her
Whenever we find ourselves in any annoying situation the best thing to do at that moment is to walk away to avoid had i known
Anger is a very weighty issue to deal with in our society today. many things happeing in our surrounding can provoke a person to so irrationally. words spoken in a fit of rage are so unhealthy. so it is advised to maintain a mental calmness during this period to avoid doing something that might be regretted later on. thank you very much for this piece.
Anger issues are terrible! They can make you do and say things You’ll regret sometimes. It’s a very good idea,coming up with things to help ease down anger
In as much as the plan Juanita devised to divert her mind during class might be quite useful but detrimental.she could miss out on some vital information in class.Also ,lecturers should note on this ,most students find it annoying when they divert from their teaching to other things.We should be careful not to hurt our love ones when we are angry,we will regret it later.
Lol, I think I and Juanita might have something in common and that is ‘anger management issue’ but I’ve learnt how to control mine, would always try to separate myself by staying indoor and if I’m to have unwanted guest, would quietly explain to the person that I am in a bad mood, so as to chat later.
This is to avoid saying hurtful things to friends and words spoken in anger are often regretted, therefore we can’t keep saying sorry because sorry doesn’t always heal wounds.
However, I’d advice Juanita not to skip Philosophy classes, rather endure so as to learn besides, it is just for a semester or two, not a lifetime. Lol!
Anger can make us do things we will regret later but for you to avoid offending another person in your angry state, it’s better you don’t say anything or you can change your environment and control yourself from getting angry.
I think that I can relate very well to this story because one lecturer did something similar in my first year but I think allowing it to spoil my day wasn’t an option.
It’s pathetic to get angry at someone whom we can’t confront or an issue we can do nothing about. I also believe no knowledge is a waste so getting distracted or angry is never the solution.
any normal student will understand what she is going through
its reminds me gsp111 lecturer(i didnt call name ooo)
God , i stopped attending that class becuase i was it was boardom personfied
bt as a good student its never the best approach to any course.
bt ,i like her new day resolution
To be honest ,I think her anger is unfounded and a bit unreasonable though ,the thing with some of these lectures is that in Thier supposed nonsense ,there is a lot of sagacity and reason so if she could just stop being a dollop head ,and actually listen and enjoy the class ,her Thursdays could be the best part of the week .let’s not forget that there are some poeppe that give off Thier strongest truths and most concrete facts as jokes
Anger causes damage and regrets and we as humans should not allow our anger to control us in any way because anger leads to sin and its against the will of God. I love what juanita did to control her anger in a way but at the same time i feel she kind of over reacted and she shouldn’t allow the little things of life to disturb her inner peace of mind. This is a nice story Ma i love it
It’s very easy to get angry. Infact it’s a humanly expected response in certain scenarios. The main crux of the mater dwells in handling our curtailing our actions when angry. That was a matured and disciplined path Juanita took.
Anger, they say is a destroyer. We have the power to overcome anger at any point in time, which is self control. It is true that some lecturers are fun of frustrating students but we just have to accept. Music is a wonderful remedy to ease of stressful day and anger. We should alway look unto and emulate Jesus christ in every thing we do, he came in the world to die for our sake.
Understanding people’s mood is very important and that is what Brenda did concerning her friend’s unacceptable idiosyncrasy. The dominated theme of this story is: In the midst of your anger, control your thoughts and words. It cuts across every areas of human endeavour which include: your family, place of work, friends, church e.t.e
Its alright to be angry but allowing it to control your sense of reasoning and action is the bad side of it. Like you said, “anger is the feeling that makes your mouth run faster than your mind”. When we are angry, we unconsciously drag people that care for us into the same emotional situation which is very bad. Knowing you are angry is one thing, finding a positive way to deal with it is another.
let us learn to control our anger and be mindful of whatever comes out of our mouth whenever we are angry because we might hurt someone with our words. instead of speaking when angry, rather we keep quiet. Also my defintion of a good lecturer is one who can relate whatever he teaches with real life experiences in order to ensure better understanding.
How innovative of Juanita! I love the solutions she designed for her anger, it’s a win-win solution.
Everyone needs to learn to control their anger because there will always be a reason for us to get angry. It is a natural human characteristics and transferring the aggression on innocent, well meaning people might destroy your relationship with them.
The technique she used in stoping her rage was a very good technique and also a bad one, in the bad aspect, she can actually miss some important information from the lecturer when she is busy, she would have tried her best to listen nad dont get into rage after the lecture becaue no knowledge is a waste. Then when her best is tried, she looks for another technique. Thanks Aunt Edith for this nice piece of work.
Why is it often true that those who are quick to anger are always the next to apologise?
However I commend “her” effort to control her fury, it shows how remorseful anger could make a person.
Anger causes alot. You tend to harm others when you’re angry. So we must all endeavor to control our anger issues. Thank you ma for this post.
Anger is bad and if not controlled becomes terrible , you say bad things, you do stupid things. Anger drains you physically and mentally Find out what is making you angry, is it worth it? can you avoid it? There are anger coping mechanism like counting to ten and things like that. If you realize that dealing with a particular situation or person often, makes you angry then you have to find a way out. Getting angry frequently is not good for one’s health and mind. Like I said, anger drains you. If you channel that energy to something else then you would make your day more productive.
Nice piece ma.
We should always learn to control our temperament when it matters.
Juanita shouldn’t have allowed the anger she nurses for another override her.
Anger is indeed a terrible thing, Juanita has the right to be angry, my damage is venting it on someone totally friendly and innocent, however I understand Juanita’s frustration, the lecturer coming late and still not giving the scheduled lecture, giving unscheduled test, but still her solution to the problem is not the solution.
We all do have the things that get us really enraged, some people might actually think it’s irrational but still we can’t help being angry at it. The best thing to do is to find a distraction. Juanita found hers. I also think it’s terribly uncourteous to vent your anger on innocent people around. Just keep it under control, it’s the best way out
Anger they say is one minute madness, the next minute one regrets their actions. She shouldn’t have taken out her anger on her friend. Anger can be a relationship breaker one should always use any better avenue to avoid getting angry.
That is one thing i dislike about some lecturers, they waste time discussing topics that are not on the course outline and expect the students to read-up the main topics, which makes most students miss their classes since they already know what the lecturer is used to.
But nevertheless, someone should not be made to pay for someone else’s mistake just like the way Juanita treated Brenda because she is angry is not the right way to go about such issues, but i think Juanita took the right step by deciding to go apologize to Brenda.
Anger only lodges in the mind when we permit it. It’s a weapon for destroying good relationships. When it comes give it no room to inflict you with its futuristic unbearable pains. Juanita’s actions toward her friends was bemoaning and shouldn’t be so. Sometimes you feel you can’t help but get angry. Juanita’s rage was caused by a lecturer and her friends ended up suffering it. For me, I would rather mete out the anger on myself rather than making others pay for it. Thanks mummy for that wonderful story
Anger is one thing everyone needs to learn how to control because it breaks relationships, marriages and sometimes your relationship with God,and it is nice too to find out that which can lighten your mood when you are not in a good mood. inspiring piece Ma.
I find this story funny, I could see myself in Juanita. “Nobody is gonna waste my time” I like the way she later handled the situation. I think everyone has that day that doesn’t always work for them. Time is precious; it should be spent being angry either. Life is too short for that.
I get angry easily,I have anger issues,I am hot tempered these are things we hear from people at a slightest provocation but I think that if you suceeded in knowing this , you should also succeed in finding a way of resolving the anger issue.no one gets an accolade for being angry.
In life, though, anger is inevitable buy one has to be careful not it control us. Out of anger we may hurt people. Well, I commend Juanita’s realisation that she has offended her friend an was willing to apologise.
Thank God Juanita found a way of dealing, some of this things are uncontrollably annoying. someone like me, i will just use that time and sleep, sleep very well and gain enough energy for other things i want to do for the day. Getting angry in the first place is so exhausting.
We shouldn’t allow anger cloud our overall emotion, I prefer being left alone in my anger so as to avoid doing something I’ll later regret. But then education is key, we all go through daily stress, we signed up for it. A very good one ma, I always love the fact that your stories serve as a good moral piece, thank you very much
Words said in anger can cause more harm than good. We encounter different things everyday some are pleasant some are not. We should avoid transfer of aggression when we are angry. Anger can destroy a strong relationship. We need to learn to control it least it controls us.
It’s only fools that give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.
Juanita’s attitude towards her friends was incongruous to a well mannered being, as her friends weren’t the cause of her problems.
She has to learn how to control her personal emotions to escape the problem it might lead her into in the future. As she might meet those who may not tolerate her hot-tempered mood in such situation.
I was so curious to know why her Thursdays were raging for her! It was not enough reason to hurt her friend with words but then people do have this transfer of agression trait and must try to work on it to avoid loosing Thier friends. Good thing she found how to change her Thursday mood. Lol. Bless you ma
It is best for one to be able to control his or her temper. Juanita allowed her anger to control her, therefore, hurting Brenda with her words,under the influence of anger. This she regretted. However, in other to avoid the occasions of”Had I know”, its better to control your anger.
Anger is not a good thing at all, it can destroy long and cherish relationships.
For me I don’t hate any of lecturers and their courses irrespective of how boring and stressful it maybe.
I thank God for the last solution she found for herself although not too approving, especially chatting why lecture is going on.
Anyway I love her self determination at the end of it all.
Anger is a normal thing, but we shouldn’t be controlled by our emotions. I used to have this kind of anger issue, and it made me to ruin my relationship with some people. Just like Juanita, the way I used to respond to people or react to issues while angry was so bad, and I have always regretted it. There is a saying that once a word comes out from the mouth, it can’t go back. And this is very true,you may ask for forgiveness, and be forgiven, but as humans the words are registered in the person’s heart. But what
Juanita wants to do to help herself with is not the best way to come out of the situation. When I was battling with my own, I understood that there is a spirit behind it. I think she should rather go to God in prayers and ask Him for the grace to overcome it.
Lol! Okay this one I can relate to. Some lecturers can assasinate your mood. Also keep in mind that Juanita wasn’t in their league (older than her classmates) so she didn’t have time for petty talks which she didn’t see as helpful to her in order to catch up with the life she missed. Keeping in mind her past experiences, you can also not blame her much because someone like that doesn’t have time to waste at all. But my advice to her is to take life easy. Sometimes it is good to soft-pedal a bit. Transferred aggression should also be avoided because it only complicates matters.
Our angers should be controlled and never transferred over the innocent ones.
Transfer of aggression should not be practiced amongst us.
Though most of our lectures knows confuse and disorganise the students by talking or make references out of bounds of discussion.
Nevertheless, Juanita should not have raged her anger out on her innocent friend /neighbor… She should have gone on to read further ahead the lecture in other to equip her mind.
Anger and fury are two friends we are to avoid. We should always learn to control our anger rather than allowing it to control us which leaves us with nothing at the end for anger does not solve our problems rather it hightens it.
Seriously, anger is one thing that can damage lots of things .I believe if one can think while the person is angry, some things will not go wrong because anger comes like a force; once you are angry, you don’t think.My advice to all the quickly angered people is to always calm down and try to think rationally when they are angry.
I too hate Thursday because they are the longest in the week, but Juanita is right to look for something that would make her feel alright despite the rage that comes with Thursday
In life, though, anger is inevitable but we have to be careful . Out of anger we may hurt people through our utterances; therefore let’s always keep our angers in control.
No one or anything should deprive you from being happy not even a mere lecture or lecturer. Find what gives you joy and things you can do to avoid getting angry at yourself and others.
No one or anything should deprive you of being happy not even a mere lecture or lecturer. Find what gives you joy and things you can do to avoid getting angry at yourself and others.
Anger surely is a trait in we humans, but one thing we should remember is that controlling or learning how to control anger is really a plus. As for the lecturer, maybe it is his way of making the class lively and interactive.
It’s really a good thing Juanita found a way to control her anger and keep her mind away from bitter thoughts.
In life, though, anger is inevitable but we have to be careful . Out of anger we may hurt people through our utterances; therefore let’s always keep our angers in control. Thanks ma.
One thing people fail to understand is that anger is a very natural feeling, everyone no matter how nice you are, gets angry once in a while
The major concern should be how u manage and control your anger because anger lead you to do things you’ll regret
You see anger, that’s a very bad feeling one can experience, and the thing is that its an excruciating pain really getting to your soul in which you want to express as your feeling not minding the consequences of your actions. I can relate to Juanita’s action towards her friend because I can be like that, not being able to control anger and lashing it out on friends but I have always asked God to give me grace to be able to control it because controlling anger, at times is not something so easy to do.
Anger is hard to control but in Juanita’s case, it’s really funny. If I were the one, I would even enjoy the class where the lecturer would be talking about other things that would make people laugh. But if it gets excessive, it’s bad because the lecturer won’t finish his scheme which would greatly affect the students on the examination day.
We are all in charge of our happiness, we chose what makes us happy and neglect the ones that makes us furry. It is cool that Juanita later believed that happiness is self oriented.
Anger as it is, is a natural phenomenon. It is only a sin if it surpasses the normal rate. We should try as much as possible to control anger in any form it may come. It finally summaries that we should find out that thing that makes us happy and do them. Thank you Ma’am for this story.
Making a plan on how to deal with a particular discomfort is nice, don’t let a particular issue weigh you down rather, make a plan on how to get through it.
Its natural for one to get angry, but we should not allow it rule over our emotions. As a rational human being, it is very important to weigh the words we speak carefully before it gets out, to avoid unnecessary regrets and heart break. Thank God, Juanita has finally found a way to end this her Thursday evening rage,at least it will go a long way in preventing any other future transfer of aggression. Thanks ma for sharing this piece.
I liked that Juanita was able to find solutions to her problem, unlike some people who would just get angry and not find solutions for it, some people don’t get that time is valuable, this a good lesson to learn
Anger is like a raging fire. And when left unchecked, not only destroys relationships, but causes emotional injuries. We can see due to juaniJuan anger, she hurt her friend. People need to learn to control their anger
She probably is a very temperamental person, such trivial reason to feel homicidal, lecturers who never miss a lecture, but only input general knowledge are no better than the ones who don’t show up at all, they’re on par
Anger to my understanding can do and undo. Juanita on her own part desires to have a deeper learning of her course while the lecturer is beating about the bush. But on the other hand, this injures her relationship with Brenda.
The story is a very interesting one filled with a lot to learn from. One shouldn’t ashamed for or think it’s abnormal to get angry. Anger it one of the natural ways we let out our emotions anyways. But then, watching the level and frequency of our anger matters. Its always important to learn how to control it. And who best to help us if not God Himself. A nice one Ma.
I know I have a really bad temper. I get really mad but one thing I try not to do is transfer aggression. It’s bad. You end up hurting brhe feelings of others to make them feel that same way you are feeling. That’s so selfish
But thank God she realized herself and now she’s going to make amends
ThE thing with anger is that it hurts you so bad that you tend to transfer aggression or want to squeeze the life out of somebody else. Mood swings and anger go hand in hand and it’s only by the grace of God that these emotions do not ruin us or damage our relationships beyond repair. Control over our emotions is of great importance.
there’s one thing that makes me angry is when someone I know takes my stuff without telling me, and when I get pissed I watch a movie to forget the whole thing. juanita’s case wasn’t suppose to react that way to her friend though, she’s in school and everyone knows lecturers can decided what they want to do with their lecture time, seriously it wasn’t enough reason for her to get angry to that extent of transferring it to her friends
Anger is a natural trait in us, we can’t avoid it but the solution lies how we control it. If am angry I like speaking out, this helps me feel better rather than keeping mute. Jauanita’s idea is good in a way that it will minimize her anger as she stays in the thursday class and not too good because she won’t get anything the lecturer says, because there is a saying that states ” in every rubbish there must be a point”. Even though some lectures can be like dat, but you still have to force yourself to listen to them, because you can still get meaningful information or hint from them at the time of lecturing which you cannot get after
A typical UNN student in Gs classes. But that shouldn’t be enough to make her feel suicidal, Juanita’s anger issue is totally out of control, at least she has a hint.
I understand that all lectures have different teaching methods. Listening to his ranting wouldn’t be so bad. She might learn one or two new things from what he says.
While listening to him, she could as well thrown a question that might make him talk about a topic related to the course. Besides, that is the essence of studying ahead of your lectures….
I must also commend her for finding a way of getting rid of her every “THURSDAY RAGE”
Speaking on Juanita so called remedy to her anger, I don’t buy that ideas at all, it doesn’t sound encouraging in all ramification.
I will suggest she should endure and attend the lecture because no knowledge is a waste, in every nonsense there is always a sense or better still, she should not attend the lecture at all because no lecturer will tolerate students doing something else while he or she is teaching.
It is good that she realised her mistake and decided to apologise and also seek a
Out ways to stop her regular Thursday anger. We shod learn from here that it is better to be quiet when we are angry than to speak and hurt another feeling.
When situations you can’t get out of make you angry, the best thing to do is to find a way to make the situation bearable,distractions always work.
This is so relatable, at a time when lecturers are trying to cover up lost grounds because of the strike, fixing lectures and then coming to waste time. Since the lecturer takes attendance and I know I can’t skip the class I’ll look for a safe spot where I won’t be easily detected while using my phone and browse up more materials to form my personal notes. Thank God sha she has found a way around it, she should sha avoid being caught. But there are some lecturers I relate with, maybe in one of our discussion I’ll bring it to your notice in the most respectable manner I can, biko I want to graduate with my mates lol. Thanks for sharing.
This is a really inspiring. Being angry is a inevitable trait as long as we live. But no matter what, we should not allow our anger to override our rational mind, thereby causing us to hurt the people close to us who only mean well for us….let’s learn to control our emotions
Anger is Something we Can Not Get Rid Of, it is Inevitable. Buh We Also be More Sensible In Avoiding Anger because Anger Causes alot of Damage To Us. Therefore we should not allow Anger To Dominate us, But trying to control it and control Perfectly. She learned from her mistakes and tries to control the Anger she always Have on Thursday’s lectures
lolz. this story reminds me of a friend, he is use to transferring aggression. It hurts and discourages friends around you when you place yourself in the position that they cant put a smile on your face when you are sad. The problem is not always about been angry but how you were able to handle your feelings, friends should be the ones we can not avoid even when we are angry. Most times we end up making it worst when we bully them. thank you Ma for this fictional story, i hope some other readers learn from it as well.
Well, anger could be very tough to handle. I would advise Juanita to really work on her temper: it is unfair transferring your aggression to another, especially a kind friend. It would have been better if she explained to Brenda rather than raising the unnecessary dust.
I pray Brenda accepts her apologies. It is hard to imagine how she would present her apology and Brenda accepting it.
Juanita really need to work on her temperament. she takes it to the extreme–the murderous pick is really worrisome. Obvious, she could murder someone. she should have plainly explained the cause of her anger. That would have simply enlivened her anger-filled heart.
I pray Brenda accepts her apology. really hard to imaging her penitently apologizing to Brenda.
I have been in Juanita’s shoe. Mine just comes at the beginning of the month or there about but then each time I’m angry, heavily raged, I resort to writing, drawing, sleeping, leave that environment or better still, talk to God. With a deep breath I say “thank you Father”. It just works for me. And thank God its all gone now.
Juanita is human anger is natural but to apologize after irrational action is good.
Life is too short laugh when you can, apologize when you should and let go of what you can’t change.
Can relate to this story, situations could be very annoying and frustrating. I’ve not found a way around mine but I give everything up to the person that knows my rising and my falling.
Lol.. Philosophy lecturer. Anyways, the story has taught me a lot. Anger management is very paramount in the life of every individual. Let’s also learn not to transfer aggression to people that are innocent of our predicament. Wonderful one once more!
Anger is a trait every human being possess.we all should learn to manage our anger just because we are going through some circumstances doesn’t mean we should pour our anger on our love ones just the way Juanita did to Benita.
Well this is a totally relatable story. I strongly believe that even in the heat of your anger , it should not completely take control over you, so much that your words cannot be weighed . And some lecturers prefer to digress away form the main course. In my case I resort to reading a novel I can learn from or complete my notes.
It is best for one to be able to control his or her temper. Juanita allowed her anger to control her and ended up hurting herself and her friend, Brenda which she later regretted. Therefore, it is advisable to control your anger in other to avoid ‘Had I know’.
Anger as a natural phenomenon is bound to occur at most circumstances. As humans, we should look for thingsnto do in order to keep the anger from arousing and causing others pain which will later lead to regrets.
Words said out of anger can never be returned. When begin angry we should think before we act or we might regret our action later. Anger is one of humans traits, so it should be handle with care.
Getting angry is normal but tranferring the anger to someone else? That’s low. she should rather concentrate on going for the class and listening , no knowledge or information is a waste and also try to bear it after all its just for a semester and she will be free from the lecturer
Anger! Anger! Anger!.Anger can make you to do what you are not surppose to do,I used myself as an example whenever am angry, I do what am not surppose to do and say what am not surppose to say.Anger is one of human trait, pray for the Grace to control it.
Every human has a feeling of anger but we shouldn’t allow it push us to doing things we’ll regret. I also admire Brenda and Juanita friendship that doesn’t have pride attached
As human being, we are prone to be angry but we shouldn’t allow to affect our communication with others
I think there are students like me who do not appreciate lecturers that deviate from what they are supposed to be teaching to unnecessary stories. I remember having a problem with a teacher in my Secondary School because each time he came to my class to teach English Language, he usually deviates from the topic of the day to telling stories of the movies he had seen. Though it can be pretty annoying, just think Juanita should manage the situation and pay attention to the lecturer instead of surfing the internet while the lecture is going on.
I learnt, the school activities isn’t a determinant to our emotional expression to others. This is because they aren’t the reason behind our emotional break down. Hence, it always good to carve out an escape means.
Sometimes it’s difficult to own up when we’re wrong, and to say sorry an even harder task. I like the fact that Juanita realized her mistake and sought to make it right immediately; she exhibited a virtue worthy of emulation. On the other hand, I like the free-spirited Brenda because she doesn’t hold grudges against people, I know she will forgive Juanita.
Anger is in human blood, but we shouldn’t allow it to determine our actions. Let our action be that, which we will not regret after.
Trekking under the sun is annoying enough, and most lecturers don’t care… Then deviating from the lecture sometimes can be good but on a regular basis becomes frustrating because it is now seen as a waste of time to students. But really learning to hold our anger and avoid hurting other peoples feelings is something students should learn.. Words really hurt.. I enjoy your stories MA.. Thank you
One of the destroyers of life is Anger. It has broken a lot of bonds, friendships, marriages and relationships. Anger when not controlled can cause havoc to individuals. Thre smartest way to tackle anger issues is to think deeply before reacting. Take a deep breath and let go of the rage in you.
There are different reactions to anger issue. words said at the fit of rage is often regretted. some react violently which might end up in casualties and bloodbath. Anger is very serious issue in our society today. And it is advised that people learn to control this anger so as not to do things that will be regretted later.
Anger is emotional,as written above,it can make your mouth faster than your mind,anger is something that is inevitable but we have to be controlling it to avoid problem,nice write up ma
We shouldn’t let our anger take over our emotions. Let’s also learn to control our anger and also prevent us from transferring our aggression to other people. Sometimes I do get angry due to all this late lectures but I don’t allow my anger interfere in my other activities. Thank you ma for this short story.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it to another person but you are the one that will get burnt. Getting angry is a normal thing but allowing it to take over your sentiment is not the best option. Juanita, even though she was angry shouldn’t have ignored her best friend Brenda, but am happy that at last she came up with the strategies to get over her angry mood and also make up with her bestie.
The best thing to do when angry is to think before you speak, because we say things we cannot take back out of anger. When angry you can as well splash water on your face, count from one to hundred, slow down and focus on your breathing, I think this helps a lot to calm you down when you are angry. Instead of transferring your aggression on a poor soul.
Anger is really dangerous, it’s a trait no one should have. Time management is also one of the keys to success. Anger is not the solution to any problem or challenge, just take a bold step, get solutions n move on
Growing up, I was always short tempered till I got tired of making apologies. Wrath is a deadly sin. We should find ways to control our anger. Juanita let her anger rule her and she always transferred aggressions. But I am happy at her resolve to overcome it. So if you have anger issues,rule it, don’t let it rule you
Anger is inevitable, we should learn to control it and not let it ruin us, interesting story.
Funny.. That’s annoying honestly! Coming for a lecture and the lecturer spends time discussing something not related to the course… But, taken out all her rage on Brenda like that wasn’t cool at all. I mean, she’s not the cause.. Lol
This is a good story for all of us on how anger can be a very bad thing and cause you to lose the things precious to you… It is always important to find ways to control our anger so we don’t do what we might regret later
likes seriously, some lectures could be so annoying and boring that i just want to plug in my earpiece and laugh out loud but no not in unn oo before i will see what i feel is rubbish and boring in exams. Anger is just one inevitable phenomenon, it can only be controlled and managed. Poor Brenda the anger was just showered on her.
Some lecturers sha.
I believe that once you love your lecturer, you automatically love the course, thus find it easier.
Despite their shortcomings and lack of professionalism we should love and appreciate our lecturers, don’t take the things they say to heart, avoid getting offended by their words, they want the best for us. I have a lecturer whose course is not on the timetable he barges into the class even during free time to teach…his course is one of my favorites and I just can’t love it any less.
One thing I have learnt about handling anger is doing nothing! Don’t take any decisions! Don’t talk! Anger is just a temporal madness which if not controlled can ruin so many things of which we might not be always lucky to make up for because words and certain actions cannot be retrieved …
God bless you for this piece..
Her fury was no excuse to be rude to her friend, good she found a way to sort the problem. I Have found a new way to control myself when am angry. Just pick up my cloths and iron all the way?
Being angry and transferring aggressions to others for something they know nothing about is totally wrong. At some point you feel very bad about it,do well to apologize to them and eventually tell them the main reason why you were angry. It saves friendship a lot.
It’s one thing to get angry, and say things out of ones present state of mind or how they feel at that moment that’s why they say out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.. it’s another thing to be remorseful for the things said or the rash actions taken… I really like people who have such habit of apologising each time they are wrong and willing not to repeat their mistakes. I don’t blame Juanita anyway, with all those heart aching problems, trust me, one is likely to commit sucide lol. But a transfer of aggression wasn’t a good idea because brenda doesn’t know the reason behind it and isn’t responsible for it as well.
No doubt everyone gets angry but what matters is how you finally resolve ur anger
When you offend people in the state of being angry saying sorry later is not a bad idea let people know when you are sorry
Juanita really tried in resolving her problems here
Some lectures needs to learn how to handle students because some students really get frustrated and don’t know how to handle things while others after the class tends to get over it that is why every individual is different
There is always provocations because we don’t all like the same thing. It is always common that anger turns to regrets after the wrong action. Juanita couldn’t control hers which eventually turns to regrets. when anger comes, it tends to overpower reasoning and that produces aggressive actions. Although it is not easily controlled, one should know that he/she should not spoil other things because of one irregularity.
This is so me! I listen to songs when I’m angry, it helps in claiming me down. I love her plan’s of handling the lecturer.
This story portrait what some lecturers are actually.. Some are really boring that u just have to go and get the textbook to follow up .. Then wasting your time or sleeping in the class.. And it also makes some people angry just like Juanita, it’s normal, we can be angry but we should not let it control us..thanks ma for the story.
No man is an island, meaning we need friends in our life, they would be there for you at all times, that is why i disagree with the outburst Juanita had on her friend, though things can be frustrating that doesn’t make it right to transfer one’s aggression on someone who just wants to help.
It is said that anger is inevitable, it is a normal thing for one to get angry with what he or she doesn’t like buy transferring that aggression towards another is very bad. I’m glad she was able to device a means of making herself happy at the end of the day after such a “horrible class “. I learned that we shouldn’t allow anger to control us, rather we should learn to control our anger. Thank you ma
Juanita anger was type anyone could have. For some it could last for weeks, months etc. Learn always to control your anger. Never let the anger put you off from doing the right things. Yea, her class were some worth annoying but it shouldn’t but her off from being happy. Thanks ma
The worst time to react is when You are angry,because you end up doing regrettable things most of the time. And again,it helps to channel your anger to something positive,as it help to ease your temper.If Juanita feels that entertaining herself in the Thursdays class is what will curb her rage,then fine.
As christians we should learn to take control of our anger so we won’t end up regretting the action we take in life due to anger
Anger is normal for humans but we shouldn’t let it override our sense of reasoning. We should try get a grip on our temper.
This is very similar to what we experience here in school… Thanks to God that Juanita realized that her sarcasm towards Gertrude was uncalled for .
Anger is a bad trait that messes up our mind and makes us react in the wrong manner even to those that do not deserve it. We as Christians should be able to curtail our anger to avoid having issues with people close to us or not
Being angry is a normal phase every human being goes through but at the same time we should learn to control them through various means in other not to hurt others by devising a good strategy that could be a sort of distraction to us in other not to create problems for ourselves and others.
Words said in a moment of anger can lead to years of regret. We shouldn’t let our anger define us as it is not who we are.A human is free to be angry. Just be careful the way you exert it.
In my own understanding, anger is not bad itself. There things one or should be angry or annoyed any and fight against. We shouldn’t let anger control us. Though being angry is a very normal human trait. But no matter what,we should not allow anger to override our rational mind and causing us to hurt people close to us, both enermies and friends.
anger is inevitable but when we allow it get the better part of us, it becomes a problem for us. we need to have a way of overcoming/handling anger to avoid hurting people close to us. juanita’s plan to get rid of thursday evening rage is a good one atleast for a start. as time goes on, she’ll device more better means to avoid her anger over-ridding her.
In my own understanding, anger is not bad in itself. There are things one or should be angry or annoyed about and fight against. But we shouldn’t let anger control us. Though being angry is a very normal human trait. But no matter what, we should not allow our anger override our rational mind, causing us to hurt the people close us to both enemies and friends.
we as humans are bound to get angry, but how we manage to control it is important. Jaunita attitude to her friend was wrong. no knowledge is a waste.she should pay attention and understand what she can, because as I being a lecturer or anyone being a lecturer its quite disrespectful for one to be in a class giving a lecture and another student is busy doing something else.. it’s highly disrespectful you know.
Well,Juanita did what she felt could be more beneficial to her. But, I don’t really buy that idea, because as a student, you shouldn’t isolate yourself from the class, especially when a lecturer is right in front of you teaching. Who knows what exactly might be the outcome of his exam, it might be from those things you felt was unnecessary. It’s our duty as student, to always pay close attention in class, regardless of what the lecturer is saying in order to be on a safe side. Thank you.
Anger trait is in all of us, it isn’t bad itself. We all should learn how to overcome and control ‘anger’. I once smashed my phone because of anger, but thanks to God and friends who help me in managing that ‘trait. Venting our anger on someone else isn’t right, rather, do something we enjoy to ease it off. Nice one, ma.
Anger indeed is a joy killer. It makes our mouth work faster than our tongues, just as the quote above suggests.
Personally, i would have repeated what she did, it gets so frustrating getting to see your time get wasted
If only people learnt to control their anger, this world would indeed be bereft of chaos…
Anger numbs the brain and siezes its ability to engage in rational thoughts.
Off course we are Free to get angry, but that shouldn’t make us act like animals
Getting angry is normal because people will definitely get on your nerves, buh one thing we should avoid is allowing it take control of our actions. Transfer of aggression on innocent people isn’t right. Btw, I must commend the friendship. Juanita must have valued it for her to accept that she was wrong and actually go ahead to settle things with Brenda. Nice fiction, ma.
It’s very pathetic what a lecturer can do with his time, but that does not justify any kind of anger the only thing to be done is to apply is wisdom, just like she did in the end
Lecturers that tell stories in class, student tends to understand their course better. Anyways she over reacted, she wasn’t suppose to transfer her anger on her friend no matter what.
Anger is a destroyer of life It has broken a lot of bonds, friendships, marriages and relationships. Anger when not controlled can cause havoc to individuals.
And this is where the individual difference theory comes in.the way people see different things differs.and the way they react and understand it wont certainly be the same.But in all,it is very necessary for us to control our anger,even in that angry moments you should see reasons to be happy.thanks ma’am for this.
The thing i hate the most about anger is that when it leaves, you have to deal with all the guilt of what you might have done. So its best to learn how to control it. I’d do thesame thing if i was in Juanita’s shoes (i already do actually) only that i’d replace funny videos with online books and mags
Anger is not an issue but no being able to control this anger is the problem we have. Juanita would have lost her friend because if anger which I am sure she would have regretted. Well I am happy she was able to device a means to curb her anger every Thursday and also being reasonable enough to go back to her friend Benita. Thanks aunty
Anger is not an issue but no being able to control this anger is the problem we have. Juanita would have lost her friend because if anger which I am sure she would have regretted. Well I am happy she was able to device a means to curb her anger every Thursday and also being reasonable enough to go back to her friend Benita.
Lol,I can relate to Juanita’s anger over trekking to a far distance to attend lecture. Very frustrating.
I’ve come to realize that anger is inevitable and it is normal to get angry but it becomes abnormal when we let it get the best of us, as we tend to do nasty things that we regret at the end. Everyone should get to know what works for them to ease the feeling, my is to keep mute for 30mins know matter how hard am being forced to speak.
Actions taken in anger can be actions taken in error we are all humans and prone to anger but at a certain time we need to control the anger before it gets so bad and out of hand that it tends to spoil our relationship with friends and family.
The worst tine to react is when you are angry,because you end up doing regrettable things most of the time. And again,it helps to channel your anger to something positive,so as to ease your temper. If Juanita feels that entertaining herself during the Thursday-boring class is what will curb her rage, then fine.
Wonderful story, to be angry is natural, but when we are angry we should shun any form of transferring of aggression to Innocent people who ain’t the cause of your angry mood, when you are in this angry mood state I advice we should be slow to speak
Anger, they say is a destroyer. We have the power to overcome anger at any point in time if we apply the power of self control. we are humans and it is in us to get angry, but the ability to control it is what we need, else, we will end making huge mistakes that we might regret.
Some lecturers sef… Lols. But Juanita should have been more mature than that: transferring her anger to her friend. She’s advanced in age and should be expected to be deal with such issues maturely… Nonetheless, nice story, Aunty.
There are students out there who do not appreciate lecturers that deviate from their teachings just like me. I remember having a problem with my English teacher back in secondary School, because each time he came to class to teach English language, he was fond deviating from his teachings to telling stories of movies he had seen before. I got so angry at him that reported him to school authority to query him. The situation can be pretty annoying but I just think Juanita should just learn how to cope with it instead of surfing the internet while the lecture is going on
Anger is simply a joy stealer. It’s better we find good ways to channel our anger rather than letting out harsh words or statements on friends or individuals.
This is really what most lecturers do, they exhaust lecture time on irrelevant things not related to the study, Juanita really had the right to be angry considering that she works a lot to pay her fees, then she comes to class to be told irrelevant stories by their lecturer when she can use the time being wasted at the so called lecture to make some little more money to take care of her mother and her sister. But she shouldn’t have released her anger on her friend Brenda. Everybody has the right to be angry on whatever annoys them but they should also be able to control their anger when it’s getting out of hand.
She should have just told her she was not in the mood to talk, after all she didn’t know how Brenda felt before coming to meet her. If the lecturer eventually set question from the current affairs she would fail it.
“Words spoken in anger are often regretted. Weigh your words carefully before u speak.” Nawaaooo for this kind anger, no rage,this one have pass anger. In all the bible says we are free to get angry,but be extremely careful to avoid committing sin in our anger. She should have thought of ways to escape her “Thursday evening rage” earlier and saved herself the stress of getting angry, yes its really stressful, all the same thank God she felt remorseful. Good one ma
This surely is a good read. Juanita should never have lashed out on her visiting friend. Whenever I get thrown off with the vicissitudes of life, I try as much as possible to avoid people so as not to lash out at them. If I can’t avoid people, I try to minimize communication to the barest minimum so I wouldnt transfer aggression. Her sacrifice for her siblings is admirable. She would sure make a good mother. “Mothering” is all about sacrifice.
No matter what happens,we shouldn’t let our anger control us,it’s good Juanita go and apologize to her friend.i have had similar experience in the past but I’m grateful I was able to control my anger.
I think am just like the angry young girl and some lectures can be so boring with less important talk outside the course outline, they will never keep to time, in FCAT it either they cone an hour before their allocated time or an hour after the allocated time and they feel its their right and to make things worse they still take attendance ooo. but in all this its so wrong to take your angry out on an innocent mind who’s aim is to make you happy. like I said, I get so annoyed but I always try to kill the angry before it gets out of hand. our sense of reasoning should be guarded and we should not let our mood control us rather we should learn to control our mood. awesome story anuty.
Its true most lecturers try to make their classes lively by bringing in some talks that might be outside the scope of his lecture. But this is just too much. I think she should tell the lecturer straight but in a respectable way…. He may be mad but he will get the message still.
Judging from the quip from Evan Esar “Anger is the feeling that makes your mouth work faster than your mind” which I believe is actually very true because there was this time I was so mad that I said something to someone without even thinking about what effect it will have on her. The words that come out from your mouth when you’re angry are sometimes not controlled by you. There are certain statements we make because we let anger consume our thought. Thank God for a friend like Brenda who is patient and would still come to check on her after going on her food spree. I believe she should find some other way to block out the anger during classes other than putting on an earpiece because she may miss an important information at a certain point in time.
This is a problem with most Nigerian lecturers. They come to class, teach absolutely nothing about the course but spend the whole hour or two discussing issues which though are important but not needed at that particular moment. I don’t know if the whole idea behind the unimportant talks is to make us respect their knowledge or just to whirl away time. If it’s any of the two it’s really wrong, we respect our lecturers quite obviously for one you are the lecturer that alone begets respect. If it is to whirl away time then it’s truly wrong, many student left their homes to come listen to you teach about the course they paid money to come learn so instead of you giving us your unsolicited arguments or belief about a particular national issue please go straight to the topic. It would do us some good
Truth be told, some lectures are annoying. They keep sharing their lives experiences and then rush up the lecture when the time is almost over. Nice piece ma’am, the lesson here is that people should device a means to manage their anger because transfer of aggression doesn’t speak well of an individual.
Anger is completely a normal human emotion. But no matter how angry we get we should not let it get the of best of us,like hurting people feelings.
Anger, they say is a destroyer. We have the power to overcome anger at any point in time, which is self control. It is true that some lecturers at times can be of frustrating students but we just have to accept. One needs to hv the fear of God n self discipline
I can totally relate with her.some lecturers are just that way. But then, it’s not a reason to get angry and then keep pouring it out on innocent people. But I’m glad she found a way of avoiding that. Beautiful write up ma!
Lecturers Sha. Actually I’ve encountered so many like that and it’s not funny. About her anger, I think her transferring the aggression to someone else was a wrong move. But I’m glad she was able to find something else to do to help curb that anger. Beautiful piece ma’am.
In the cause of our anger sometimes, we hurt the people we love unintentionally.
But I feel people should get the signs, I mean, I can tell when my friend is moody and doesn’t want to engage in small talks and I’d just give her some time to herself.
We should learn to control our emotions tho and try to be happy regardless of what a lecturer does or what life throws at us.
Juanita got the best solution to relive herself of the stress of her Thursdays evening rituals. By the way,
getting angry is a burden on oneself and can destroy relationships with family and friends especially when it’s taken out on them. Always devise an anger working mechanism that can help.
Again, I admire Juanita’s courage to further her education not minding her age. It’s a good example to learn from.
Anger alone is stress. Yes we are all humans we get angry but We should always try to deal with our anger in the right way. It’s great that she finally found solution to her Thursday anger. It was really cold the way she talked to her friend, we should try and mind what we say when we are angry
Sometimes, anger seems uncontrollable but experience should teach us that any action triggered by anger is always regretted. we can control all our passions if we strongly will to, just that it’s painful to do.
Some of the lecturers are like that though lol. They talk about things we don’t want to hear and then few minutes before their time is over,they get back to business. I think stress must have been one of the reasons for her mood swing. At least she found a way to suppress the anger which is going through comedy videos in her phone. And moreover transfer of aggression is very bad. She shouldn’t have responded to her friend in such manner.
We should learn how to control our actions and words when we are angry so as not to regret afterwards.
Don’t always transfer aggression to other people who are innocent of it.
Transfer of aggression is very bad and it can make u hurt someone in a way you can never imagine. Thank God she actually started making plans on how to remedy the situation.
Another post of poor management of anger! People should really learn not to say hurtful things to people because ‘they are not in a good mood’ and want to be left alone. Simply saying “I would love to be left alone, please” would do the trick and avoid unnecessary fights and drama.
This is a very beautiful story and educative as well. I am happy Juainta finally found a way to curb her Thursday rage. We should always find a way to suppress our anger, especially when we don’t have a solution to the problem just like Juainta did.
Anger is a natural phenomenon, it can only be controlled or managed. Sometimes we place our anger on the innocent one. We should learn not to act out of anger to avoiding hurting people around us.
Wow lovely story.
Anger issues needs to be controlled. We should learn to control our anger with someone. Anger can destroy lot of things
Transferred aggression is a common thing among students. And this is mainly,as a result of stress, frustration, depression,ill-health and mental stress. These are not enough reasons to justify transferred aggression. We should strive to have self-control, especially to anger and annoyance.
I fell the girl rage because my own can be Teribble and it’s even the same philosophy class 4pm to 6pm , like is very draining and it makes me feel bad because that is mostly one of the reasons I always miss Thursday fellowship that is from 5pm to 8pn and I haven’t experienced struggling with sleep in class but am sure is not something to be proud of.
Understanding that it is natural to be angry is one thing, understanding the concept of anger control is another, we must learn to control emotions so it doesn’t get the best of us.
I can totally understand Juanita because there are some days after some lectures that I’ll just want to shut everyone out and be alone due to the long and tired day I’ve had.
Lack of anger control can lead to a lot of damages, thanks for sharing ma.
School is stressful but we should try not to transfer our aggressions to our fellow mates.
Everyone gets angry at one point in time but how you manage the anger is up to you. I don’t really blame her because most lecturers can make classes frustrating for students.
This is actually what many of us go through here in School
This is a relatable story. It is really stressful sitting through lectures as that. What went wrong is Juanita, taking out her annoyance and frustration on someone else. It’s a good thing she strategized a plan to solve the problem.
This is a pure definition of true friendship. She realized her wrong and decided to make amend. One should never feel too big to apologise
This can be quite annoying. There’s nothing so annoying like sitting under a lecturer who ends up spending hours but taught nothing; such time could have been invested into something more lucrative.
This story is very eye opening on the consequences of anger, me personally I hate it when people do transfer of aggression am i the reason for the anger. It is a good thing she learnt how to control her anger.
I used to get angry a lot, but my Dad would always remind me in the words of Abraham Lincoln and I paraphrase; “if you want to last long in public service or if you want to remain in people’s favour, learn to hide your flaws.” So I learnt to curb my anger.
The best thing that can happen to us is realising that we have wronged someone and try to make amend. We should also try not to act under the influence of anger
To be honest it is really annoying to stay in a class for two or three hours without even understanding anything the lecturer is saying, but transferring the aggression to our innocent friends is uncalled for.
For us not to bleed on those who didn’t do us any harm, anger management is very important in our lives. Juanita shouldn’t have had any reason to begin mending fences with her friend Brenda had she managed and effectively controlled her anger that evening. She probably wouldn’t have been overwhelmed by anger every Thursday had she told herself that she at least stands the chance of getting a 100 % record of the man’s class attendance, and that she wouldn’t miss his impromptu class tests.
Being angry is very normal and what matters is the way we manage it and not end up hurting people around us. I personally think Juanita’s plan of escaping the Philosophy class with the use of her phone will land her into trouble.
Managing anger can be challenging, but it’s essential to avoid passing aggression onto others. Anger management involves developing skills to regulate and express anger healthily. It’s important to recognize that anger is a normal and natural emotion, but when it becomes overwhelming, it can lead to destructive behaviour and harm relationships. One of the key strategies for managing anger is to identify triggers that make you angry. These triggers can be situations, people, or events that provoke an intense emotional response. Once you identify your triggers, you can take steps to avoid them or prepare yourself to handle them better as did Juanita in the story.
It’s ok to get angry but no matter what, we should not allow our anger control our us, resulting in us hurting the people close to us.
It’s okay to get angry but taking it out on others is bad. We shouldn’t hurt the feelings of others because of our anger.
We have the power to overcome anger at any point in time, which is self control. It is true that some lecturers are used of frustrating students but we just have to accept. Music is a wonderful remedy to ease of stressful day and anger.
Anger can destroy many things for us, so how we control it matters a lot. Another important key is understanding. In whatever we do, we should try to understand one another and always have the mind to say sorry to other people as Juanita did to her freind Brenda.