ON HEALING FROM ABUSE  (Lessons from Michael Jackson’s Life)

Today, I’m on the subject of abuse. Abuse can be physical and verbal. Michael Jackson, the King of Pop (1958-2009), suffered both with whipping from his dad for any mistakes he made when rehearsing with his brothers as part of the musical group, Jackson 5. Although flogging was a normal part of parental discipline back then, a sensitive child like Michael was psychologically scarred by it.

Furthermore, in a 2003 BBC interview, Michael revealed that his dad ridiculed his appearance when he was a kid- said he had a “fat nose.” Add that to the pressure of a Black person aiming to “look good” in a White-dominated country and industry and you won’t be surprised by Michael’s subsequent rhinoplastic and other cosmetic surgeries.

And constantly working from about the age of six, Michael was robbed of his childhood and lived a lonely and isolated life, as he told Oprah Winfrey in a 1993 interview. No wonder he seemed to have a case of arrested development- remained playful like a child and felt more at home with kids than adults.

He must have resorted to daydreams for comfort and sought to make his Neverland Ranch a physical fulfilment of everything a child could ever dream of.

But his unresolved issues from childhood placed a cloud over his life leading to an addiction with physical enhancement surgeries, possible anorexia and intermittent pronounced weight loss to retain a dancer’s figure, sham marriages and accusations of paedophilia.

God loves you and He can make you whole again.

There is a lot we can learn from his life:

Be careful what you say or do to others. Don’t be a perpetrator of abuse.


And if you’ve been hurt, don’t let it destroy you. You are who God says you are, not who others say you are. In God’s book, you’re fearfully and wonderfully made. You are loved and you can be whole again.

Just invite Jesus into your life to soothe the hurts and fill every vacuum. He will put the right people in your life- people who will cherish and treat you right. And He will prevent the demons from your past from destroying you. Amen in Jesus’ name.

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Credit for image used for graphic: Jackson_Toonz on Pixabay

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I am a university lecturer. I teach Mass Communication, mostly writing courses like Feature and Interpretative Writing, Magazine Article Writing and News Writing, and let’s just say I’ve been doing this for a long time. As you have probably guessed, I am a born-again Christian.

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11 thoughts on “ON HEALING FROM ABUSE (Lessons from Michael Jackson’s Life)

  1. Happy Sunday! It is disheartening how parents disregard some effects their words have on their kids, I just wish they could be more understanding and accepting.

    • It is heartbreaking what some children go through. May God fill the gaps in hearts suffering from any lapses of their parents and others they were under as children and help them spread the healing they receive to others in Jesus’ name.

  2. A single word you say to someone might mean a lot to the person and can positively or negatively change a person’s life, talk of the act of abuse and rejection, as humans we should learn how to treat others with kindness and encouragement, no one is perfect, and I don’t think anyone can be, so the much we can do for ourselves is to love who we are.

  3. Thanks for this inspiring words, ma. It scares me how children all over the world go through verbal and physical abuse on a daily basis under the phrase known as ‘training a child’. It makes no sense and I feel it should stop as it inhibits a child from acting as themselves with others. Most of them have low self esteem as this affects them psychologically. Parents should do better.

  4. These words speak to me directly. I have seen enough “arrested developments” to understand it. And I agree that healing from abuses that cause it, isn’t something that can be achieved solely by oneself.
    It takes the special Grace of God for one who has been a victim to reclaim one’s fullness. Often, people who do not believe in the miracles of healing by God, escape their inner torment through suicide or rather they imagine that suicide is a sure escape.
    I also think that this should help parents see how much responsibility they bear in improving a child’s psychological wellbeing through speaking kind and considerate words to them. Perhaps, if Jackson’s father were a little more sensitive, the king of pop wouldn’t have had to deal with such instability.

    • Well said, Anulika! May God grant us the wisdom to deal kindly with others and the fortitude to overcome the ill effects of any abuse we may have suffered in Jesus’ name.

  5. OMG!!! I didn’t know that Michael Jackson had a terrible background. We really need to be careful of what we say to people. Thank you so much Ma for sharing this.

  6. Wow. This is the first time I’m coming across this information about Micheal Jackson.
    Words break people and actions even more. We should all really be mindful of things we say and do. I pray everyone going through something gets help.

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