The entertainment media are full of content that depicts love but they often portray a notion of love that is selfish and abusive (remember Fifty Shades of Grey). The Bible talks about a different kind of love modelled for us by the Lord Jesus. This poem captures that type of love in marriage. The poem was inspired by my husband, Richard, who by God’s grace, is doing a superb job of loving me. His love reminds me daily of how Christ loves the church. Enjoy and share your impressions.

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    You cherish me, you celebrate me
    You support my passion and my job
    You ask me how everything is going
    ‘Cause you want to make things better

    You give me peace and sweet rest
    Not wahala* and sleepless nights
    You know how far to insist on a thing
    So as not to jeopardise our accord

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    Though our culture is patriarchal
    You allow me to be sincerely me
    You don’t impose on me as lord
    You acknowledge my beautiful ideas

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    You listen to me and you remember
    When I say, “This is what I long for”
    You put your money where your mouth is
    You never make empty promises

    You’ve been consistent in loving me
    Your love does not wax and wane
    You pray about it when I hurt you
    You don’t contrive to hurt me back

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    As I think today of how you love me
    I realise with joy and thankfulness
    This is what true love looks like
    True, selfless, deep, affirming love!!!

    Ⓒ Edith Ugochi Ohaja 2017

    *wahala is Pidgin English for trouble

    May God help us all to continuously love one another this way in Jesus’ name.

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  • Eme Samuel Ewa

    老师 您好,我 是 你 的 学生。现在 您 忙 不 忙? 我可以 知道。谢谢 您。

  • Eme Samuel Ewa

    Well done Ma,for your spiritual nurishment.
    A large door that leads to greater activity has been open to you.thanks a lot,God bless you more.

  • Osakpolor

    I love this!

  • Jennifer Adaeze Lisa

    Interesting! True love actually dwells on the strengths and not the weaknesses. This poem encapsulates just this.

  • Joe Odo

    Whao, you said it all what true love entails.Thank you for the piece.

  • Joy

    True love is unconditional and this poem said it all. I pray that God will help us show true love in our relationships. God bless you Aunty!!!

    • Edith Ohaja

      Amen to your prayer and may God bless you more, my dear, in Jesus’ name.

    • Achebe Winifred

      Yes, thats right, Joy!
      But the only unconditional and true love i know now is the love of my mother and Father.
      Thank you, Aunty Edith, for this beautiful poem.

  • Joy

    Amen to that prayer



  • Rita

    A wonderful poem, so rich and true..through thick and thin, amen

  • Rachael Obiora

    i love this poem madam, what true love looks like. it’s a very interesting piece

  • Chikwado Ezeh

    Love is the greatest of all virtue. It knows no bounds.

  • muoka onyeka

    Good job ma..every morning, i ask my sef wat do i do?? Nd i jus remembered edith blog wich serves as d spiritual food to d soul..true love is loved, patience, understanding,and forgiving.

  • Ezeigwe Martin

    Absolutely true. True love can only exist when respect and tolerance become the bedrock of a relationship.

    • Edith Ohaja

      Right, Martin! Some people don’t realize how important respect is in a relationship until it is too late. You have to insist on and prayerfully fight for it. Some one said, “Even if you’re putting sugar into my mouth, if there’s no respect, it will be like punishment to me.” (The sugar is meant to represent the height of sweetness. No matter how pleasurable everything else is, if there’s no respect, there’ll be no appreciation of them.)

  • Amoke chinasa

    True love they said dont look for fault instead it overlooks it. keep it up, ma!

    • Edith Ohaja

      Me? I’m still a learner oh! Lol! But you’re right, true love is selfless and forbearing. Bless you, Chinasa!

  • Ugwu, Chinagorom Joseph

    Awesome! The poem being a love poem is completely romantic. It explores the love of a Husband (Richard) for his adorable Wife (Authy Edith) and the understanding, respect, sincerity, forgiving spirit, selflessness, consistency therein. The poet appreciates his willingness and desire to support and allow her opinions stand. As the poet highlights the consistency, permanence, altruism, of her husband’s love, she realizes with joy and Happiness that True Love is the engine behind all that.

  • okoronkwo osita chineme

    it is good to appreciate true love that shows you love your husband and i like it.

  • Abasibiangake

    This love thing shaa… This one for me smiling!?Then i can imagine what the recipient’s reaction will be?.
    LESSON LEARNT: It’s one thing to contrive to hurt someone back, it’s another thing to carry out the hurting act itself.
    Well done ma!

    • Edith Ohaja

      Well, I think it’s safer not to plan it at all. The devil is very wicked. We may plan on supposition only to find ourselves carrying it out even if it’s just for the heck of it. But the results are never pleasant.

  • Odigbo Chidinma

    Hmm….the kind of love that depicts God’s love for his church. Even when we go wrong, open arms still await us. I like this!

    • Edith Ohaja

      Me, I like it more. Lol! Bless you, Chidinma!

    • I like it morest……Chidinma ifugoya? Say ‘yes’ to my proposals if you want to be able to write a poem like this some day. loooool (I can look for trouble in Africa). You people better tell Aunty E. to block me kikikikikikikikiki lol…..seriously wish my computer has emoji

      • Edith Ohaja

        I like wetin I dey hear, only say u no dey serious. (Chudinma, no mind am.) Come borrow emoji from me. Lol!

  • Umeremadu Chetachukwu Esther

    Nice poem, especially for this beautiful love season. The mutuality that exist in the union is reflected in the peom. Thanks to uncle Richard for demonstrating the real Christian fellow he is by loving his wife(Aunty Edith). No domineering spirit at all. Hmmmm, that lovely uncle.
    I love this poem and I wish for all these spices in my own future union #lol#. Nice one Aunty, thanks for using simple words for easy understanding.

    • Edith Ohaja

      Lol, spices! That’s a good one! I pray the Lord grants you more than you desire in Jesus’ name. And you’re superbly blessed, Chet!

  • Irumekhai Mariam

    Superb! God is love. We must show true love…

  • Ahubaraezeama J.C (sirchuks)

    Can one really find true love? how can we find and maintain such? Aunty you av open the heart nd minds of many, helping them in their daily affairs, keep it up. True love is the ultimate transcendantal love which can only be found in God… He is the ultimate reality, the unmoved mover.

    • Edith Ohaja

      I agree, JC! The love of God is above all others and through His love, we learn to love Him and people in our lives. Bless you!

  • victor chukwudi udeh

    love is something that should be appreciated by any living soul irrespective of culture and tradition. It goes with soul,spirit and mind of both parties involved, without prejudice and conditions. For ME, true love doesn’t consider obstacles and consequences. It is Holy affection. thanks Ma.

  • walter nkemakonam onukwue

    True love strengthens every weakness….

  • Ebere ANIOKE

    Its indeed a good thing to be loved unconditionally. But ma u make some of us who r single jealous and wonder if our prince charming will find us. U said it all tank u ma.

  • Ebere ANIOKE

    Tank u ma for the poem.

  • Ebere ANIOKE

    Tank u very much ma. But we the singles are waiting for our prince charming that will love us unconditionally like ur hubby. Pray for us too. Nothing gives joy than being in love with your soulmate.

    • Edith Ohaja

      Prayer is important, my dear, but you also need to be sensitive to know where God is leading you and be willing to obey Him. May the Lord give you a fulfilling marital relationship when the time comes in Jesus’ name.

  • shalom oparaugo

    This is a very wonderful poem Ma.

  • It is superbly delivered i must say. true love is not domineering. It is shared between the parties involved. That is exactly the kind of love Christ had for the church. it was purely unconditional. I pray God to give me the heart to love like he did. many thanks to Uncle Richard for this perfect example.

  • Asogwa Emmanuel C.

    True love sees only the good side of the loved. Just as the bible says “he that finds a wife, found a good thing and obtaineth favor from the lord” i wish that God will bless me with this kind of Richard’s wife when the time comes


    love is what maketh a family. where there is love in a family, they drink with one cup and always look forward to becoming great.Note all things walketh together to those that love Christ, also the constant love of God is better than life itself psalm 63;3.. all this is to emphasize what true love is,i pray thee ma that you should also love him more.thank u

  • Kalaowubo Rebecca Ibinabo

    Love is patient, caring, kind nd felt most when it is a genuine one… My sweet mum and aunty this is a very nice piece and I pray that God would also give us true husbandssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

  • odo chidera

    love is something good if only we find the right person..
    the poem said it all love doesn’t retaliate but forgives.
    love gives one reasons to continue and not to breakup
    I pray God gives me the right person when the time comes..

  • Nnamani Frankline Chinedu

    This poem is Romantic, inspiring. I love it. Why I wish this is coming directly from the one I ….. Anyway, all this same. I pray some day some time I ll still hear such from….

    • Edith Ohaja

      Slow down guy, lol! Your time is coming, my dear. You will be celebrated in due season in Jesus’ name.

  • Praising God for the love that He has given us by loving us first. You share love so beautifully. So thankful for His boundless love.

    • Edith Ohaja

      Thanks a great deal, Linda! Yes, His boundless love makes everything else fall in place for us, hallelujah! You are highly blessed in Jesus’ name.

  • Eze Benjamin Oduma

    Relationship has its ups and downs, hard times and happy moments, love covers them all, it’s enviable! Wishing You an unfading married life and love in Jesus Name, Amen

  • Odiase Erico Osazee

    waooo. this poem is really a capsule to all of us who seek true love.

  • Chukwuma Nkemjika

    Nice one ma…. Was actually imagining if such true love can be found in this present tym.

  • Nnamani Frankline Chinedu

    D love of God is so great and marvelous, i wish we all will embrace it at Dis time in our life. D LOVE OF God has been shed abroad in our hearts. Pls Dear Reader, are u among? I love dis post. It really depicts d kind of Love God has for His Church.

    • Edith Ohaja

      Thank you, Frankline, for that crucial question. It’s not enough that God loves us, we need to respond to His love. You are blessed!

  • Ogechi

    Finally, I’ve long waited for this confession . I love the poem, very simple, understanding in terms of the choice of words. I pray enerstly for your union to continue to blossom
     ? Sweet Home ✨
    Also, for I and my generation and more to come ,that we’ll wait and pray for our true life mates.
    And conclusively,for the grace to wait for our main groom ..Christ on his return. To be found faithful and not cheaters

  • Anyaka Osmond Ifeanyi

    So many wonderful comments on this poem and I strongly agree with the comments made especially the one from Jennifer and also d reply you gave to Martin.. People don’t believe in true love but true love really exists and this poem has shown that. I love the way the poem was written.. The words used were clear to me. And I will want to drop this again
    # True love exists

  • I hope my wife writes me a poem! Congratulations sir.
    Aunty E., this is beautiful!

  • All thee alpha males, come and see the definition of true love o. All thee ‘nagging naggers’ take note also. Nice one ma! This poem makes me want to marry tomorrow, but this economic recession just gave me a reality check.

  • Ugwu patience

    True love,,,you can hardly find that in this generation. I pray God bless us the way He has blessed you so that we will be happy in our marriages too.

  • ngozi Okoro

    Love conquers no matter what ?

  • keswet mercy

    ma i love this!!! amazingly written!!

  • Charles Emmanuella

    Love means that you accept a person with all their failures and stupidities. Love in general is seeing perfection in imperfection itself.

  • Emekaobi Ijeoma rita

    An interesting piece.well do e ma

  • Okpe Nnedinso

    This is really nice..I believe that true love exist and the one God has destined for you will always find you..bless you ma.

  • Yes, true love is really selfless. Thanks to uncle Richard for the love. Well done ma.

  • Okoye chidi

    True luv is a gift frm God, true luv is nt jst in relationship bt also hw u treat ppl around u. show luv to the needy nd help does in need.

  • Uba Chiemerie Jane

    It is indeed the way true love is to be expressed. Standing strong for each other, believing in each other’s dreams and working towards reaching that goal. Wonderful one Ma.

  • Don munez

    Love like no other, hard to find but it warms the heart when found. Nice one, keep touching lives. God bless you


    see love “wa tin tin”…..my future hubby had better write a piece as good as this oooo

  • Ugezu Chisolum

    “You pray about it when i hurt you
    You don’t contrive to hurt me back”……this line has said it all. Very interesting piece. Sure it portrays how Jesus loves not only the church but the whole world. May the love of Christ find us…Amen.