ASPIRATION in the age of ASSURANCE (POEM)
I really want a good degree
But I need a male lecturer to arrange my grades
Monica Osagie, enemy of progress
Who send you; babe, you need some meds
I really want a paying job
But I need a male director to open the door
Dey build your CV, me I get the goods
I flex dem small, see appointment and more
I really want a comfy crib
But I need some loaded guy to foot the bill
A luxury apartment or duplex in an estate
I go pay for kind, a deal is a deal
I really want a classy ride
But I need a high-end lover to bring that assurance
Tear rubber SUV, registered to me
Like Chioma, Aya Gbaja…mila; I want my chance
I really want a hubby now
But I need a moneybag, confirmed billionaire
Private jets, shopping in Paris and Dubai
I no go gree if you no reach for there
Ⓒ Edith Ugochi Ohaja 2018
May God deliver our girls and older impressionable women from the confusion of the hour in Jesus’ name.
Postscript for non-Nigerians:
On the 30th of last month, Nigerian singing sensation, Davido, released a song titled, “Assurance” in which he pledged his love to his girlfriend, an undergraduate whose first name is Chioma. In addition to the song meant to celebrate her birthday, he bought her a forty-five million Naira Porsche. The next day, he released the music video for the song featuring the girl who inspired it. Since then, ‘Assurance’ has become synonymous with extravagant displays of love, usually on a woman’s birthday. Just two days ago, a member of the lower house of the federal legislature (House of Representatives), Femi Gbajabiamila, bought his wife a 75 million Naira Mercedes Benz G-Wagon on her birthday with ASSURANCE as its licence plate.
The Monica Osagie saga is old news. You can google it. Cheers!
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Wow nice one ma, the music video Assurance has now entered into the encyclopedia dictionary of love. Youths should be aspiring towards contributing positively in national development.
That’s a great idea, Iheanyi. God bless you richly in Jesus’ name.
The poem is a lovely one as it portrays the the current situation of the female character in most universities and has really made a point as to how things are going and I thank you ma for speaking my mind and I hope people learn from this and cut their coat according to their size.
It’s alarming when I see girls of this era and age craving and only wanting material things that are only temporary forgetting God who created them.
I love the assurance ma, it’s a great feeling and practicality of love, it’s beyond imagination. O Lord send me my own assurance oo I can’t wait to have mine.
Using what is happening to write and compose poem shows U are a controversial writer, kudos ma for ur creativity.
Nice sensational poem
Okay oo! Praise God!
Really inspiring, the poem Talk’s about the alarming situation now , where a lady depends on a man for survival.
Thank you for sharing this poem! I hadn’t seen it before! ?
God bless you, Donna!
Wow! What lavish gifts..too bad we forget the lavishness God spreads over us.
Great poem, Edith!
Yes, we shouldn’t covet gifts that cone under the wrong circumstances seeing that we are complete in Christ. Thanks for dropping by, Julie, and remain blessed!
It is so sad this is the mentality of people in this era, mostly ladies, they mostly want to rely on men to get stufss
Assurance has become the national anthem for we youths. Almost every Nigerian youth is seeking for assurance. Well assurance is not a bad idea. But our focus should be more on how to contribute to national development. And of course aim on how to make a name for ourselves.
Nevertheless, I won’t mind an assurance in my life. Bless u ma.
Lol! I think the character of our partner should matter more to us than how expensive his or her gifts are
Assurance is the trending word for youths these days. Especially we the young ladies. We want a man who will give us assurance forgetting that life is not based on assurance. Moreso all that glitters is not gold. The fact that Chioma got her own assurance from Davido doesn’t mean that without a Davido or rather a man we can’t get an assurance. How about seeking for an assurance from God and which for me is the best assurance. It’s high time we started thinking big because the best assurance comes from God and ourselves. Why don’t we believe in God and work towards archiving greatness maybe with that the “giving of assurance “will be the other way round. Just thinking…
Anyway, it depends on the individual and what his intentions are, assurance to me is a promise of a better tomorrow, buying ones girlfriend a car is not an assurance of marriage or that every day would be the same
Gifts is not an assurance for any relationship rather I would say love is a greater assurance no matter what but it must be genuine
thanks for this wonderful piece. everybody wants it in an easy way, not knowing that it is not always like that. i really love this ma.
Thank you ma, you really opened my eyes
Yeah most girls are now desperate, looking for someone to get them assurance… God’s time is really the best
Assurance! Assurance!! Assurance!!!
Most girls have fallen into alot of trouble,made alot of mistake all in the quest of finding men who will give them assurance. Assurance which isn’t based on character,respect,love,care,and genuine goals buh expensive gifts and the rest. Giving out expensive gifts is good and nice but this isn’t primary, this is why we have so many failed relationship and marriages because what we have taken it up to seek for material assurance first.
Most ladies do not see themselves as people who can rise to greatness in an honorable means, they have already the assertion that success comes when you rely on men and that is why we do not have a good or at least a measurable number of successful female youth to compare with the males.
Personally for me,I think people are just getting this Assurance thing the wrong way ,bringing their bias religious and moral views. That Davido bought Chioma a Porsche doesn’t mean she is relying wholly on him. Let my own Assurance locate me.
When you love someone, nothing is too big.
Let love lead.
Wow! It can become a fad, and a dangerous one at that! Perhaps, you need to reflect more on the matter and see the impact it can have on impressionable girls, and boys as well.
It is very nice to tell most girls the real truth about life, many of them want it in easy way because they think life is so easy. Some of them Dont even think that the maker who made us have a plan for us. Thanks very much mar
Davido set high expectations for the ladies and now everyone wants assurance meanwhile nothing is bigger than God’s assurance
This our modern era had turned to something else. Poverty had turned most of our youths especially the ladies to do anything possible to make money by any means. This Pauline letter to the Galatians captures this thus,
“Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, Idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, Envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. (Galatians 5:19-21)
I add to his advice that We should wait for God’s time because most of the things happening now points to the end time. We must accept Jesus as our personal Lord and Saviour and as such we must run away from all this earthly or material things and look for Heavenly things.
Too bad how this our generation falls for material things instead of the things God gives freely. Everybody now wants to be assured but no one wants to work hard for it. The easy way is the target, but it is not always the best route.
I am in love with this poem. Ladies shouldn’t be looking for assurance in the material aspect, but also be looking for assurance in the spiritual aspect. Thanks Aunt Edith for this poem.
We are yet to understand that musicians of these days sing to impress their audience. Irrespective of the lies in their tongue, youths always believe their show and promises. Davido enticed his audience with the music. Assurance doesn’t mean we should be idle and wait for the promises from our boyfriend or girlfriend.
In this world of extreme pursuit of wealth everyone now believes that “any way na way” I pray God comes to our rescue.
The whole idea of assurance in ones life is good but if the act won’t lead to a positive way ,then it is nothing but useless and vanity. Since it is not all that glitters that are gold, it is then better for the present girls and women to aspire for true love of Christ in their boy lover,manager, or husband. In conclusion, public extravagant spending does not connote the idea that one really appreciates and love the other partner rather; it invites other women and girls to ruin a relationship.
Very good point, Martins. Thank you.
Some ladies of nowadays (i will not say all) are waiting for men/guys to do all things for them irrespective of the consequences involved.
They are ready to sacrifice their bodies and lives to get what they want. Use what you have to get what you want is their popular saying now. And some evil men have taken advantage of this to destroy them. These ladies have even sacrificed their pride on the altar of these evil men to get what they want without sweating. Mma, I believe one day, we ladies shall see the need to use our hands to get what we want. God will help us. Thanks, Mma, for this poem.
We are in an era where morality is highly subjective. Societal doom looms!
I guess it is the stupid mentality that a girl can get whatever she wants once she is able to open her leg. She does not need to read, study or work hard because she is a loose person. What an assurance!
This era of assurance is really something else. Ladies no longer try to become useful to themselves anymore but want guys to give them assurance. Assurance Indeed
This era of assurance has really clouded the minds of people. Instead of them to be useful to themselves, they sit around waiting for ASSURANCE.
I feel we shouldn’t push away the ones we love just because he or she cannot provide all what we want..if someone loves you it would show in his attitude n care towards you not just material things..
There is a difference between LUST AND LOVE
An assurance is not bad. I want one too! but that should not be a yard stick for measuring love
Assurance… every girl assumes they need an assurance from a guy but as a lady i feel the best assurance i need is a fulfilled me.
You make a very valid point madam, i really think that girls give too much importance to things that are not of substance
people don’t understand that these material things are all vanity. What matters is how much we affect the lives of others positively and the legacy we leave behind. Indeed we are in the last days.
This assurance of a whole thing is becoming too much. I need assurance but not to the extent of displeasing myself to please the giver
Giving your bae or boo an assurance ( gift) is not really a bad idea but what we have to understand here is that we shouldn’t make it a criteria for love. Thank u ma for sharing this wonderful piece with us.
Giving assurance doesn’t guarantee a good relationship. But it’s good sha
I just feel material things is not an assurance of love..we should be with some one that makes us happy and not using material things to wipe away our tears
Very nice poem Ma ,this assurance stuff is now the craze of the day you hear girls say things like ‘lord l want an assurance’ or ‘the spirit of chioma locate me’,it’s really funny when I hear this, and this shows our girls can go out of their way to get money from a man
Funny word the singer choose though. however, his show of love is exemplary and shows that in our relationships with people, we should always treat them well. the Monica story shows how much ladies are often misguided into thinking they should be catered for all their lives, working to earn a living is dignifying too.
Assurnce every where you go.This is exactly what girls don’t understand. Being assured is for a while and being insured is for a lifetime.
thank you ma,
ladies perception of happy ending these days is just too funny. I pray for a better understanding.
The issue of Davido and Chioma (Assurance) has really driven the minds of our ladies where most girls are now after locating their own so called “Davido” instead of settling and managing what they have. Aside the girls, most guys are after wealth and are ready to do anything to get that and gradually moving away from the service of God not remembering the fact that someday all this will pass away.
I like this post because it tells us how some girls in our present generation die over material things. Some of them have even forgotten how to earn a living. They just sit at home waiting for “Mr right” to come and buy them every expensive thing they need in their life. Thank you ma for this post.
Assurance is now the latest slang for ladies. Every lady wants her man to give her assurance(gifts) I wonder if they still want love or a promising young man to build a life with?
Indeed, there’s no mistaking the creativity here.
Sadly, our definition of love has been grotesquely distorted that what remains, barely reflects the truth.
At the risk of sounding sanctimonious, genuine love is not lavish spending on the beloved!
At best, it could be one of the many expressions of it.
I hope the “assurance givers” love their partners as much as they would have us believe.
Again, I love the poem?.
Nice poem ma… I like the concept of the poem… Assurance is what every girl knows now not remembering that we don’t need guys to achieve what we need
Nice one ma,this assurance stuff is now the trending thing.girls now sell themselves so cheap just to get their own assurance.
We all want the good things that life has to offer, but no one’s ready to work for it
When Nigerian youths were called lazy youths they were complaining, but its evident that this is what we subject ourselves to. Most times I wonder what we will teach the next generation… God will help us.
The mentality of assurance has made most of the ladies not to work hard and achieve their own gifts, always looking for a man to buy for them. Thanks, Ma, for the poem.
Our girls have forgotten that the real assurance is a good character and attitude. They need to reject that mindset that “money is everything
girls needs better deliveranice. Nowadays everybody wants assurance, even new born babies will tell you they need assurance..
As the society is now, people want to enjoy what they didn’t work for especially the youths. Ma, the poem is really an indirect advice for youths to be hardworking and not ‘lazy Nigerian youths’. Thank you, ma, for the poem.
Girls should not be carried away by assurance or expensive gifts because anything could come as a gift of love.
The best assurance one can be sure of, is the one you gave yourself, because it will help you to work hard and also being determined to achieve things yourself.
This recent trend of assurance fueled by social happenings across the country has put many girls in the position to think that without hardwork you can still grow big once you have a moneybag as boyfriend thus negating the fact that the only place success comes before work is the dictionary. These “assurances” leave us thinking, exactly what do girls want today?
Superb,What a critical satire,the girls of these world want an easy way to heaven, but non of them is hardworking.well, the best assurance is your dream and working towards it and not believing that your help is from a man, rather from he (God) who made heaven and earth. This especially for girls of this 21st century.
Assurance! Assurance!! Assurance!!!…
The contemporary world of 21st century earning without working.This could said to be a church without a temple.The best ‘assurance ‘ as I know in every relationship is fidelity,which can only be achieved by the presence of the creator (God).
A laudable satire that exposes the contemporary mindset???
We should learn to avoid hoping on things we didn’t work for. Avoid yearning for things we didn’t work for but things we worked for.
Its an interesting piece with a hilarious outlook owing to the concept behind the creation of the poem. Its an eye opener to the ladies that insanely crave wealth..Money is the root of all evil..Everybody should remember that
The greatest assurance one can get is from God Because all these things are just vanity and most girls go out of their ways to get the worldly assurance.
Although the feeling of assurance is nice but if an assurance means lavish gifts and forgetting what one should really focus on, then I don’t want an assurance. It’s sad that because of that one song and the Chioma incident, some ladies believe life is not complete without assurance….. But all men aren’t Davido and all ladies wanting, you aren’t Chioma
The world today is a world of class. people feel that the amount of material things they have and cash in their pockets will earn them the respect of others but this is a wrong disposition. In other to attain this high class status we find our ladies doing everything they can to the extent of selling their bodies and this is totally wrong. We ladies should learn to depend on ourselves, we don’t need a man to provide everything we need. we can go to school, study hard, use our brains to earn our certificate, get a good paying job with that certificate and provide our necessities ourselves.
Our Nigerian girls are going crazy about the assurance thing, the popular queation now when you see a guy is, “who you dey give assurance now”, but then my advice to girls is that, ”not all that glitters is gold”
i love this poem so much, but as funny as it sounds it is true because that is what many girls want in this age of assurance
Nice one Ma, i love the song,,we have to go where we have assurance, of course no parents would want a pauper to marry his/her daughter. the older generation started it…there is nothing new under the sun..every woman need security or better still assurance
Your car and other gift may be assured but is your life assured.Crazy generation! I wonder where hard work has been placed.
A rich guy could give a girl all the assurance (cars,money) she wants and still not love her, love isn’t all about material things,sometimes the little things we do for the people we love are twelve times worth the cars and money.
Nice one Ma… The word “assurance” is now sounding like a cliché and making many young girls to lose the basic criteria they should bear in mind as qualities for the men of their dreams and not being materialistic and then terming it love.
My advice to the guys is that they should make their suites according their sizes .They should not Venture into anything because someone else did, be yourself .And to the girls they should understand that all fingers are not equal. They should also know that riches do not denote happiness .My take on Assurance is that guys should be careful because such music could be misleading .
Assurance is a very nice poem. Ladies dependency on guys has gone out of hands they no longer want to work but relax. Some times this is the reason why some ladies are been used any how. So I encourage every lady to work hard and denounce the dependency on guys. May God continue to increase your creative skill.
The issue of assurance is now misleading many of our ladies and correction should be taken before it is too late
I love this poem because it exposes girls weakness. They depends on boys too much which constitute problem to both boys and girls. They need Assurance!!!
Love in the name of Assurance is misleading. Girls should be wise and know what love entails.
Ladies of this age prefer gift for love.They love money, gift etc than boys
Thanks, ma, for the wonderful poem. Nowadays, girls depend on guys for things which they can work hard nd with God by their side, they will get them.
i love this assurance piece in particular. Its a message for youths who seek earthly assurnce which can always fade away and forget God’s assurance that is till infinty
No one dreams of been poor especially girls, but one need to be contented with what he /she has, you must not spend (million) on her beside it depends, some guys will see a girl that will love them for who they are but they will not value you rather they will go for the one that will make them go extra mile, hmmm
Assurance everywhere, I pray God give our girls the good spirit of patience to wait for a legit assurance.
Most young ladies have fallen into alot of trouble,made alot of misstep all in the journey of discovering men who will give them costly gifts
Giving out costly blessings is great and pleasant however this isn’t essential, this is the reason we have such huge numbers of fizzled relationship and relational unions since what we have taken it up to look for material confirmation first. Most women don’t consider themselves to be individuals who can ascend to enormity in a decent means, they have as of now the declaration that achievement comes when you depend on men and that is the reason we don’t have a decent or if nothing else a quantifiable number of fruitful female youth to compare with guys.
it is good to have nice things. But after acquiring all that, what next?
God!!! Youths of nowadays misquote dz word Assurance… It isn’t all about material things,, is not all about Porsche,, Duplex worth of 1bilion naira… We need to wake up especially girls.. Girls nowadays are looking for already made men,, they don’t even care to know about d root of d guy’s wealth.. All dey want is Porsche lol!… Girls beware of all dz ritualists looking for scape goats…. Be wise!!!!!!! We girls can make our money and buy ourselves Porsche!!! We mustn’t rely on guys to do so!!!!!
What a wishful thinking. Nice though, but the way she is going about that have made it “future impossible TASK” (my word). But this is a replica of how some girls think this days. Forgetting what MAHATMA GANDHI told us about things that will destroy humanity. Which one them is PLEASURE without WORK.
Men might promise you assurance with things of this world, but trust me God grants us everlasting life which is the best assurance any man can wish for.
After Davido sang assurance, all Gods creations now want those worldly things forgetting that Jesus is the safest assurance.
These are the kind of things youth imitate rapidly and then have that mindset of getting whatever they want if they have an assurance
Youths should focus on working hard to make our country a better nation and also aim in contributing to national development. Nice poem ma.
Girls nowadays do not even care how the money is gotten, all they want is “assurance”.
Everyone wants manna from heaven by just folding their arms in their sitting room which is very bad.
What a great poem,the poem is a reflection of what is happening in Nigeria. women fail to understand that trend have change.
Even the billionaire hubby will want you to also contribute financially too so you will not be a liability to him.
Nice poem MA, it’s a pity as to how ladies of nowadays aspire to use what they have to get what they want especially trying to keep up with our so called celebrities or wealthy friends and forgetting “God’s time”.
Thank you Ma, I wish our young girls will realize that assurance in form of gifts never lasts and learn to do things without seeking for help always from guys because they will surely pay as it likely said that nothing goes for nothing .
Worldly things do not always count. The assurance we need is God’s assurance. Youths beware!
Building ones aspiration on a flimsy ground, lays assurance in the cold hands of death.
Now, I’m shivering. That’s a fearful thing to say!
Youths have deviated from the normal struggle of life to wanting to make it quickly at any cost. Girls can go as far as giving up their body just to get the assurance. While boys can indulge in deadly vices just to be capable of affording an assurance. They do this without taking cognizance of he saying – “vanity upon vanity, all is vanity. ”
Assurance! Assurance! The new anthem! But not all that glitters is gold. When girls run after guys because of their money, their end may be bad. They may not be as fortunate as Davido’s Chioma. Our aspirations should lead us to do the right things and not the wrongs things. Our assurance should be in God and not what the world offers.
Very inspiring poem!This should be dedicated to ladies who are obsessed with material things.Assurance and all what not are all vanity.They will all fade away someday.The latest cars,bags,shoes and all today will become old fashioned tomorrow.True love is greater than them all
Love is a virtue, it conquers all, it is priceless and cannot be proven by extravagant spendings. however, davido feels that spending heavily on his girlfriend, chioma, is his own way of proving his love for her.
Its a pity that many girls these days have that impression, of needing just money, not love. Its sad, that people only go after riches. Its sad that people especially girls do not want to work for their grades but to wiggle their selves a pass and its sadder that there are lecturers who would agree to that, that there are men who would waste girls instead of leading them to the right part. May God help us all
That is apparently what is in vogue these days. Nobody wants to work hard for long-lasting and unadulterated success. Everyone (youth of our generation) wants quick and easy money. Not only our girls are guilty of this but our boys too. God is the undisputed and the greatest Assurance we can ever hold unto.
This poem talks about the bitter truth about our youths today, they no longer want to work to get to the top but they look for the easy way out, and they forget the passage of the Bible that says:”see a man diligent in his work he shall stand before kings and not before mean men”.
This poem mirrors the Nigerian society, where materialism has found its way to the mind of youths. Youths, especially the ladies prefer guys buying them expensive gifts as a sign of love neglecting the fact that “all that glitters is not gold”. This leaves the poor guys with no option than to look for easy ways to make money, and this has turned the nation to a wreck.
People are now displaying foolishness all in the bid to be part of ‘assurance’. Women’s talk of the day is assurance, men are now spending extravagantly in order to meet up with what’s trending… I call that foolishness.
Youths of today doesn’t like suffering they just want quick money. Love is not all about expensive gifts, youths of nowadays cherish money more than any thing, money is root of all evil. Your partner not buying you an expensive gift doesn’t mean he don’t love you, some girls will be showered with expensive gifts still they won’t be happy in the relationship, Be content with what ever you have.
It’s just annoying on how people waste ? on things that are not worthwhile. Buying a Porsche for a lady, what about the less privileged, your poor mama, why not invest on things that will earn you blessings?
Most ladies think they always need a guy to provide them with every of their needs even the basic ones. A girl has some money with her but would follow a boy just to collect the little the boy has. Most ladies think they need assurance to keep a relationship but the case is different because even with the assurance the guy can decide to end or continue with the relationship. We have to understand something, a relationship is not built on gifts because gifts no longer keep relationships. Many relationship are in wreck because it was built on materials things. ‘What do you have to give me?’ It doesn’t work that way because when what the love is built on is gone then the relationship is sure to ruin. We should learn to build relationships on love for one another not on ‘Assurance’
Poets are like prophets without a white collar and pulpit. This work totally X-rays the current status of the society we try to thrive in. A society where people crave wealth but do not desire to work for it
The term “Assurance” is used to stylize this celebrated display of laziness and my very own Ms Ohaja did a fantastic job in this literary piece.
It’s a wake up call for youths world over. Put in work and all of the beautiful things this world has to offer will be assured
Ms Ohaja. Bobby remains your No. 1 fan
Assurance indeed! Girls and young women of this dispensation should stop deceiving themselves. If you want something, work hard to get it. If a loaded man comes along, then its the icing on the cake. Sitting around and waiting for a money bag to come along and make your life easy is self deception. If he manages to come along, then, be ready to be used for ritual or a punching bag or a sex machine or better still, a house decoration.
I don’t understand why young women have the mentality that you need a successful man to make it big,that mentality have made lots of ladies poor, it has brough nothing but pain and shame. Assurance indeed. No one aspires to become a First Class citizen anymore. It’s a shame what our society have turned into. I hope we learn before it becomes incurable.ma the poam is wonderful.
Assurance has become the national anthem for we youths. Assurance is not a bad idea, but we need to contribute to national development and aim on how to make a name by ourselves not with having rich guys that will be doing the spending.
I think that the youths should be aspiring more on how to develop our nation. The youths needs to put more effort on making our nation one amongst the best imagine if davido invested that 45million in building a factory i believe that would have gone a long way in our economic sector it will even serve also for job creation.We should be more concerned in developing our nation
People are soon forgetting that all this material things they clamour for are vanity. What we should aspiring for is how that which we think that we have can help other people’s destiny not to waste and lavish it on temporal things.
A poem with distinction,clarity and wisdom.We the youth of this era should work tirelessly to provide comfort for our family and relatives. Davido provided assurance for his girlfriend chioma. We have to trust in God,work hard.this is applicable to both Genders.All element of distraction in this 21st century should not dissuade us from getting Assurance,insurance from God and getting fulfilled in life.Laziness should not be known among us.Davido has worked for his pwn it is now left for us to get ours.
Life is good, everyone wants to enjoy life. Well life is worth living but one thing is that we should not useless ourselves because we are extra rich.
No go hustle
Dey wait for assurance till u torn agbaya
Pleying the waiting game while the biologica clock ticks away
..the problwm wi5h nigerian ladies is that over dependency on the mans spending capacity has turned them to lazy nigerian ladies
The extract ‘I really want a’ from the poem is the most dominant in the poem……..the subject matter in the poem is WANT……she wants this and that, without trying to work them through by herself; rather being dependent, which should not always be an option for a girl.
In our society today it seems to be the way forward, especially the issue of a lady demanding too much from a guy in the name of being in relationship and so on. ladies like that some times end up being doomed for life. The end point is usually full of regrets. Is high time when ladies should say no that way of life..
Material things are not all it takes
All that glitters are not gold
Most girls nowadays depend on their ”men”for survival, well for me I would say that with being an independent and a successful woman, you can get all you want without selling your ”gift”for any assurance.
This is a wonderful poem, which i feel is centered on a girl who feels she can only succeed in life with the help of men, and this is extremely wrong, girls or women should be independent.
the thing that drives me crazy the most is when I see young ladies with promising futures destroying their lifes all because they feel money is everything. Money can never be everything, only shallow minded women go about chasing money. Dignified women sit tight and plan how to make their lifes better in a more dignified way. Trust me when I tell you that responsible great men don’t go about chasing shallow minded women, because they know that once they lose their wealth the lady disappears.
Awesome, but girls should know that money is not love and love can’t be built only with money. All that glitters is not gold.
Nice diction,sweet tone. This is the dream of most girls. Flashy cars, shopping trip to Dubai. Social media has poisoned the mind of many.
Why did the speaker use a lot of exaggerations just in a bid to demonstrate what she desires?
These are not exaggerations. They are the very thoughts of some girls. This kind of writing is called satire. You could find out more about it.
Greed! Oh, our ladies and their lust for money and comfort. “Use what you have to get what you want”, this notion has become the thing of our generation. You need assurance abiih? I just hope it doesn’t bring many of our youths to their doom.
The poem tells us the way things are today. Everybody wants good things to come their way without working and that is case in the society today.Even for boys and girls
Assurance is not totally wrong, it depends on the angle through which people sees it. Davido bought a car worth of forty-five million naria for chioma, that’s because he has enough money to do so, that is the same way God gives us his own assurance but most at times we are so blind to see it.
ladies nowadays can not make do with what they have they always want more, and end up giving out their most precious gifts to get more.if you feel what you have is not enough then you can go get a job to sustain yourself dont wait for a man to jump into your pants before you get it.
not all that gliters are gold,how ever assurance is not completely wrong a woman can be assured with an engagement ring rather than sex or expensive vehicles as that does not guarantee his love for you.
Nice one ma. The idea of assurance has made so many girls do wrong things just so they would be able to live up to a particular standard.
unfortunately the poem pictures the mind set of our young ladies.. everyone wants it easy and cheap. ”no need for dignity of labor” anymore..
Assurance is the new motto for youths especially ladies nowadays. We should focus on national development and helping people that need the money more not spending money lavishly on things that really don’t matter and won’t benefit other people around us.
In the age of assurance where no girl wants to sweat it out to get what she wants and no guy wants to go through the hard way to make the money. I pray this poem will actually change that mentality.
Living in a world of fantasy is not the best young girls like us always want the best mr perfect and so on but it dosent just end there…hardwork determinatoin and good will are always the keys to a happy life we should all learn ina positive way and make the best out of it…. God bless you ma
An interesting piece. Love shouldn’t be weighed according to the pocket size of an individual. Instead of waiting for a man with billions of dollars, why not also work on yourself to become the millionaire who billionaires are dying for?
Nice poem. Showcases the trend of the moment (Assurance) and the fever that goes with it especially among our ladies. Too bad our ladies don’t really understand that all that glitters are not really gold. They should instead work hard to carve a niche for themselves rather than wait for a man to give them “Assurance”. Nice poem indeed.
I think this assurance thing have made some girls go to far extent but forgetting that all hands are not equal.Every lady now wants their own assurance forgetting that the way God blessed this person might not be the way he might choose to bless you.
In summary, it’s lust that’s the order of this generation.
In reference to the Bible, we shouldn’t build wealth in things that can be eaten by moth and can get rotten but build our riches in heaven where they can benefit us even to eternity.
What a wonderful poem.. Assurance is now the anthem of most girls nowadays, they all need a guy who will b able to buy expensive gifts for them.
Wow! Aunty Edith this one is a nice work..but nevertheless our youths mostly the girls have been aspiring so high even before Davido released that video ‘Assurance’ so is not just about Assurance but about flexing life and lack of contentedness.
Yes most girls are now desperate for one to get them assurance (guy).to lavish money and material things on us forgetting the priceless things God gives us for free (e.g air and life )
This one is youth problem nowadays.they want to get something in the expense of another.they are always relying on people to get something that they can just workout for their selves.
The word that is on everyone’s lips is ‘Assurance’ especially the females. It’s not like there is something wrong with getting assurance from someone But we fail to acknowledge God’s assurance (gift of life) most time and always focusing on the worldly assurance. Females of resent now believe that without assurance life is not complete and forget that them seeing the brightness of everyday is not by their power or might. We should be grateful
Girls are too desperate these days,the bad ones are tarnishing the image of the good ones.
Now most people do not acknowledge the ladies who worked hard to earn their success, they attribute it to “runs” as it is called.
Nice post!…funny and sad how our generation ,ladies to be specific think they can’t single handedly achieve so much in life without the help of a man !
Women of nowadays,think it is so good to rely on a man.my mum told me that is good to be successful independently as a woman. The new man believes that any woman that relies on him for everything is a liability and can be used anyhow. Ladies should stand up and be successful,dont wait for a man in the name of assurance. The only assurance that will last is God’s assurance. wake up and assure yourself by being successful.work for what you need. Wat a man can do….
This is why we are being tagged as’the lazy Nigerian youths’ you see a female student who doesn’t attend classes,do assignment ts,miss quiz still having an A in that course how is that even possible? You sleep around just because you want to put on nice cloths,own clean ride,wear Brazilian weave on,all material things. But what will it profit a man to gain the world and loose his soul? Depend on God,work hard pray and believe you will reap the fruit of your labour and God’s own ASSURANCE is the best as it will last you a life time
Assurance! Assurance!! Assurance!!! This is the trending word amongst our youths today. I pray that God will help our youths to know him for themselves and leave behind, all these worldly pleasures. For every thing is vanity.
Wow wow wow, girls should know that things have change, this is no longer the era when you will be lazing about and guys will provide everything for you, look at linda ikeji and a lot of girls that are famous in Nigeria, cant you be like them? You are waiting for personal jet? stay there and keep waiting.
Assurance! Assurance!! Assurance!!!, is now the everyday word for our ladies this days. Most ladies wouldn’t want to go to a guy that won’t give them assurance just the way Davido gave chioma assurance . And it has made so many girls Still in their parents house because they are looking for the guy that will give them 45 naira million Porsche . Nice one ma
I don’t think giving your wife or girlfriend assurance is only when you buy her expensive gifts, assurance can be given in the form of unbroken promises.
Assurance the reigning jingle. As long as girls are existing assurance will be the only way for a girl to define a mans real intentions towards her which comes in an extravagant expenditure. God help the generation of youths today!
,at the end, all that glitters is not gold, material things is not a yardstick to measure love, and hardwork is the key to living a successful life
seeking for an assurance from God is the greatest assurance.some ladies of this generation now depend on men for everything and i keep asking what happened to your own hands…be your own assurance.??
it is quite unfortunate that money comes before anything in this 21st century. Every girl wants a man that would be present and future flawless. They forget that it’s not always about the money and sometimes it takes two to tango. Thrilling piece though…
Most of the girls in this country don’t want to legally hustle their way to the top through hardwork, honesty. Loyalty and commitment rather what they want is a life of bed full of roses and can go any length to achieve it even if it requires their dignity…. Shame unto those who believes in this ideology
Wow aunty Edith am marveled at your knowledge of current trend. Splendid. I must say this days the mentality of if you love me prove it through lavish gIfts and property . May God help us at this present generation.
The quest for material things of the world has brought the world to a destruction. Everyone wants to live a flashy life, nobody thinks of the dignity and pride before acting especially to the ladies who can go as far as selling their Virginity just to get material thing which will one day pass away. The men on their own try to leave up to the expectations of those ladies thereby indulging in several filthy things without knowing that its only God that can give such everlasting gifts with the accompaniment of peace. Its only God who will save us.
Gifts can never bring love but definitely, love begets gifts.
Every lady wants assurance not love, that’s too bad.
Hmmmm every girl wants to be assured. You give out your precious gift,something you didn’t pay for,something worth more than gold,you give it out anyhow just to get material things. We should be contented with what we have as a girl and also to guys. We shouldn’t impose things on our boyfriends just because of what the popular musician (Davido) did for his girlfriend.we should just wait for our right man and be contented with the little we have.
That is the problem with the young girls of nowadays. They feel that every girls success has a wealthy man behind it,this phenomenon has eaten deep into the life of the youths of 21 century which shouldn’t be. Girls should believe in their ability to attain greater height without men been acknowledged for it by working had to achieve it.
Ummm! A true piece indeed. Ever since Davido released ‘Assurance’ all girls talk about is ‘if he can’t give me assurance then he should forget about this relationship’ but girls seem not to notice that chioma also makes money for herself, she’s a Chef. So lazy girls should stop waiting for assurance, when they never assure themselves finish.
The luxuries listed in the poem are what every individual would want but the means of getting them as stated in the poem is not correct. That way of thinking is attributed to lazy boys and girls who would rather rely on their partners in relationships than work hard to satisfy their cravings.
youths rely more on material things in a relationship than the real love,assurance has become the talk and even the dream or expectation of most girls now in a relationship which is not meant to be, forgetting that hardwork is what pays.
This shows how wanton people can be. Especially the female folks or students who feel as though everything is easy and these set of people can be desperate even to the extent of loosing their pride. Attitude.
Assurance Assurance Assurance thats what dancing on most of we ladies mouth now, even when with hanging out with friends the topic is mostly about how to get assurance not minding how or where its coming from. God save us and this our generation
Everyone wants to make it but some people want to get it the short and easy way when really there’s no short cut to success
I love the write up ma… The song “assurance” has given a lot of girls false hope..i hope they get to see this and know that they can also assure themselves by excelling in their academics and careers.. Kudos ma
If only Nigerian girls will realize the fact that the world doesn’t revolve round assurances but by appreciating little efforts made by loved ones and believing in one’s self, being independent. The world will be a better place.
Lol, Davido what have you done? Presently virtually every girl needs an assurance, forgetting that there is just one assurance, a blessed one at that, an hymn writer once wrote “Blessed Assurance,Jesus is Mine”. So ladies please find this blessed assurance (Christ) and place Him at the centre of your relationship,trust me there would be a fantastic turn around. Remember seek YE first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all other things shall be added unto you.
This whole “assurance” issue has really made rounds in the past months amongst youths, especially ladies on social media and even in hostel rooms! I will take myself for example. Ever since Davido bought a Porsche for his girlfriend, my roommates have been bugging me with their endless fantasies of their dream men who will “assure” them.
This is really sad because whenever I try to make them come to terms with the fact that all the fantasies are as a result of misplacement of priorities and misinformation, I’m then tagged as ‘religious’!
This trending assurance stuff is now the craze of the day you hear girls say things like Lord I want an assurance its really funny when I hear this,and this shows our girls expect much from the men.
My candid advice to girls out there is no guy should make you have sex with him because you are looking for assurance
I think our young ladies have lost their virtue because the scripture called them “Virtuous woman”. I truly believe that the wealth which you get by your struggling and sweat gives more joy and rest of mind but our ladies no longer see it like that instead they need the soo called “ASSURANCE” which sometimes tends to end out negatively for them. I strongly believe that what a man can do, laides can do better. #WomenEmpowerment #EducationOfTheFemaleChild
Our girls and guys must know that there are no such thing as assurance only God gives assurance and behind Evey success there is behind the scenes and that’s where the work lies, may your pen never run dry ma
there is no easy road to success all that glitters is not gold
This is a good expression of what is seen in our contemporary society especially girls who can go as far as selling their body to get whatever they want may God help us
What is the world turning into, we all want the easy way of life especially with our girls, no one is ready to work for anything, nonchalance towards our future, that we end up relying on people. everyone is seeking assurance, it is not bad but we should not be drawn into the world.
Wow.. This assurance saga has caused alot of frenzy in the life of youths making them forget theirMoral values
Demanding for things in marriage is not something bad. The thing is not be to dependent and extravagant
this issue of assurance has taken over the mind of almost every girl in our society today, every girl want that public display of assurance with a huge package to supplement it, this is very bad as people hardly consider love in their relationships because of material things.
Assurance is now the most common keyword used by both single and married ladies . It’s such a pity that ladies go into relationships because of the money and material things gained, it’s such a pity.
This word assurance is now miss used by most girls who want money so desperately not minding that everyone must not be that rich.
This are the very thought of some girls, man that we lavish heaven and earth on them is the one they want to have as a husband. And the wises man on earth “King Solomon” is what he called as vanity upon vanity. We came to this world naked and naked we shall return. Therefore let us set our mind on things above and not things on earth.
This issue of assurance has blinded so many girls of our time. I just pray that God gives us the grace to understand what relationship is all about.
The only realistic assurance i i know is God’s faithfulness.s Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” Romans 10:11
The idea of depending wholely on men for success has eaten deep into “the women’s world”, Now, we see young girls see men as money bags. Too bad.
wow! I love this write up ma, This assurance has made a lot of youths participate in immoral activities. I hope they read this and learn
Nice poem ma, ladies are now looking for rich men every passing day but they are for getting the fact that it’s always better to build a man’s wealth together with him, that way he will cherish you more.
not just because someone got her assurance in a very grand style, that doesnt mean you will get yours. and that is what leads women down a promiscuos path
What a materialistic generation we live in. Money is good but the love of it is evil, this day people express their love for money and can go to any length to get even if it means faking it. Our ladies wants to get anyone that is assured by her side. That is the they put it. Our values are going down the drain
Well as it is Assurance is now the talk of the town, every lady wants assurance from their various boyfriends or lovers.. even if not from their boyfriends but they want favours that when given to them it would be recognised and then she can get fame and people aspiring to be like her…. They don’t remember that all fingers are not equal and since they want to be given assurance they should be of good behaviour not being desperate for God’s time is always the best….God bless you ma for this incentive poem.
people around the world most especially ladies should learn how to depend on them selves through the help of the Holy Spirit because he alone is the way the truth and the light.
This is the very thought of our present young girls or ladies. They need man that will lavish on them both heaven and earth.that is the type of men they want to marry in future. But the wisest man on earth “king Solomon”, he termed all these thing on earth as vanity in his book titled ” Ecclesiastes”.we came to earth naked and naked we shall return,therefore let us seek things that are above
The poem is interesting but the question is “the females; should they always rely on the males for everything?
Every woman needs assurance especially from a man she loves, but theses days many are deeply in love with earthly things….we cannot put our hope of earthly things because they are not constant
some ladies are now based on material stuff and so won’t settle for anything less.They believe they can use what they have to get whatever the want.Everyone likes good things but what matters is the measure taken to get them.
A poem with distinction,clarity and wisdom.We the youth of this era should work tirelessly to provide comfort for our family and relatives. girls are now desperate for one to get them assurance (guy).to lavish money and material things on us forgetting the priceless things God gives us for free (e.g air and life).Everyone wants to make it but some people want to get it the short and easy way when really there’s no short cut to success.
in this present generation, ladies no longer trust guys for who they are, that is why they always want an assurance in every relationship. guys no longer send, after all “only fake girls will love you when you have”.
An interesting piece. Love shouldn’t be weighed according to the pocket size of an individual. Instead of waiting for a man with billions of dollars, why not also work on yourself to become the millionaire who billionaires are dying for?
Assurance in God is the only one true guarantee for success.our youth should strive to make it in life .they should shorn lasciviousness,laziness and a lackadaisical attitude towards life. No one can eat his or her cake and eat it .everyone should embrace zealousness, Godliness and handwork there and then we could be assured in life.
Davido’s ‘Assurance’ really got Nigerians thrilling. The female folks find hard actually, to hide their jealousy. This has led to the question, of which an answer would prove very difficult: is extravagant display of love actually the best way to prove you love someone?
Assurance in God is the only one true guarantee for success. Our youth should strive to make it in life .they should shorn lasciviousness, laziness and a lackadaisical attitude towards life. No one can eat his or her cake and eat it .everyone should embrace zealousness, Godliness and handwork there and then we could be assured in life.
Maybe we young ones should just concentrate on getting an assured future for ourselves and coming generations.
That seems to me like a really cool assurance .
Hmmmm, this is serious, ma.
But this madness of high taste is really trending especially in females. Females! Females!!
Our materialism and want for luxurious life is really eating up our dreams.
God help us, ma.
it is better to build your own achievements because you will be surprised to realize that other people’s destinies rests on your shoulders
The poem is so didactic. So inspiring and uplifting, keep it up ma’m .❤more grace!
Most girls these day just want to have all the flashy things of life so quickly,its not a bad thing trying to be successful but the means to achieve this should be decent
In our world today, most people always look for the easy way. Nobody wants to suffer and this is very wrong because it leads to a lot of bad outcomes. Most of the girls today believe in using what they have to get what they want, they live such expensive lives that they sometimes do not give a damn about what they do to maintain it. Young men on the other hand now look for easy ways to make money so that they will be famous among their peers. But I know that whatever you do not work for will never be a success or lead to something good. Again, everyone should be satisfied with what they have.
As a lady in our today general it feels so good when you work and earn your money from your sweat and it earns you more respect as a matter of fact, rather than waiting and depending on some guy who made money to buy you this and that, it could bring about insult and degrading of your worth…
Nice peom ma
As a young lady, I strongly believe in doing significant things for yourself. There is this joy you get when you look at one of your properties and say, “wow, I really bought this my self”. Don’t wait for a man to do everything for you in the name of assurance. Some young ladies can’t even recharge their phones themselves. It always comes down to the man. However, receiving a gift from a man is a sweet thing but we should not let our lives and thoughts revolve around that. Every lady deserves to be her own person.
Umuwanyi!!! You guys should get a grip of yourselves and work hard, hustle, be independent. Do you know the kind of pride that comes with being able to buy one or two things for oneself, or taking yourself out, or purchasing a land, house, car. They ain’t no feeling better than that ladies. It’s the ‘dopest’ feeling ever, they ain’t gonna be no guy to tell you he owns you because of his money already spent on you. Not withstanding from another point of view assurance is just a way of showing love.
A lot of people have the notion that men should always provide everything for the women they date. Not like this is so bad, but when ladies cease to work hard, sit and clasp their hands waiting for some sort of ‘assurance’, it becomes a problem(ohh and not to mention, the long list of items or desires they want satisfied when the so called assurance comes).
And the guys who give this ‘assurance’ think they have arrived and see it as a means to look down on women.
May God help us (the young ones) to be wise!!
Our aspirations as youth should be on how to contribute positively to our nationa, Nigeria.
Girls especially should reduce the way they clamour for material things which they can’t afford.
Just to have a taste of this material things most of our girls join the prostitution or are use for ritual.
Girls be careful.
Obviously guys will show love to their wife or GF especially the ones that are lucky with the rich ones. It shouldn’t make one have the mentality that guys should always be the ones to pay for the bills. There is a self pride one derives in taking care of herself. I used to have a friend that has this mentality, but the truth is will you be patient enough when misfortune befalls the guy??
The moment we ladies realize that we have more to offer and understand our value and worth only then will we know that we do not need any guy’s assurance but rather give ourselves daily assurances by ourselves.
Exactly ma .some of our ladies do not want to be independent again, all they pray for is a hubby with heaven and earth. Some even go into argument with their spouse all in the name of assurance. May God help our ladies.
Assurance is the trend now. It’s become every woman’s dream to marry a very wealthy man and it is this desire that has pushed our young men into money rituals and so many other sordid deeds. Now who is to blame?. Can we not go back to those days were love conquered all things, especially the overwhelming desire for wealth? Things were so much simpler then. I don’t necessarily mean that money is a bad thing to have. All i’m saying is it shouldn’t be the main criteria for or the pivot of any relationship. May God save us from the assurance craze
Will Assurance lead you through the marriage? I hope it does… The character of ur partner should be the priority rather than what he affords. Money is important but character is much more important. Assure with a caring and loving attitude rather than lavish spending.
We are too involved in materialistic things, and they don’t satisfy us. The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we take these things for granted. So many girls want to get their own assurance by all means,, lovely poem.
Assurance is now the order of the day. Wherever you go, you see women and girls sharing in the same mentality. It’s almost like if you don’t have someone to give you such assurance at the moment, you are lacking from the enjoyment galore. It’s so sad!!
Awesome .. this particular poem depicts that we shouldnt be carried away by materialistic possesion… Rather we should be the right person who would shape our life positively
Most of our youths don’t understand that it gets ugly before it becomes beautiful. Assurance is a good thing because for me, I love it o. But the question is,is it gotten from the right source? May God help our generation.
Every lady now is looking for an easy way out, nobody want to work hard for anything. They say money solves all
Who doesn’t actually need an assurance; a good house, nice car, promotion and the likes. This is my view on the assurance thing; Davido didn’t just wake up one morning and decided to spend 45 M. on Chioma, neither did Hon. Femi. These women had values I believe. Irrespective of what we think about them, I think they were able to do those things baby mamas couldn’t do and this brought something good their way. Some other ladies however will rather be lazy than do something worthwhile, but they will be the first to ask for assurance.So I wish to say that assurance comes through hard work. It can be given to a male or female, in as much as you have value that can move people around you. it can be a promotion where you work or even employment.
Davido’s ‘Assurance’ really got Nigerians thrilling. The female folks find hard actually, to hide their jealousy. This has led to the question, of which an answer would prove very difficult: is extravagant display of love actually the best way to prove you love someone.
Nobody wants to work hard , everyone wants already made.. God help our ladies.
Lol everywhere was ringing with the ASSURANCE slogan then. This is what you see in a nation where love and affection is measured in monetary value or it gifting equivalent. We have also lost our priority as citizens that we want absolutely anything and everything for free without considering the consequences of such things. The best form of assurance a person can have is the one you gave yourself. Therefore, we should all work hard to earn whatever we desire through merit and not through favour. Thanks for sharing in your wealth of knowledge ma.
This new trend is fast becoming a norm for most gullible youths both guys and girls. I just hope that this does not lead a lot of people girls especially to making the wrong decisions in life and living to regret it for the rest of their lives. It’s just sad. But who does not want to leave a good life.
I really love this poem. This is what most ladies are doing nowadays. One thing I want we ladies to understand is that having a man in our lives should be an addition to our success/achievement not a way to success.
Some girls limit themselves most times thinking they can get what they want by offering theirbodyi as the price.girls who do these underestimating themselves, offer themselves cheap and are not hardworking, forgetting that you cannot eat your cake and have it
Ladies should just remember that they are more of the population of men and they need to work hard or else they will marry their selves …man of nowadays don’t like ladies who aren’t ready to impact in their lives … Thank you Aunty
It’s an error to waste such amount of money on unnecessary things when they’re pressing needs to attend to. Ladies should not see men as source of income but at intervals its good to appreciate your woman by lavishing on her one way or the other but it don’t have to be public.
‘Assurance’ sha, old news.
I want all the goodies of life, trust me I do, but i don’t want any man saying he made me, trust me i don’t…that’s why i work my limbs out everyday and study my brains out. So when I’m on that range rover, i don’t want anyone saying….’that chic don’t deserve that’
It hurts to me see fellow young girls not having great ambitions for themselves,they believe that a man must be part of their success story,you hear them often saying “once I graduate, I want to get married to a rich man immediately, that will be the highest achievement”and that’s all. Really? No plans to have an impact in your society, which means if you don’t eventually get married you haven’t achieved anything in life,smh. The greatest assurance is the one you create for your self. Michelle Obama is the wife of the former president of America but she always had an identity of her own,which made her to be the author of the highest selling book of 2018,if her ambition had been to marry a famous husband,she wouldn’t have achieved such feat. Let’s be wise and have our own identity.
It’s so crazy this days that ladies tie anything success to a man. What happened to ladies who really wants to work hard and successful this days every lady is looking for maga to chop
I think what’s making this “assurance” to blossom is because ladies are scared of being broke and hungry, they are looking for the already made guys who will help them to reduce their burden. The problem is the ladies have forgotten too much of everything is bad.
Why does it feel like all those comments made in the poem are from ladies? Lol…
Well, this is it. This is the season we are into these days and obviously, every lady wants a man not just a man per we, but a “rich man”.
As I read, I felt d pressure the Society puts on men. I don’t want to sound all feministic and all but, what happens if a young lady makes it big herself? What happens if she makes a first class without sleeping her way through? What happens if she gets married the same way our mother’s did in the 17’s an 18’s?
I sincerely pray God helps us( ladies) to change our thinking pattern. Its so frail and shallow?
Assurance! To me this song has further increased the lacuna created by the society on the masculinity of male folks in this our contemporary society.
I feel the society to extent has not treated the male folks fairly… Ladies (with few exceptions though) now day dream, waiting for that “already man guy” to bring their long awaited dream come to pass.
They say all fingers are not equal but I ask, must yours be the shortest? It is high time ladies you wake up and be “the already made” so , who says ladies cannot buy 45 million worth of car as presents to a guy. Times changes and it would start with you, ladies.
Firstly, I want be thank you for using this trending song in composing a wonderful poem..Assurance to me a great promise for a better tomorrow which can be attributed to God because him alone predicts the future….do you know that a man can go extra mile to get you a house, car or anything but that doesn’t guarantee that he will marry you…ladies, let’s assure our lives first in Christ and he will send forth his assured man to us.
My name is Ugwu Chizoba Janet, wow Assurance with luxury or material things is vanity upon vanity if your love is not rooted in Chris then there is no Assurance May God help us just imagine what such money can do to d less privilege.
Whatever prominent people do especially musicians influence the psyche of the masses. Therefore, the public begin to internalize whatever that come from this prominent musicians without a sense of “gate keeping” people should emulate morally and ethically balanced attitudes.
Assurance indeed. The best assurance is what God gives you and what you earned for yourself genuinely. Most ladies these days depends on material things from guys and these reduces their dignity. Our ladies should learn to earn their living genuinely.
These days, love is measured by the amount of money, gifts and valuables you can lavish on a girl.
Assurance or no assurance, a girl who makes up her mind to be great, even without the aid of a guy can make it in life, you must not blow or make it in life with the finances of a guy, you too can make it. Put in work and reap your fruit too
the kind of easy life we all want, even if life was a bed of rose. it doesnt ever work that way, not being judgmental or whatsoever but this is more observable with females, we expect more than we work for sometimes thereby pushing us past our limits and it really needs to stop.
Lol… A trend of last year.
It’s different now tho.
I mean, I hear less of ‘Assurance’ these days. Lol.
Woman and man hustle!
A lady has got to work for herself, and be independent. Don’t sit waiting for some assurance from some guy. Give yourself that assurance.
Great poem ma’am
Well,all that glitters is not gold.Ladies should strive to improve themelves and not the opposite sex. By so doing ,it gives us confidence, self-respect and a sense of fulfillment.You too can be wealthy ,it doesn’t necessarily mean that a man has to foot the bill all the time. This is a call for change
According to Davido,”Love is sweet, when money enter love it’s sweeter”, nowadays, ladies measure the amount of love guys have for them by the amount of money guys spend on them and this mindset has been busy dealing with most of them. Anyways, thank God for the gift of them, because, they inspire guys to hustle harder in other to satisfy them.
No matter how you a man profess his assurance to a woman, its only God that can guarantee the assurance. I feel its just a public display of affection which might or might not last. The showering of gifts alone cannot be what will sustain a relationship. Love and care has to abide and tolerance and commitment is necessary .
It is said that everything the lady wanted in the poem depended solely on a man. When a woman is established on her own, a wealthy partner is just a bonus. Very nice MA.
Girls of our time have been led astray by Material things forgetting to cling on the real love, women shouldn’t only depends on men as said in the poem, they should also strive hard to get what they need by themselves and not been depended on men alone…. Nice piece ma’am
This is what the world is turning into,girls or young ladies of today are looking for men who would foot their bills in exchange for their body in the name of trying to get their own assurance. This has brought about bad name and representation of them in the society. may God help us and bring them in them into the light that everything is not about money.
young ladies of today are derailing from themselves in the name of money and wanting to belong which is very bad. the should learn to uphold themselves and see themselves not just as girl but as potential mothers in the society.Everything is not about money and fame.
Keeping our hopes on men to do things for us doesn’t make sense, we should always seek for GodsG assurance because it will always last longer.
young girls of today are wanting to live a life of sweetness and flexing their way at anything forgeting the implications of their deed and that one day the would account for their past life.
This poem is really speaking the mind of these days generation of females. ItsI high time they shifted focus and have a grip to reality. I’ve seen so many assurances that turn out to be disappointments. Be an assurer of your own very self.
Lol! Ma, although this happened last year, it’s still trending because almost everyone, especially we girls want ‘Assurance’ from our spouses.
But sadly this has led to the doom of many girls who are now used for rituals by ‘yahoo boys’ because some of the ‘Chioma’ were looking for their ‘Davido’ without the knowledge of ‘all that glitter is not gold’. May God keep blessing and providing for every girl out there who genuinely works for her money without relying on any guy or sleeping around to get money.
This is what is evident in most girls nowadays they can rightly see the plan of God in this contemporary time all they do, want is fast money.
our girls have now limits all they can achieve to just money and materialistic stuffs.in a world where nothing is assured they should look to god the author and finisher of our faith.God provides for his children and ask nothing in return.
That is what characterize our girls of nowadays.they are impatience, impolite and ungodly.all they want is quick money which plungw them into their doom or downfall.we should look up to God to provide ur needs.
We all as youth should endeavor to leave a holy life worthy of emulation,we should strive to serve the lord at this youthful age so that our end should be worthwhile.
I will recommend this poem for all females. We should drop this notion of waiting on a man for everything or base our preference on monetary terms. We should learn to be independent and strive to be something at least for ourselves. The plan of God for our lives will not be fully accomplished if we sit back and wait for a knight in shining armor to come and save. Say Yes to self improvement and stop looking for assurance it is not for everybody some of us have to work to give ourselves assurance that we seek. May God help us
Thank you Ma, I wish our young girls will realize that assurance in form of gifts never last and learn to do things without seeking for help always from guys because they will surely pay as it likely said that nothing goes for nothing . you can pay through ur nose later. Guys can use gift as a bait.
God bless u ma
young girls of today are wanting to live a life of sweetness and flexing their way at anything forgeting the implications of their deed and that one day the would account for their past life
In an age where Christianity should wax stronger but it is getting weaker all because the youth now want the rush of life.they all want to follow short which will lead to a cut short life.
That is what characterize our girls of nowadays.they are impatience, impolite and ungodly.all they want is quick money which plunged them into their doom or downfall.we should look up to God to provide your needs.
The greatest assurance one can have is from God. I advise us especially the girls to work for what they want and also have faith in God because we are already assured by His grace.
We all as youth should endeavor to leave a holy life worthy of emulation, we should strive to serve the lord at this youthful age so that our end should be worthwhile.
An easy life is all everyone wants and hopes for ,a life free of stress but filled with luxury sad to say that that’s what most people are actually after in relationships mostly the female gender and as a result of this are dragging themselves through the mud to achieve such life as no one wants to go below the radar of luxury.
Every girl wants to live a luxurious lifestyle without willing to work hard to achieve that desire or aim rather they depend on a man to cater for them which the men then in return turn girls to baits. Girls should strive hard and be independent.
nowadays, every woman or girl wants life the easy way. they no longer believe in hardwork or anything. once there is a man with loads of money and a fleet of cars, everything goes. no value for oneself again because, it is believed that a ladu can easily sleep her way into achieving any kind of luxury she wants. she no longer sees herself as the temple of God but as a commodity which she sells in exchange for whatever she desires. it is really disturbing. may God help us all.
I NEED NOT TO END IN HELL… MY ONLY ASSURANCE IS FOLLOW JESUS!!!
I really pray that some of us young ladies will receive sense!! God help us … There is nothing I can’t gain in life if I work for it, cause I have God’s grace as an ASSURANCE!! That includes a good, loving, hardworking and above all God fearing husband…
And for that politician that bought that 75 million naira Benz… I don’t blame him after all, na Dem de chop Naija Moni!! Surely they shall all answer to God ..
It is better to work very hard and allow God crown your efforts than hang around waiting for someone to realise your dreams for you. Besides everyone might not get the assurance like Chioma
I think there has been a decadence in the general value system of our age. Most people have embraced the idea of acquiring things in stress-free ways; not minding the consequences. However, I commend those who still uphold their morals, in the face of these challenges. God bless you ma for sharing this with us.
These days we depend on what we have to get what we want. We don’t even remember the existence of God. We don’t remember we have got potentials, dignity and values. God forbid I lower my standards and desecrate my body all for materials things. We only need to work hard and be persistent in God and we would get what we want.
Success is a virtue. To be successful, one has to work hard for it. You shouldn’t use your body for material gains. Hardwork really pays.
Many youths these days want the best things of life and are looking for shortcuts and dangerous means to get it.
There aren’t willing to put in the necessary work, improve themselves and make sacrifices to have a better life.
Such myopic view to life is the major source of pain and disappointment they face these days.
This poem says exactly what’s happening in our society today. Girls take money as a sign of love. They believe that a guy that loves them must spend on them. Guys in turn look for means to get quick money so as to satisfy these girls, and they end up doing illegal stuff that sometimes land them in trouble.
This is truly what is happening in our society today, most of the girls feel that without assurance from their loved ones that the love they share is incomplete. This is a very bad assumption which should be changed and this has made so many guys to do so many illegal things knowing fully well that girls go after money and not love. Nice poem ma.
In our world today, money and sex is the bedrock of almost everything in the society. We should learn to work hard in other to be successful. The quickest way most times doesn’t yield positive result.
Assurance or no assurance my life must go on. I did not come to this world to start waiting on people to meet my needs. I am still under my parents, good enough and I strive hard as much as possible to be contented. There are more dire issues than assurance in our ailing country that we need to focus on, I pray that eyes are opened to see the wide world of possibilities which we have chosen to ignore. Thank u ma
An assurance should be whatever anyone has to offer. People show love in very different ways and I think that display of love in the most sincere manner is enough assurance for me. I think people followed suit because of the wavy nature of our priority these days, some guys even resulted to illegal activities just to give their girls assurance. May God guide us
It’s so funny that in this age, people are so focused on money that they forget the meaning of love. Whatever happened to the tales of marrying a man not for his wealth but for who he is. These days, the ladies are looking for assurance and may end up in the home of a tyrant, then they begin lamenting. Let love take the wheel. Support your man until he can finally provide you with the assurance you are looking for.
This poem is meant for all ladies out there. We should learn to be independent and strive to be something at least for ourselves and not always base on a man’s wealth.
this poem exposes the thought of so many young Nigeria youths, mist especially the female folk. I will like go say love can be shown in different ways and not in materialistic items like cars, houses, etc. the true definition of love is beyond what the eyes can see… also our girls should be careful of what they wish for because they are so many evil men in sheep Cloth waiting to devour them…. let’s mind and be careful what we wish for. and as a ladies, I don’t believe in a man getting me what I need. if I need a car, I work towards it and get it, if I need a house, I build the one up to my taste, etc… ladies add value to yourself. nice work ma.
What Nigerians Youth want this days is an already made man not the one they practical had to watch struggling with how to make ends meet with money. They want men that could assure them like davido assured chioma with Porsche, Assurance!
This got me laughing at my self… I’ve actually heard this some places, most times… And my perspectives.. lol but it’s true, u think we ladies should reduce our tendencies of wanting more from the opposite sex because most of what we want are what we can afford if we put the task to ourselves. Yes we would need a partner in most things but we are actually making it look like we are not capable of doing anything.
“My fellow Igbo babes, this is our year. If he’s not buying you a Porsche tell him to shift ka onye ji ego bata, we will all be Chioma this 2018.” this is how girls react this days, they don’t care how the money is gotten, and they feel that true love is when their partner gets them expensive items.
God help our ladies
Girls this days want already made men not even minding the source of their wealth and in the course of this, many girls have fallen victims of ritual men because of the so called ‘assurance’they want.. Some girls will say:If d guy no fit make me Chioma(assurance)make him shift make better person enter. Babes we should try to be independent and work hard to be our own assurance. No be crime if you buy your benz for yourself.. Stop depending on any man.
To be frank, I think the whole assurance thing is totally wrong. I am not against showing ones love another but doing it in an extravagant way, is not right. The youths rather, should aspire to do great things and help the downtrodden not the other way round.
“Assurance” a trending word last year.Its high time we girls stop folding our hands and waiting for assurance from men.Believe me,if you have Jesus, you have the best assurance ever.
Wonderful! This is for our ladies who think they have to be successful by selling their bodies to men. Kudos to you Aunty Edith!
The myth behind this in our society now is the believe that as a girl child, you won’t have to suffer to get what you want, your sufferings should be limited. That been a girl child is a guarantee that you can get what you want. They really believe that as a girl, there will always be a prince charming somewhere who can rescue them from their different problems/difficulties, If only they can play their games well.
Apart from being obvious for the female folks.it is entirely true for the youths of our generation who stick to material or earthly possession and gratification. We no longer have vibrant hardworking personalities as the day of old.everyone want a quick and sharp life.God is not only our assurance in this contemporary age but is our life hope for everything we dream of acquiring in life.
Apart of its being obvious of the female folks.it is entirely true for the youths of our generation who stick to material and earthly possession and gratification. We no longer have vibrant and hardworking personalities as of old.everyone wants quick and sharp life.God is not only our assurance in this contemporary age but is our life hope for everything we dream of acquiring in life
The poem is amusing but it makes a lot of sense. We shouldn’t be too materialistic and forget some core values.
Young ladies should understand that material things isn’t the prove of love. However, grace dffers, so we should cut our coat according to our size. Nice piece, ma’am!
I fear ladies a lot! I lady once told me this 3 statement that got me perplexed. She said (1) I know what I want. (2) How to get it (3) Where am going to. So ladies will always have their way because of the nature they were created. Then what happens to them when the chips are down. It is said in Igbo tradition and I quote “Agbacha Oso aguo mile”. So I’m not move by then trending assurance.
Wow this is so creative ma. Most girls in the society always want to be dependent on guys with loads of cash instead of actually praying to be that dependent, strong and hardworking woman that the family and society can be proud of. I mean we have women as millionaires and billionaires in the world e.g Angelina Jolie,Chimamanda,Serena Williams and so many of them. They all worked hard to be where they are today.
Lol… This assurance thing has really driven our girls crazy and thereby pushing some guys to indulge in deadly things just to be man enough for their woman … Sadly, most relationships has been broken because the men refused to give assurance to their girlfriends and wives…Life is not a bed of roses….let’s all be guided
The best assurance every man should aspire to have is heavenly assurance.
Without God in your life, every other assurance you have is vanity upon vanity.
God bless you exceedingly ma’m.
Ladies these days seeks what’s in a guy’s pocket, financial security rather than love. Guys now indulge themselves into deadly means of making money like the popular ‘pant for Benz’ just to attract women. I pray that God will help us all.
Assurance is what we look for now oh.but we are too desperate to get it by any means which is bad.God has set everything in place for us to benefit from. This generation wants to get everything without working hard to get it.nice one ma.
Women ought to aspire to become influential and not looking for someone who has laboured to make it to the top, the porche was just used by Davido to express his love for his friend, ladies have to learn to accept and appreciate whatever they are been offered by their friends and stop the unnecessary comparison that makes them do disgraceful things that end up reining their lives
This desperation is too much nowadays.everywhere and everyone want assurance no matter what and how.may God forgive us.the way people use short now is very alarming. Lord teach and guide us.we need your healings to heal and purge our youth. Great one.
The excessive crave for luxurious life among young girls of today, need a beckon call and proper redress need to be taken. But ma, I will like the poem to capture the male folks search for money, making them to delve into cyber crimes and other fraudulent activity.
That is another topic, my dear. You can’t say everything in one poem. But I’ve addressed that generally in the poem, “Wealth and Fame,” and my series on Ponzi schemes. Thank you!
This is really sad! Ladies no longer want to work hard as they would rather expect outrageous priced things as claim for love as prove that a guy loves them without wanting to know the source even as the issue of “yahoo” is now an order of the day. May God help us all.
thank you ma,
ladies perception of happy ending this days is just too funny. I pray for a better understanding.
Thanks for sharing, it’s inspiring . thanks Mama, young girls come and learn
It is an interesting and inspiring poem. It portray the society we are in today.
This lady narrated in this poem is not being real with life. She’s full of misplaced life priorities and fantasies that doesn’t exist.
thank you ma,
ladies perception of happy ending this days is just too funny. I pray for a better understanding among our girls.
Young girls of nowadays want to marry rich men without knowing there source of wealth, they believe that true love lies with riches.
This has been the ideology of most women always relaying on men for sustainance or for one thing or the other.
This has always been the ideology of woman always relaying on the men for sustainance or for one thing or the other.
The best assurance one get is only from God … But some girls don’t understand it…. I pray for good understanding among our girls
Wow. I love the colour pidgin gave to this poem. About the lady who wants a life of luxury, she obviously is basking in fantasies that can’t assure her of that ideal good life she so craves for. You’re wonderful Ma.
It too bad how people fall for material things instead of the things if God.
We ought to stop seeing materialism as the only proof or guarantee of someone’s love. Ladies should stop waiting on men before they take any action to better their lives.
If it’s yours it’s yours is what I believe
A lady can attain to any height she wants to reach and afford the luxury she desires as long as she works for it. Sometimes waiting for a man to do these things only lands a lady nowhere in life. Such thoughts of getting everything with a but there must be “a man supplying it” is borne out of laziness.
Most Nigerians especially girls want a man who will give them assurance, forgetting that life is not based on assurance.Most girls have fallen into a lot of trouble,made a lot of mistake all in the name of finding men who will give them assurance .
My mum will always say there is nothing easy in this life.if u want to be grateful for what you have u have to work for it and we should mind the way we
waste money on unnecessary things when they’re pressing needs to attend to. Ladies should not see men as source of income try work out things for urself using a moral means
Almost, if not all the ladies now want an already made man. All that glitters isn’t gold. Ladies need to learn to work and be independent. Thank you ma for this nice poem, I see it more as an advice to myself and other ladies
I could vividly recall; “assurance was the word of the year? But oh! The mix of pidgin in the poem, the common jagon, I had to even screenshot “dey build ur CV, me I get the goods; I flex dem small…” Aunty Edith your intelligence is not just one sided! God already blessed you. Peace!
Wow Ma, see how you transformed the song into a poem, I really admire your work.
Which song, my dear?
wow! bravo ma, nice one . well this are girls aspirations indeed
Not all girls though, thank God!
One policy in my life, “work for your money” remember the devil would give you a cap, but when he comes to collect it, he collects your head with it.
Most women prefer if they are being given the ‘’baby treatment’’. Not all women wants to be independent, most choose to depend on men who are financially stable.
Money is not a prove of love but neither is poverty.I pray I make my own money and also get a rich husband ooo.The only problem I have with some girls is wanting who is rich without working towards being rich.Like some girls believe wealth is only for the men.Money is really good and also helps in making life easier for the couple’s and even for the kids,the only thing is to know that money shouldn’t control us.
I cannot forget to mention that I love these poem,the use of pidgin English was really nice.
*money shouldn’t control us
We are in a world where people have replaced the passion to love and connect with the passion to possess,forgetting that the pursuit and attainment of wealth will not compensate for all the emotional emptiness and lack of connection and the void in their heart.
Sometimes people reach out for things that aren’t necessarily needed just to be satisfied. May we never fall into the wrong hands, amen.
Awesome, using the trends to educate us. Sadly, this is what is occurring with most undergraduate female students. They want great things but have the wrong mindset of getting them.
Love should not just be anchored on material things. Good Davido bought his girl a good ride, but ladies whose lovers may not be able to afford something exorbitant should not place too much demands on them.
Ma’am I believe that women should be financially independent; no matter the position the men in their lives are and again women should learn to believe in themselves and not depend on men to get to the top ….. there by doing all sort of absurd things in return for the favor ; it disgusts me anytime i listen to those kinds of stories.
This is one of the reasons I say social media has done more harm than good. A lot of fake things are been posted on social media and people fall for it without knowing that all that glitters is not Gold
The blend of pidgin and English got me. Nice poenm Ma’am
The mentality of men doing things for us especially things that we can achieve on our own with the help of God needs to end.
It is so sad that the level of laziness to work is on the increase. These days, some women go around looking for ways and shortcuts to get what they want instead of following the right ways, and in the end, they regret it- their last statement being “If only I had known”. It is indeed a pity. So sad.
Your poem said it all ma! Nice one!❤️
Most girls these days did not want love anymore, all they want is money, They believe that where there is money, there must be loveWhich is not true, because most people are affluent, but are not happy. It should be other way round: Where there is Christ, there will be love.
Most ladies do not see themselves as people who can rise to greatness.
Waw… This is so good. I really appreciate your creativity ma. Youths should really learn how to be independent
Wow!! This is so good and helpful ma
Not everything that glitters is gold
What a beautiful poem, its so sad how young ladies this days prefer a man to show his love through material things because of what they see other people do on social media not knowing what’s happening behind.
It’s so sad to see young females deviate from what is right all in the name of looking for assurance. We should endeavor to hold morality in high standard in this society where it seems no one cares about morals.